Babies Born September 2007 #42

**Isadora** · December 28th, 2008, 08:03 PM

Clare - Bummer. We feel the same way as you and your DH, we are both terribly clucky atm but are thinking the bigger the age gap the better. Some people like having their kids close but I think I need a bit of a decent gap myself lol.

Leemar - Yes she did get married in Vegas the lucky girl. I'm dreaming of a Vegas wedding but it will never happen!!

Trillian - Just read a really sad story about a young boy who was killed on a farm by a grass slasher today. Do you ever worry about the kids getting too close to farming tools etc? Sorry to bring that up but just felt a bit shook up after reading that!!

**AnyDream** · December 28th, 2008, 08:32 PM

yes I have decided to whip out the bikini this summer because life is too short to worry about the baby belly

Big round of applause from MD!!!

OK, everything I learnt about Splaydes was in the 1970's at my Nanna's house. She was cool once so I guess it was only time before history repeated itself in cutlery. If they are Kook Clare that will explain why Harris Scarfe SOLD OUT before xmas (drat *stomps foot*).

Leanne - what a lovely surprise the rings must've been! Are you getting excited as well as nervous about your trip?

Cally - oh no!! on the pox front. Definitely wait until you get crustiness to reach a conclusion though. Chickenpox is a bummer, you can't really go anywhere it's so contagious. PMSL at the ToysRUs moment! We most definitely have toddlers these days. DD1 nearly had a breakdown in the same store yesterday as she had a gift voucher to spend LOL. Too much to chose from.

Clare -

at your massive BigW self checkout tanty - I must've been picking up on your subconscious psychic imprint when I had mine at the same place. PMSL. Soooo glad I'm not the only person who can be made incoherent with rage by automation. I'm not a luddite either, love my technology ... but only when it makes life EASIER (as opposed to CHEAPER for the multinationals!!!)

I've got to say how much I'm loving the 100% entertainment value we're getting from MIssy E at the moment. Not only does she listen and carry out our instructions (!) she's also branching out on the talking front. Everything's "pretty", there are millions of "doggies" (animals) everywhere we go, and she has this (cute now but not for long I imagine) habit of saying "mine" whenever she picks up one of her new dollies. This last one having been learnt from another little doll-possessive girly at day care LOL.

Oh, I have a big announcement to make...(saved the best til last).

....I am....

...the very proud.....

owner....

of a DYSON! WOOHOO! TDE (Total Dyson Envy) cured for good. Only 400 buckaroonies at Hardly Normal's so we did good I think. (Thanks, Kev

). Rainy I know you'll be sooo proud of me! Also scored some wildly marked down canape plates and platter with a twee design on it, and a new toastie maker, knife block. All ready for my new home! But no splaydes anywhere in sight.

**Leemar** · December 29th, 2008, 03:04 AM

MD- WTG on the Dyson and what a bargin too. Yep I am very nervous about the trip and sort of going into panic mode. Never been overseas before or on a plane for more than 3 hrs and never with kids either so it is sure to be an experience.

**Ginger** · December 29th, 2008, 07:04 AM

md- yah on the dyson

it will change your life.

ok, well good times have turned bad in sydney...but not in the way we all expected...

dh told his parents about our marriage and he reckons thay took it quite well. mil had a shocked look on her head but was too scared to actually say anything. he reckoned she has been absolutely walking on eggshells around him and will not do anything to risk upsetting him. apparantely fil and bil have both been on her back about not being so mean all the time to everyone. when dh first got to their house on xmas day, a couple of bil's friends popped around for a visit. after they left, mil started saying -'gees, how bad did C and R look?"- total biatch that she is. with that, everyone gave her a dirty look and bil started getting stuck into her. apparantely she said 'i know, i know, i just can't help myself. i'm so mean!' ah hah, maybe just maybe, some of the message is starting to get through....
anyway, dh and both his parents had a chat about the situation with me. dh basically told her that i don't want anything to do with her anymore as she has treated me very inappropriately. from now on, she needs to deal with him directly- whcih means not calling the house phone but calling his mobile directly. they are to keep well away around the birth of the new baby and will never be staying at our house again. obviousely thay can arrange to come down to melbourne to visit, but will need to organise their own accomodation. she said she wanted to ring me to apologise for harsh things she said- he told her not to even bother as it was fruitless...
ok...so they are happy that they now know where things stand. basically we don't get along and so to avoid conflict she needs to keep away from me.

