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Kaytee- thats awsome weight gain for Annabelle! congratulations
And YAY for the 1st sucessful solo shoppping trip.
I have always been thankful for the family rooms that most malls provide. A space you can go to feed, change or just breathe if babys not so happy and needs settling.
How was Hamish last night? is the colic relief kicking in?
nup back step again, cried until he had feed at 10.30. then went to sleep after talking to himself in the dark for a little while.
That's not good, poor little guy :( Hopefully it works soon or he grows out of it for you. On the other hand, how cute is it when the just lie there chatting away :) Annabelle's learnt some new little sounds lately, especially when she's playing in her little gym/floor mat thingy.
DT, unfortunately our grocery shopping centre thingy doesn't have their toilets finished yet, so if baby plays up there's no where to go! Luckily the CAFHS place is really close though, and they have a feeding room if you need somewhere to go
He sounds just like our lady. She cries and fusses until 10.30 then feeds and sleeps. had a couple of midnighters. We have found shes better if she is upright all night, so we lie on the couch with kness bent and have her sit on our tummy with back supported upright by knees. this way she can see us, but we can still watch tv. Only had the occasional milk fountain this way, lots of stinky farts though
Yeah I second that DT, Annabelle seems really comfy like that. We also squish together a tri-pillow and put her in the middle so it's like a little bed for her. Keeps her head raised, and she falls asleep easily in there. That way we can go to the loo when we need to - too many times I've had her fall asleep on my legs and then can't go pee lol
staying awake with him sometimes helps, but othertimes he just screams no matter what you do. and i am no super woman i still actually need sleep and i cant handle listening to him cry continuously. it actually makes me quite frustrated with him which upsets me more.
Massive hugs hun, it sounds so tough on you :hug: I wish there was some way I could actually help. Do you have family or anyone nearby who could be with him while you sleep? Even if it's during the day and you still do the night shift, it sounds like you could really do with some sleep right now
Bs I hear you on the frustration thing. I sometimes get so annoyed at Hamish when he's screaming and won't feed but won't settle even though I know it's not his fault. It's just hard when your tired. I find I need to just take a breath and try and remember it'll pass. Apparently the wind issue peaks at 6wks and starts to subside at about 8. If it's not have you got a good paediatrician you can talk to?
Oh and sometimes I lay in bed with Hamish and feed him in bed. He sometimes will settle like that and go to sleep. That way I can doze too and we can eventually both get to sleep. Or I lay in bed with him on my chest and sleep like that.
its not really the sleep that is an issue i normally get 6-7 hours a night of broken sleep. it is just the screaming which i find so hard. i just wish i knew what he wanted so i could fix it and make him better, but i dont and its so hard to hear him so upset. no i dont really have much support around to help, only the occasional visitor. all family are around 1.5 hours away and friends are further as im new to the area.
sometimes i can take a breather and it will be fine, other times it just upsets me to the point of tears or makes me want to yell. and i am so afraid that him being like this is going to lead to me having pnd which i dont want. he doesnt seem to have issues with wind, but i think he gets lots of tummy pains anyway.
sometimes i feel like a bad mum for feeling like this when others seem to be doing so well. i just cant seem to get on top of it. i think i have him figured out and then he has a growth spurt and wants to feed all the time which screws up all the work we had done.
Babe, you are not a bad mum. You're doing your best, and wind/colic is not your fault.
I don't know if you saw a post of mine a while ago, but we had a night when nothing worked for Annabelle. She wouldn't settle, she wouldn't feed, she cried and scratched me and I was getting so upset - I didn't know what was wrong or how to fix it. I wound up in tears and just put her in the pram, where she suddenly stopped crying. That just made me feel like she hated me - why would she stop on her own, but cry when I tried to help her? That night was awful, and I spent most of it in tears. We still have times when she won't settle and DH and I just tag team, and there are definitely helpless moments where I feel useless, and like I'm no good to her because I can't help whatever is wrong.
It will pass in time, but in the meantime if things are bad see your GP again, to see if there's anything else that can help and to get in early if you do get PND (I really hope you don't). Would your Mum be able to make a trip for a week or so to help out? Sometimes just having someone else there to talk things through with can help. Wish I lived closer, I'd head over for a coffee break :hug:
my mum isnt well herself, she is an alcoholic and isnt looking healthy herself, so think she has enough just trying to look after herself and her memory is going too.
sorry, today is just not a good day, he has been crying on and off since 9am.
Don't be sorry, it's a tough job and your poor little guy is having a rough time. But it's nothing you are or aren't doing, and it will pass in time. We're all here to listen and support you. And you've got my number if you ever need to talk or vent.
Sorry about your Mum :hug:
I would suggest, putting baby in the pram and just walking. Get out of the house- change of scene for everybody. I use to do that with DS1. Here the air quality is bad so I cant do that and am stuck often the same as you, with a screaming baby. I have yelled - I put screaming baby down and went into the laubdry and screamed myself. Feel so helpless sometimes, then suddenly she snaps out of it. Also finding a rattle helps sometimes- or a jar of chewing gum shaken.
Hang in there hun, you doing great
much better night last night. he slept after 11pm but no screaming before so i was happy.
had drs appt yest for 6 weeks, and i still have the membrane there so he has started me on antibiotics, and another appt next week. if it hasnt cleared up by then he will do a d&c on the day. and william got to see one of the midwives who delivered him, and he was smiling for her too cute. and she said its normal for babies to cry when the sun goes down, and that it often isnt even wind pain, that sometimes babies just cry for no reason. and that it normally passes somewhere between 6-10weeks. so i just have to try and remain calm and not take it to heart. apparently she said that babies average 4hours of crying a day.
i fed him at 5.20pm, and carried him around in carrier afterwards. started dinner and did odd things around the house. dh ate his dinner and i fed william at 7.20pm, and then i handed him over to dh to hold afterwards. i had my dinner and a shower, and he slept for a long time. then he had a shower with dh. and a massage afterwards. then fed at 9.50pm until 10.45pm. then he slept until 3.15am. so am very happy with how last night went. dont care if i have to hold him as long as he doesnt scream.
oh and he did a big poo during his feed at 9.50 lol, was very loud and a lot of wind. must have made him feel better.
That sounds like a really good night.
Thanks for the extra info, its comforting to know things like what the MW told you.
I got the paddling pool out for the boys and they have been in it most of the morning. Sophie was looking a tad jealous! She loves water and has a mega tanty when bath time is over every night.
Got her in mcns and thats it. Yesterday was about 40 and 80% humidity today looks like its heading that way. Thank goodness for air con! I keep it off until we cant handle the hot more. I dont like the thought of her little lungs trying to deal with air con air too much- silly huh! If it was winter she would have to deal with freezing temps
Hope everybody is having a good day
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