I know, it is sooo frustrating ! One of the (many) lessons I learned from K (oh the lessons...) is that consistancy is the key. Choose a strategy and stick with it. If you choose to be firm with him and settle him in another way, then keep it up each night so that he gets the message. Myles is a smart little cookie, so if you aren't consistant the next night, he'll try it again . It will take a lot of perseverence from you, but it will pay off. What feels like an eternity while you're in the midst of it, may only take a few nights. And when it starts working you will be so glad you stuck it out.
It's such a shame that your DH can't take him like you said so Myles doesn't have access to you. Does he have to leave at midnight? I guess he would in his line of work. You are doing a great job, tired mummy. You will get through this and you aren't alone, we are here to support you, hug you (well, cyber hug ) and cheer you on .
Trish what can I say thank you so very much! I am going to be consistant with him starting from tonight! And I know you will keep tabs so I wont be able to slip up lol!
Thanks girls for all your support I hope one day I can do the same for you! Mwah!!!
I'll definitely be keeping tabs on you LOL! But only coz I care . If you're feeling like you can't do it any more, you let us know so we can keep encouraging you .
Oh, and set yourself a goal. Maybe something like: I'll try this strategy for xxx number of nights (it will be tiring at first, so make yourself mentally prepared for that) and if it doesn't work (but it will ), then I will try something else. Most habits with bubs can take anywhere from 3 to 14 days to form if that gives you a rough idea. Setting a goal makes it easier to keep going on.
Good luck tonight, I'll be thinking of you and praying for ya .
Gosh I missed out on a megga conversation and didn't get to put my two bobs worth in!
Amber Chicky I am with Trish BIG TIME on this. Consistency is the key. I was in your boat not long ago with Max and the overnight bfing. I was tired, grumpy....max was tired and grumpy...DH was completely copping it...life was well....$hite and I wasn't UTD!! THEN I decided...tonight I will cut out one feed (coz Max was waking at the same times every night for a 'snack'). It felt like hell on earth. He woke....I said "No boobie, it's all gone" and he scrrrrreeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaammmmed!!! I just held him, and rocked him until he fell asleep again. The next night he didn't wake at that timeslot, but if he woke for another at the other timeslot....I would boob him up. Then I decided the next week, I would cut out the other feed....he did the scream thing again, and after I think 2 nights, he didn't bother with it at all. At this point I was co-sleeping with him on the spare bed...so DH was in one room and I was in another! Once I was done (well max was done) with bfing...I had to do the next thing which was no more co-sleeping. As you know I took the rails off Max's cot and he likes that much better. At first I would get a foam mattress and put it on the floor in his room, and if he woke up, I would tell him to lie back down....and he would go back to sleep. Eventually I could go back to my own room and he would sleep without me in there. Max WILL still wake everynight, once or twice....pretty much only coz he's lost his dummy, or he's hot/cold. At times I think he even does it just to check I'm still around and I DO lie in his bed with him (lets remember it was a COT at one point and I weigh 72kg!!!!!) and it comforts him enough to go back to sleep and I can leave again.
So...even though I've spilled my whole story on the matter....the point is....be consistent and do one thing at a time. Do it slowly and do it your own way. It will end!
LET US SUPPORT YOU!!! HUGS xoxo
Trish You are a special woman That is all!!
Well....Singapore was great! It was so clean and pretty but bl00dy HOT and muggy! Blergh! We found an area we like there called Clarke Quay/Robertson Quay and found an apartment complex around that area that we liked. It's brand new and pretty schmick! It should for about $7k a month (good thing DH's work is paying for this!) We havent signed anything up yet but at least we have a start. We still don't know when things are going to be really happening, but I'm guessing that DH will have to be up there before me so he can set up a bit and I can tie loose ends here. We'll be renting out our place and I'll be moving some essential things to my Mums place so we have a base for when we come back for visits.
Max loved it there...he was pretty cruisy the whole time. Apart from the day we went apartment hunting and he was SOOO tired and hungry by the end of the day....poor little mite! When we first got to the hotel (we were on the 55th floor), I went out onto the balcony and said "Wow"....well, that was it...Max's new word is "WOW" ALLLL the time! It's pretty damn cute I must say. He's a big fan of fried rice and quay teow (sp?!) so I think he'll embrace the asian culture! I'll put some pics on fb soon!
Well that's it from me! Hi to everyone! (Mo love your new pics of your kiddlies!)
Oh and I forgot one thing.....Amber I figured out once I slept on Max's mattress that it was really uncomfortable....so I got him a bit of foam and put in on top of the mattress. It's softer and warmer and obviously more comfy for him too
Thanks Julia ! Sounds like you will love singapore!
Last night was interesting. He went to sleep with a bit of fuss and then woke not long after I came to bed. I tolld him to go back to sleep and he wouldnt he cried and climbed all over me! Once he had kinda woken up a bit and calmed down i asked him if he would like some water which he shook his head then DH sadi do you want daddy to get you some milk which he drank and went to sleep! So there is a little progress!
I cannot thank you al enough for helping us! It will be a long and hard road but I know it will be ok!
Amber i agree with Trish consistency is the key, I used to sit in Maddi's room beside her cot reading Twilight till she feel asleep every night for ages, but after a few days she went to sleep quicker & quicker each time.
So glad last night went better
Julia Glad you had a good trip.
Phil is working with his Dad today so I'm stuck with one little feral & one little Angel.
Yep it's only 8:17 & Maddi is already giving me attitude, I'm in for a loooong day.
! One of the (many) lessons I learned from K (oh the lessons...) is that consistancy is the key. Choose a strategy and stick with it. If you choose to be firm with him and settle him in another way, then keep it up each night so that he gets the message. Myles is a smart little cookie, so if you aren't consistant the next night, he'll try it again
. It will take a lot of perseverence from you, but it will pay off. What feels like an eternity while you're in the midst of it, may only take a few nights. And when it starts working you will be so glad you stuck it out.
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That's awesome progress!!! If you keep that up, he'll get better and better each night. This will be a thing of the past in no time 
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