sorry for long massive selfish vent post, but have to get all this off my chest.

so....turns out that dh spent saturday night in jail.
yes, you read that right, in jail.
he got in a fight with some bouncers at a pub and ended up getting beaten up and eye gauged and charged with assault and damaging property.
great...
now he has to go back to sydney to face court on 20 jan.
he is obviousley really upset about the whole thing, as am i. he could have ended up in a coma or even killed david hookes style. he never ever gets in trouble like this in melbourne. he just slips back into old cultures, crowds, ways of life etc. when he gets back amongst those sydney boys. he is dying to get home. (sorry no offense to syd people, it's not sydney itself, more the lifestyle that he used to be a part of when he lived there iykwim? sydney itself is beautiful

his words exacltly were 'this is why i had to get out of sydney'

and through it all- mil still can't see how good i am for her son. how much he has achieved since moving down here. how it was the best thing that ever happened to him getting away from all that. she's still so bitter about the move. why can't she see it's not about her???? it's about what's best for him!

ahhhhh. thanks for letting me get it all out. i'm still stunned by everything. don't know how i'm going to react to him when he gets home tonight. not sure how to feel about the whole thing. apparentley he is beaten up pretty badly and not in a good way..

**Trillian** · December 29th, 2008, 07:14 AM

Leanne, are you flying at night or through the day? I'm sure the boys will be too excited to worry about being norti

MD, sounds like you've made yourself right at home over there hitting the shops already ROFL. Bargain buy on the dyason though. Bummer about the Splayds. Miss E sounds just delightful. How is H settling in? I hope she's not worried about the whole new school thing......

H, great to hear you got the dress! I love Ladybird brand and I brought so many dresses for the girls from Myer when they were little.

I don't mind you asking about it H. We are always super careful when it comes to stuff like that because those types of accidents happen so fast and are ALWAYS preventable. There are times when DH wont let the kids go with him at times when it is either going to be hard to watch them 100% or if it is dangerous, particularly if they are moving machinery or handling chemical etc. We have safety covers around all our PTO shafts on machinery (they are the bits that spin at super fast rates to drive ploughs and slashers etc as there have been so many accidents from people getting clothes caught in them and losing arms and legs etc. We will let the kids on the tractor with DH or his Dad, but never on the header/harvester (cause those things can go up in flames VERY easily if the weather is right and the last thing you need is to be getting a child off there too). I never let the kids go with BIL though as he is so irresponsible and totally ignorant about that sort of thing. He will let his nearly 3yo go on the header with him (mostly cause his slack-ass stupid wife thinks its fun and the whole McLeod's Daughters thing and that's what farm kids should do) and play in the hopper when the auger is going which is stupid beyond comprehension, and his DS is a bugger of a child with no respect for anything and will not listen when you tell him no, so we do expect that sometime in the near future that something bad will happen to him if BIL doesn't grow some balls and brains and not let him go with him. As for slashers, even DH hates having to use one and when he's slashing all the grass outside the house yard he makes the kids all go inside because those blades move fast and just the rocks they flick up are enough to really hurt you. Hearing about children who die doing something that could have been preventable make me really sad and angry - sad that it happened when it didn't have to happen and angry that these things are so easliy avoided and it makes it hard for the rest of us who do the right thing with new regulations etc. Just before Christmas there was a family in Gunnedah who lost on of their twins (they had 4 boys under 5) because all of them got into the chemical

- totally preventable and now they have to live with knowing that had they just locked the chemical away where they couldn't get it they would still have their child. Sorry for the epic, but it's something we have to live with and think about every day to make sure the kids stay safe.

**Trillian** · December 29th, 2008, 07:21 AM

OH Gracie!

