Babies Born ~ July 2012 #1

**CKJ** · August 12th, 2012, 08:28 PM

Hi ladies!

Haven't been ignoring you, just been so busy with newborn snuggles, a defiant little miss and also Uni! Im questioning why I am doing it to myself LOL (Have 2 assessments due tomorrow and with Jacob throwing a spanner in the works it left me rather behind!)

Things are going okay here, although I do miss having my belly to rest things on. It was very surreal leaving the hospital on Wednesday after he finally made his appearance. I'm still struggling with the decision around his sperm donor. Part of me is wanting to just ignore him, not put him down, not claim child support and be done with it, but then I see sense and think why should I be on struggle street when he played a part in this and should step up to his responsibility. First step is to speak to Child Support tomorrow and take it from there. As for future children, well a guy would have to be pretty spectacular to take me and 2 kids on, so who knows!

Hows everyone going with feeding? I lasted 1 breastfeed and then had to resort to bottles/formula. Heartbreaking but I had to make sure Jacob was actually getting nutrients (as a rebellious teen I had my nipple pierced and I could very rarely hand express anything out of it, and the other nipple he tore to shreds and wouldn't latch). He has his witching hour(s) at around 2am so is often awake for quite a while. Routine will start tomorrow as DD is back to school and we will all be out of bed early. I have to somehow get him out of wanting to feed every hour (small amounts, 10-20mls) and spread him out to 3-4 hourly.

Midwife came on Friday (heel *****) and today (weigh in) and said all is going well. He is slightly jaundiced which is very prominent in his eyes and can be seen down his chest, but thankfully not all the way down to hands/feet yet. He has also only lost 80g since birth, which is good.

Okay I think its time to stop procrastinating and finish these uni assessments. Will be back later and read through to do some personals and catch up on where everyone is.

**Nat82** · August 12th, 2012, 09:14 PM

cmkm - I don't know how you do it all - with uni too!! I hope it all goes well for you and whatever decision you make works well for you. My best friend since primary school ended up changing her phone number, so that her ex and father of first 2 children couldn't contact her. I think he wasn't really interested in the children anyway and with the way sperm donor has been acting, I don't blame you for feeling that way... I've persisted with b/feeding although, I am hating it already. I b/fed DS1 until he was 11 months, but I felt like a moo cow and really didn't enjoy it. I guess I just felt that I had too, but then there are kids in the playgroup who were formula fed and turned out to be healthier than kids who were b/fed til 12 months - but that's the whole feeding debate I guess...

lise - no I haven't posted in here yet (unless I have really bad baby brain lol). I don't think I've posted since the July belly buddies..

MummyNaomi - We have 3 frosties left this time and had none after DS1 too. I don't think we'll be using them at all as we are really happy with 2 boys (well I am and DH already has 2 boys and 2 girls from a previous marriage & I think 6 is enough for him!). I really missed being pregnant last time but definately not this time! I sleep better now than I did the whole pregnancy and DS can sit on my lap now. I could do the birth again, but definately not the pregnancy - which is funny because last time it was the other way around... I love being a family of 4 and am really happy to have 2 boys - I don't feel any need to have a girl. Although, when DS was born I did have a moment of dissapointment because I really loved the girl's name we had chosen

Anyway, I think DS is due for a feed now - so I better go get ready for that. The midwife told me to wake him every 3 hours during the day so he sleeps better at night. So far he goes for about 3-4 hours and usually goes down easily after (but not always). DH and my mother say how well he sleeps and how much better than DS1 he is at settling - but I'm not sure how long it will last

**MummyNaomi** · August 13th, 2012, 02:37 AM

Lise -the irony of using birth control methods after LTTTC always makes me chuckle. We have some chance of conceiving naturally, however not great odds and we didn't have time on our side due to our ages to hope for a natural surprise

Nat - we are on a 3-4hr cycle it se

**MummyNaomi** · August 13th, 2012, 02:43 AM

Stupid phone

..... But mostly following DDs cues for feeding, unless we need to go somewhere, them i'll offer a feed before we go.

Just enjoying a chest cuddle as we speak, that's the special thing about feeding at night, peaceful and quiet and cuddly

I used to enjoy it with Balz too

**CKJ** · August 13th, 2012, 02:59 AM

Seems like its cuddling time!

