Thanks DB.

Yeah it's all pretty surreal. Yesterday was also my grandmas birthday and my aunt brought around a present that grandad had brought and put away before he died. My whole extended family now on both sides are hurting so much and it's just not fair. DH mum is a amazing beautiful lady and I hate seeing her like this. Plus my SIL too. And my mum and grandma hurting so much.
BIL was only 37 but unfort didn't take care of himself very well (he was morbidly obese) and I hope that the one thing that does come out of his death is family look at their lifestyles and see how they can change it for the better. Either way he was too young to die.