Good question, first of all a really good friend very kindly suggested to me that I need never have to go through a labour like that again, that there are such things are C/Sections and you can ASK to have one. Then it was just a matter of waiting until the time felt right - TBH would love to have gone again when DD1 was about 4.5 but as it was I had just returned to work and I was enjoying having an income too much plus also thinking about doing some study to get me a really good career. What really happened was DH and I went away for a weekend in the Blue Mountains, totally fell stupidly in love with him all over again and realised that I wanted nothing more than to give him another baby.
MD - i am a little surprised that the doctors 9 yrs ago didn't suggest it to you. but i don't want to open that can up for you again, unless u do.
my DH and I were talking about another and i said absolutely no way. after a few more discussion i remembered that a friend was put out during the birth - so now i consider it an option again. my body is very resilient to drugs by the looks and i need a fair whack to not feel anything. i do miss the indispensible income sometimes, but love my DD to bits. How romantic u went to the Blue Mountains and fell i love again... that is such a nice memory. did u worry at all about your body being in any state to hold another child? i don't know whether i should b worried about making sure those stomach muscles have come back together. a physio at the baby expo a year ago said she would def recommend i do these sit ups to get them back in place b4 another one, and that the exercises would take a year b4 the muscles will b back to normal. it freaked me out and i haven't done any exercise except for walking since. do u think its worth worrying about? i have heard its difficult to get your body back the second time, especially if u have excess left from the first. i am still 10kgs heavier than b4 having T. i c u as my mentor on this, as i was pretty scared after T's birth.
gypsy - really? do u have a six pack when those muscles are together? maybe mine didn't even start off together LOL forgot to check on that one didn't I? HA HA.
MD - why is it SO worth it ONCE you have 'em in your arms. but the decision is so HUGE beforehand. weird isn't it?
I had a really badly managed induction in a small regional hospital where my pain levels and copingness was not monitored, the midwife should have retired a couple of decades previous cos she was no help at all. The midwives at TCH where I went to have DD2 could not believe what I told them happened at various stages of the labour. Once they put me onto the syntocinin it just got out of hand, the pain was literally too big for me, I stopped believing I was ever going to make it out of that room alive. I suspect DD was actually posterior based on what I remember of her being born, plus she had the cord wrapped around her neck, twice, her arm and her leg so at the end they were not interested in making sure I didn't tear etc but rather just getting her out QUICK. There's a thread about it here. Don't read it unless you're feeling brave!!!
Supa - More like a 'fat pack'! No I've never really had what you'd call a nicely toned tummy, but it wasnt too bad. I can definately feel the seperated muscles now though.
MD - WOW how scary, I feel your pain as reading your short little post about it here made me think back. M was posterior too and I also had a rough induction. 36 hrs later she was born! However the getting her out quickly part & not worrying about you, I shudder at that thought, poor you! I will be off to read your thread on it now.
Gypsy I am well aware that my first experience is right 'out there' in terms of being at the very extreme end of birthing experiences...so I try not to talk about it a lot. Don't want to put the younger players off, IYKWIM. Funny thing was I was such an advocate of natural, drug-free birth, had read all the books and done all the prep, I was pretty fearless going into it, but it wasn't to be for me. I actually think my body is wired a bit different to other peoples and you know what, in the end it doesn't matter. I'm here and I have two gorgeous girl to show for my efforts!
BTW I know what you mean about that first para - I do wonder if I would be keeping my breast if the GP had taken it more seriously after E was born. Even the clinical specialist ultrasound man had trouble finding the dodgey tissue and I *SHOULD* have been referred for a mammogram. Am seeing my wonderful new GP next week and I'm going to discuss with her whether I should write to that GP about it or not...
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