Did as midwife said, bottle around 7pm (thankfully he let me finish dinner!) he then slept till around 10.45pm. Bum change and bottle at around 11pm.

He woke up around 1.30am but was quite content sucking on his dummy and looking around at the world (gazing into his eyes melts my heart)

He's having another feed now (3am) so fingers crossed he sleeps through till around 7am which is perfect timing as then I have to get DD up for school.

Although might need to change around arvo feeds as school finishes at 3 (could get there early and park the car then feed him prior to going in I guess)

Back to my snuggles!

**Maruschke** · August 13th, 2012, 08:16 AM

Awesome cmkm! 4 hourly is great, that is about what we are at.

**naomi54** · August 13th, 2012, 11:41 AM

hi ladies - missing you all.
I dont get on BB much, but when i do i only get a chance to read and not post.
I do however seem to get on FB more cos i can access it from my phone (which i use 99% of the time but cant access BB on it)
I have joined a FB group for June bubbas and mummas, but miss allmy july mummas, would any of you ladies been interested in starting a July belly group on FB???

**Maruschke** · August 13th, 2012, 01:16 PM

hi ladies - missing you all.
I dont get on BB much, but when i do i only get a chance to read and not post.
I do however seem to get on FB more cos i can access it from my phone (which i use 99% of the time but cant access BB on it)
I have joined a FB group for June bubbas and mummas, but miss allmy july mummas, would any of you ladies been interested in starting a July belly group on FB???

I'd love to be in a July FB group

**naomi54** · August 13th, 2012, 01:33 PM

pm me ur name on fb - will need to add u as a friend to add u (can "defriend" you after)

**MummyNaomi** · August 13th, 2012, 09:57 PM

Hmmmm I think I need to start doing some pelvic floor exercises. Things just feel lower than I remember and look a little different too (TMI alert) downstairs, will ask my OB at my post natal appt too

**CKJ** · August 13th, 2012, 10:26 PM

Hmmmm I think I need to start doing some pelvic floor exercises. Things just feel lower than I remember and look a little different too (TMI alert) downstairs, will ask my OB at my post natal appt too

You've looked down there!!!!!

I had a joke with my midwife yesterday as I tidied up down there knowing it was all going to be on show! She said it makes the job that slight bit easier pmsl

Oh so I don't confuse people - changed username from cmkm? to CKJ to represent my little family of 3!

**MummyNaomi** · August 14th, 2012, 12:39 AM

Haha - funnily enough the morning I gave birth I'd 'grooomed' down there, musta known

But in all seriousness, I was a bit worried earlier as things felt... er ..... Droopy! Will do some pelvic floor exercise daily to see if that helps. I'd forgotten about all that this time

**Maruschke** · August 14th, 2012, 03:04 AM

I know I'm not the only one up feeding! We just had a small poop... victory! Made it to 8 days, OMG! I know there is more hiding in there.

I need to do keegals too.

**CKJ** · August 14th, 2012, 03:44 AM

Yay for pooping!!!

Lol I was told I had a prolapsed cervix? Or something along those lines and it would "contract" back up when my uterus shrunk. Might ask GP about it lol

I'm up but not feeding. Arsenic hour must have changed today! Usually he's grizzling from 3am

**~Ash~** · August 14th, 2012, 07:15 AM

Morning ladies!

Just a quick post from me. Bethany was one month old over the weekend - we got her weighed and she has put on 700g and grown 5cm since birth!

She has been feeding so much since Friday - I feel like she's just using me for my boobies lol. She's increased my supply by heaps again and last night she slept for 7 hours straight - I couldn't believe it when I woke up and it was light outside!

I can definitely relate to mourning my pregnancy - we aren't sure whether we've stopped having babies or not and we've decided to not talk about it until DD2 is at least 6 months old. I'm really conflicted because I can't accept that I'll never be pregnant again or birth another baby but I feel like 2 kids is enough for us. I've just started the on mini pill so we'll revisit the 3rd baby discussion down the track instead.

We had some professional photos done yesterday - better late than never but they are going to be so amazing! I left there so clucky lol

Naomi54 - you've gotta clear your inbox lovely