You poor thing. That's awful to have that to worry about, but it sounds like he is totally repentant about it, poor guy, I guess things just brewed up in him and he wasn't thinking clearly either. At least he stood his ground with him Mum and I hope it gave her some food for thought. Its bloody scary to think about what could have happened so try not to OK? You'll only get yourself all worked up and you don't need that. He's probably going to look a hell of a lot worse than he really is, so don't let that make you think it's really really bad when you first see him, it sounds like it was all superficial though. I hope all goes well when he goes to court too, surely there are more than enough extenuating circumstances to show that this is completely out of character for him.

**AnyDream** · December 29th, 2008, 11:33 AM

Well Rainy I"m going out on a limb to say I think the hard work he put in laying it on the line with MIL shows a lot of strength of character AND wisdom so in a way it cancels out the silly bouncer episode. Because that sort of thing can unfold in a comedy of errors kind of way. It's good that he's upset and remorseful, much better than angry and not taking responsibility for what he's done, Kwim? Give him a big hug before you tear shreds off him!!

Trill, yes I spare you a thought out there on the farm whenever I hear about a farm accident. Sounds like you're very careful (as we knew you would be) but geez that must make you angry about your BIL.

Leanne, just relax and go with the flow. All told the travelling is really only a day out of your life and the benefits of going places and seeing and doing things far outweighs the strains of travelling. Why is why you're going!!

**Cassius2** · December 29th, 2008, 02:53 PM

hi girls!

Rainy: oh big hugs comin' your way

. I guess this trip for your DH was a really big emotional vortex for him, and unfortunately with a bit of happy juice in his belly, the built up anxiety about the front-off with his mum found an avenue of 'expression' at the local pub. it really sux, i am sorry that it had to happen. i hope that he is ok and the court hearing goes as well as possible.

on the mil front, it sounds like at least there is some finality at the very least. yay for your dh and your family! it must have been scary laying it out to her like that.

Sherie: yep we have one of the moron farm mob in our family. the have a dairy farm and are sooooo careless about chemicals and machinery it's not funny. they never (!) got rid of the outlawed stuff and it sits there still today. the number of 'accidents' they have had is not funny. i refuse to go there now, and miss L will never see the place. i have been to well managed farms and i know how good it can be, so seeing our family's place makes me sick. they think they are being tough and the like living the way they do...urrghh.

MD: woot woo on the dyson buy!! i saw on telly the other day that they were doing a 399 price!! how awesome is that?!!! i love my dyson.

Leanne: i hope you all have a wonderful time! you'll have to fill us in on the details (Including the flight management strategies LOL!). i am sooo jealous!!!!
in all honesty, it will be better than you think. the boys will probably be soo excited in the airport, that from what i have seen they kinda get tuckered out once the plane has taken off. you also get LOADS of freebies for the kids (colouring books and crayons). they'll love the little travel packs. also, there will be movies for them to watch and you are constantly being fed by the hostesses so that always provides cheap entertainment. you might find that they become obsessed with going to the toilet (so i recommend asking for a seat only a couple of rows from the toilet...sounds unappealing, but i soo prefer to be closer than far away and not knowing what the cue is like!! some good entertainment strategies is also trips to the water fountain (again near the toilets). they can fill up on loads of small cups of water LOL!
I also recommend packing a surprise bag for each of them (including bubs!). stuff they have never seen before and can be slowly brought out to entertain them.
other than that, lots of stoicism on your behalf and maybe some champagne! LOL!

AFM: not much happening here. L is teething (we think) as she is chewing on everything atm. and has been waking in the night.
we are pretty tired as a result, so have been trying to occupy ourselves out of the house as despite the glorious weather our poky vic terrace is dark as night....

**andie82** · December 29th, 2008, 03:40 PM

Till: thx for you thoughts. It does make it very confusing.

Rainy: I wish my ex had the courage your DP does to stand up to his mother. Sorry to hear bout the brawl etc. Hope everything goes okay for you guys there.,

Leanne: you will be fine on our trip. Hope you have a gr8 3 weeks away.

Cally: hope you enjoyed your dinner & fingers X'd it wasn't chicken pox

hmm, boys are fighting ATM & I'm not sure wat about really, considering Alex is sitting right beside me.

bbl .. boys dinner is ready

**Junglemum** · December 29th, 2008, 06:06 PM

Well it has been a little hectic, but happy belated festive season to you all.

