Yules - I have told T we're going to buy a sticker chart and she's really excited! I think it will wor wonders. I must say though she's been soooo good today, even while we were out shopping she was a doll. I really am very lucky, she could be a lot worse, I just think she's a busy kid and does get bored sometimes as you said. I just have to get her away from the house EVERY day and that is a bit of a problem, it just can't happen but I do my very best to take her for a walk every day when the weather allows! Hmmm I'd see red if someone took it upon themselve to pick up my crying baby after I put her down. You really need to talk to her, I think when it comes to your children you should never allow anyone to interfer, especially when they live with you! If it was a visitor you might consider biting your tongue, but not in your situation. I'm sure she'll understand and step back from the little people!