Oh Captain that's rough. I feel for you hun. I don't think you are alone. We have been extremely lucky with Emily and I don't take any of the credit for it I think its just her. So don't feel its anything you can do, you are doing everything in your control you can to make the conditions right for her to sleep, the rest is up to her. I'm not really sure what else you can do, so I'll just offer more hugs and sleep vibes.
Saying that we didn't have a great night last night either, She was awake from 2-3.30 and i'm not really sure why. All I can put it down to is that we did use a different wrap that she could get her arms out of and I think it made a big difference. She has nearly grown out of her miracle wrap which keeps her more secure. Tho she sleeps during the day with her arms out. DH just slept through all her noises which really frustrated me.
I think she is getting to big to wrap at all but now i'm worried she won't sleep as well as she has been without wrapping. She still startles herself awake.
Does anyone use grobags? I have one but haven't tried it yet.