MM- That boy falling under the tractor was so sad to hear about, farming equipment scares me. DH lost his thumb in a post driver and he is always so careful. It can just turn bad so quickly. I never let Lu out on the machinery with DH, she goes moving cattle in the ute but not on the tractor. Don't let all the wedding hooha get to ya. No matter what happens the day will come and go so run with i say!

Trill- I can NOT believe someone lets a kid in a hopper with an auger running??!

That is just stupid.

G-

Man it hasn't been the best festive season for you so far. Sounds like you and DH need a mini-break holiday, or even better i got a voucher for indulge at immerse for chrissy, you could come with me for a pampering day.

It is great he told his mum how it is. Al least she knows now and with more than one person telling her, something has to sink in.
Poor DH and his beating. I feel your torn feelings. I would be so worried/mad/relived/angry all at once i wouldn't know how to react. But at least he is ok and knows he was a bit of a fool. Be nice to have him home.

We've had more gastro plus molars the last few days.

A little lacking in the sleep department. Have been down at my parents place by the beach so it has been nice to get away and have a bit of a hand with Lu, although the family were all crook with the bug too. Looks like we're coming out the other side though! wooohoooooo. thank goodness.

If i don't get back on here before the newyear, happy new years to all!

**Isadora** · December 29th, 2008, 08:08 PM

Rainy - Well I must say I am proud of your DH for sticking up for you and speaking up to his mother. He really did well, I couldnt ever see my DP speaking up to his. I think that is fair enough to tell them to come down to meet their new grandson, but not to think about staying with you, the last thing you need is to bring your newborn home to a hostile environment. Hopefully they wont barge in on the birth or anything, but I think your DH has made it clear to keep away lol. As for the jail incident, he really does sound remorseful. I'm so sorry that your MIL is such a mean person. Even though I couldnt call mine mean, she is just an annoying/take control person really, but I had always hoped that I would have a MIL I could have a good, understanding relationship with. So its a bit of a let down, as I imagine it is with you especially seeing as you no longer have your own mum to turn to.

Trillian - Good to hear you take all those precautions with farm machinery and chemicals. That poor little boy he was only 4, what a way to go. What a situation to witness!

As for the Gunnedah boy, was that the one on the news & they couldnt confirm what had happened to him? That must make you so angry knowing how irresponsible your BIL is with his kids, he should know better & I can understand why you never let your kids go with him.

Falguni - Oh no you lot have been through a rough patch! Did you pass the gastro on to the family or was it the reverse lol. How is your pregnancy coming along?

Clare - Hope you can get some sleep tonight!

MD - Well done on your Dyson bargain!

Well DP and I are off to the Perth Cup (like a mini Melbourne cup and everyone glams up) on New Yrs day...it will be 39 degrees!!!! I just sorted out my outfit before so getting excited now. We did have a bit of a babysitter dillema there for a bit, but the in laws have offered to take M. Only thing is, they are coming up on New Yrs Eve, so we are stuck with them that night & they will take M back down to their place (about 120 kms from ours) on New Yrs day as they are having a small party with friends, & she will then stay the night. SO I am looking forward to a full nights sleep but very nervous about her 1st sleep over with the in laws.

**Cally** · December 30th, 2008, 08:31 AM

Well no sign of pox here!! She did break out in an allover rash for a day, so maybe she had roseola. Anyway, all is good now. She's having a sleep and I'm going to have to go and wake her up soon as we were supposed to be meeting friends 30 mins ago. They knew I'd be late, but I don't want to be too late - haven't seen a couple of them for more than 2 years!!

Rainy - poor DH. Good on him for sorting out the MIL situation though.

MM - have fun at the races.

Leanne - I'm sure the plane trip will go fine, Be Prepared!!

Ange - glad you're starting to feel better, sucks being sick at Christmas doesn't it?

Have a great New Years everyone - what are you all up to? We are having a family bbq at my sisters, then will be home for my normal 9:30pm bedtime. I've never really got the point of New Years......

