Babies Born September 2007 #42

[Ginger]

md- yah on the dyson it will change your life.


ok, well good times have turned bad in sydney...but not in the way we all expected...

dh told his parents about our marriage and he reckons thay took it quite well. mil had a shocked look on her head but was too scared to actually say anything. he reckoned she has been absolutely walking on eggshells around him and will not do anything to risk upsetting him. apparantely fil and bil have both been on her back about not being so mean all the time to everyone. when dh first got to their house on xmas day, a couple of bil's friends popped around for a visit. after they left, mil started saying -'gees, how bad did C and R look?"- total biatch that she is. with that, everyone gave her a dirty look and bil started getting stuck into her. apparantely she said 'i know, i know, i just can't help myself. i'm so mean!' ah hah, maybe just maybe, some of the message is starting to get through....
anyway, dh and both his parents had a chat about the situation with me. dh basically told her that i don't want anything to do with her anymore as she has treated me very inappropriately. from now on, she needs to deal with him directly- whcih means not calling the house phone but calling his mobile directly. they are to keep well away around the birth of the new baby and will never be staying at our house again. obviousely thay can arrange to come down to melbourne to visit, but will need to organise their own accomodation. she said she wanted to ring me to apologise for harsh things she said- he told her not to even bother as it was fruitless...
ok...so they are happy that they now know where things stand. basically we don't get along and so to avoid conflict she needs to keep away from me.

sorry for long massive selfish vent post, but have to get all this off my chest.

so....turns out that dh spent saturday night in jail.
yes, you read that right, in jail.
he got in a fight with some bouncers at a pub and ended up getting beaten up and eye gauged and charged with assault and damaging property.
great...
now he has to go back to sydney to face court on 20 jan.
he is obviousley really upset about the whole thing, as am i. he could have ended up in a coma or even killed david hookes style. he never ever gets in trouble like this in melbourne. he just slips back into old cultures, crowds, ways of life etc. when he gets back amongst those sydney boys. he is dying to get home. (sorry no offense to syd people, it's not sydney itself, more the lifestyle that he used to be a part of when he lived there iykwim? sydney itself is beautiful
his words exacltly were 'this is why i had to get out of sydney'

and through it all- mil still can't see how good i am for her son. how much he has achieved since moving down here. how it was the best thing that ever happened to him getting away from all that. she's still so bitter about the move. why can't she see it's not about her???? it's about what's best for him!

ahhhhh. thanks for letting me get it all out. i'm still stunned by everything. don't know how i'm going to react to him when he gets home tonight. not sure how to feel about the whole thing. apparentley he is beaten up pretty badly and not in a good way..