csab - I am breastfeeding. I had very sore nipples with some grazes when I first started, but since then I haven't been sore. My problem has been that I often have to wake Maya for a feed! Then once she's awake I can't get her to go back to sleep and I have to constantly feed every couple of hours. I've worried about whether she's getting enough to eat actually, because when she's awake for a long time she'll often suck her hands or me, but maybe that's comfort sucking?! I just find it hard to know if I'm doing things right or not. Also I find it takes me about an hour to feed with my routine of feed, change and feed. How long do other people spend breastfeeding?

hippiemummy - Good to hear you are doing so well.

SamiH - I keep not napping during the day.. and every night think 'tomorrow I should have a nap' and then never do! I do need to take your advice to rest up!

Tanstar - I've been going through the same type of thoughts of 'things didn't go to plan'.. I cried for a couple of days when I got home about my c/s experience. I feel like I didn't get to birth my baby, someone else did it! I don't even know what it feels like to start labour - waters breaking, contractions, etc and I feel like I missed out on something. Plus the c/s was so quick and I wasn't even told that they had started. So I was still waiting for them to start, when I heard a baby cry and they showed me a baby saying it was mine. It took me a while to connect that the baby they were showing me was mine, which I find so sad that I didn't know she was mine to begin with. And then I was extremely sick for two days and missed out on the first two days of her life. I have since moved on and know that what matters is that I have my daughter and she is safe and well. But it still upsets me to think I didn't get to experience the labour I wanted.

AmandaJ - Sounds like you are managing well with 5 kids!

kuraiza - I'm finding it really overwhelming too. I have no idea what I'm doing either!! And even though I have family around in Melbourne, they aren't helpful at all (they sound like your in-laws). So I feel like I'm on my own. I found out a mother's group starts here on the 12th November, so I'm really looking forward to that!! I think getting out and meeting other women in the area will be very helpful.