**Ginger** · December 30th, 2008, 10:53 AM

good morning girls

cally- family bbq sounds like a lovely way to spend nye. i have no idea what we're doing- prolly just staying in for pizza or something? we need to save all our money now with these new circumstances ggggrrrr
good news on the no pox

hayley- if the pil barge in on the birth, i will be calling hospital security to get them escorted out! no joke...i actually feel a lot more relaxed about this up-coming birth knowing that i don't have them breathing down my neck iykwim? last time i felt like they were just waiting to pounce. hopefully this means i don't have to get induced this time

yes it is a real let-down to have such an awful relationship with mil. i really hate it. i'm thinking i might work on developing a rel/ship with dh's aunty though (on his dad's side) as she has been absolutely lovely to us and even bought us a $500 cutlery set as a wedding gift, and wrote a card telling me how proud dh was when he told her we were married. made me cry!
the races sounds lovely but very hot! what are you wearing? how do you think maddie will go with the sleepover?

ange- i went to indulge a few weeks ago for a pedi

what are you going to have? i might have to take you up on the offer of joining you, if i can palm off L and sneak some money from dh

i'd kill for a facial and pg massage.

clare- yes i think alcohol has a lot to answer for, especially where my dh is concerned. i'm proud he stood up to his mil though and told her to keep away from me.
sorry you're not pg this time.
how is the house hunting going? any luck?

md- well i tried to give him a big hug but he's all battered and bruised and smelled so badly of alcohol that it made me sick!
how's the dyson going?

sherie- thanks for your support

i know i shouldn't think about what could've happened, i'm just so angry with him for getting involved in a totally avoidable and unecessary situation. we just don't need this sort of stuff in our lives. it's so immature and just plain stupid!
i wondered what had happened to those twin boys- onthe news they really didn't explain much about it, i wasn't sure if they'd been poisened on purpose or what. how horrible!

not much going on around here, just watching cricket and trying to come to terms with everything!

**Junglemum** · December 30th, 2008, 12:32 PM

MM- They were sharing the love this time. I think Dad got it off a client then shared it around. It's great to share but not your germs! lol. This time round it was not the vomitting, more the other end that was the issue, the ring burner bug we called it. lmao.

G- i got a voucher for the mum to be package, can't remember what it includes, preg massage, facial, pedi and fruit platter or something?! I'm not fussed about the massage (just got 2 off dad in two days, nice.) So was thinking facial, pedi and manicure, just so i'm looking super special! lol I'd love you to come along. Not sure when but we better not leave it too long. Heading down Geelong way for NYE will give you a buzz when we get back.

Cally- i think NYE is totally overrated too. We were doing nothing until friends with a bub similar age phoned up and invited us over for a bbq, i'll be lucky to make midnight though!

Came home with a car full of goodies, a new phone and aswering machine, TV set top box, back up hard drive, bbq, new bed for Lu with trundle plus two matresses, a pram and car seat on lay-by, as well as chrissy presents!!! Went nuts, I have been waiting for the sales to get it all and got some great deals so pretty happy about that.

As i said, heading down the coast for NYE. DH going water skiing and surfing with mates while i hang out on the banks/beach like a beached whale with the other preggo wife. It's days like that i hate being preggers!

Got to unpack from chrissy and repack to leave tomorrow.

**Artechim** · December 30th, 2008, 04:17 PM

Hi everyone. Hope you all had a fantastic christmas

Rainy, bummer about DH landing himself in jail! I wouldn't be very impressed with DH if he did that. Hope that your MIL stays out of your life and that time eases it for you. I still haven't talked to my friend from uni.

MD, so glad you are home, and a huge congrats on the Dyson!

Sorry, I had a quick skim through but don't have time to read everything.

W picked holiday time to get two molars, I can see the shadow of another and a canine is about to cut too so he hasn't been very happy. We stayed for a few nights at a beach just out of Dunedin which was lovely (bar the traditional christmas family shouting match lol). W loved the beach and spent hours down there. He seems to have grown up heaps lately and has started saying about 6 new words since we went away.

As for me, for christmas I got a book, a vase, a set of milkshake cups and.....

a BFP!!!!!!

A complete surprise because I thought we had missed the boat this month. Very early days though, so secret on FB.