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That's how I felt too. I bought a dummy for Jude because he loves to comfort suckle and he sucks his fists, the paediatrician told me in hospital you can always take a dummy away but you can't take away thumbs, so we tried it. It helped to settle him last night (at last).She seems to not want to sleep - she gets these big wide eyes. But then I think she gets over tired and can't cope so cries until she can settle down for sleep, which can last for hours
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My DH wants to try and avoid dummies if possible. So at the moment we are trying to settle her without them. But I do have some ready to use - just in case!
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hi girls!
Yay Kurazia for twinnies ! lol
Bekz thanks for the welcome!
Well i am slowly getting used to the world of a newborn and a 16 month old.
It is hard being so tired in the morning. I tried to put DS in his cot at night in his room but crys so much. So for now we are co sleeping and DH is in the spare room - which works well as he gets sleep, and looks after DD if she wakes and i get the bed to myself!
DS is waking all hours no routine at night yet. Sleeping well during the day lol!
As for dummies... i held off the dummy with DD for 5 weeks and it was a godsend when i finally gave in... the sleep was soooo much better as she didnt need my boob to settle!!
Trying to give DS one in the hope it would happen with im too ... lol but nope! he wont take it!!! rah!
Hollye - if you check back in... eventually i think the threads become babies born october 2008.....
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I didn't want to use dummies either. I was mostly worried it would affect how he attaches, but since attachment isn't an issue and the comfort suckling is, I gave it a try. I feel bad giving him a dummy because I think "what if he wants something else and I'm not giving him what he actually needs" but he would reject the dummy and keep crying if he wanted something else. I swaddle his hands down and I think it frustrates him that he can't suck his fists, so the dummy calms him and he falls asleep within a few minutes. It's made a big difference to settling him.
Also, I just rubbed some avocado oil baby lotion on him after a bath (his skin was peeling on his hands and feet) and I wonder if that helped settle him because after a quick booby topup he was out like a light.
Why doesn't your husband want you to use a dummy? I'm just interested because I think usually it's the woman who objects and the man who can't see anything wrong with it.
Jude sleeps like a champion, so much so that I have to wake him up to feed him so it's easy for me to get sidetracked and forget to wake him (or want to sleep for 4 hours straight after a 2-hour feed), so some days we only get 5 feeds in a 24-hour period and I am a bit worried if he's eating enough. Wouldn't he wake up and cry if he was hungry? Am I being a bad mum? I'll take him for a weigh in 2 days and see if he's gained weight since hospital. I hope so, he's so skinny.DS is waking all hours no routine at night yet. Sleeping well during the day lol!
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Is anyone else suddenly getting bombarded by medical bills (pathology, paediatrician etc) 2 weeks after their baby was born? When do they think I have the time to look at these things and why didn't my private health insurance automatically take care of it?
Bleh, I think I've already lost half the bills in the chaos that is my living room. I didn't expect this $600 bill from the paediatrician who has charged me for every time he popped in for 5 minutes to say hello in hospital.
Itsme: My mum gave me some excellent settling techniques. We had a hell of a night the other night when Jude was awake from his 7.30pm feed until midnight! But last night was bliss!
For squirming unsettled baby: Hold your baby to your body really firmly and let them fight you (Jude declares out-right war on me). Let them squirm and whinge and complain, but keep holding them tightly until they calm down then hold on some more until they've been calm for at least a few minutes.
For wide-eyed but quiet baby: Swaddle baby and rock in arms, keep rocking even if they finally shut their eyes.
I've done both, but the first one was particularly effective. I hadn't tried persevering through a severe case of the grumps, but Jude got tired of fighting wars with me quickly and fell asleep easily after that.
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kuraiza - My DH actually isn't against giving her a dummy, but wants to wait and see if it really is necessary. At the moment we find most unsettled periods are during the day, which is easier to cope with than at night. But we are both willing and ready to use dummies if we need them! And thanks for the advice on unsettled babies. Somehow my DH discovered the first method the other night and it worked so well for us. I need to try the wide-eyed quiet baby one though, cos a lot of the time she'll be wide awake during the day.. show no signs of tired.. but suddenly become a screaming baby! I think she wants to be awake and then just suddenly is too over-tired!
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Hi girls.. I'm thinking I should join this group. My baby buddies group is hard to compare with. All their babies are smiling and doing all the typical things a 8week old babies does, though Byron is really only 1 week, he is 7 weeks behind. All his milestones will be compared to with his corrected date, which would be the same as your babies. Do you's think that it's a better idea for me to hang here?
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You were with us in the due date thread so we've grown accustomed to you
Hang where YOU feel most comfortable!
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