Congrats again Ange she is perfect & i can't wait to meet her x

Kell the first few months are hard but it does get easier, doesn't help that E would be going through the terrible 2 stage.
Just keep doing what your doing, she will adjust x
Have you tried having special feeding time toys for her? Make it so she will only get them when he feeds.
Great news about J gaining weight, Kodi was a real slow gainer as well.