Roxxie,
What kind of work do you do?
My DD has been in daycare for a year and a half and nothing like that has ever happened. But I do understand your concerns. So normal for a mum. SOunds like you have a lovely routine going, hope that happens for me before full time work in 6 weeks. Not liking my chances though. We;ll figure it out somehow
I just wanted to share a poem I wrote, There is a mother of 4, expecting her 5th writer, she has a blog called Making things up and started sometihng called 6 word Fridays where she gives you a topic and you write about it in lines of 6 words.This weeks toping was Feelings. Here's my words
Laying between my two sleepy babies,
Feeling the rhythm of thier breath
their lovely soft skin against mine,
I consider what they've given me.
This visceral world I now inhabit
Less time for doing and thinking
Plunged into the depths of feeling.
I feel deep, overwhelming, unconditional love
Deeper than I could have imagined.
I feel gut wrenching sheer terror
For the ills that may befall,
my two beautiful, sweet, innocent babies
I feel uncertainty and self doubt
What if I am not enough?
I want to keep them safe
I want them to feel loved
I want them to be themselves.
My babies have given me purpose
A reason to wake up smiling
They have given me profound hope
For a future filled with love
They fill me with immense pride
As they grow to be beautiful
In each their own unique way.
They give me a burning desire
For more, more babies... one day
In part, due to my babies
I feel exhausted, walking through jelly
Unrelenting tiredness I had never known
But I know this will pass
All the rest will be left
The love, the fear, the purpose
The terror, the pride, the hope
More feelings as the years pass
I am sure there is more.
My babies breathing softly on my face
Make me smile. they are mine
I am happy, We belong- Fulfilled
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Guess who just sat up!
Ciaran was laying back on my bent knees and grabbed my hands; while holding them pulled himself upright slowly and then sat there for a while b4 getting wobbly.
Then repeated it all twice. What a clever boy
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Cass u are doing a great job, thats all u can do, like LJ said sort of take her under your wing and be there for her help her become a young woman..poor girl
Bree - Go Ciaran!!! My son was sitting completely for long periods unsupported the week he turned 5 months...sounds like Ciaran is on his way to that sort of timing too!!! Soph still bends all the way forward and tips over....lol!
Polly- Wonderful, very touching.
Cass- Follow your instinct it is usually right. Good job, I'm glad she has you in her life.
Roxxie- Everyone has those feelings when it come to leaving our bubbas. Good luck with the return to work.
Bree- WOW! What clever babies we have here.
Anyone else experiencing the 4 month growth spurt? I'm sure that is what is going on here. Since we got back from our weekend at the in-laws Tobi has been waking up around 5am whereas before it was more like 8am. So ineffect I have been giving him an extra feed. And he is waking up early from his naps. Drives me nuts when before you could set your clock by him. At first I thought he was unsettled from the weekend but now I think it is a growth spurt.
Anyone here using amber teething necklace? I was about to get one when DH talked me out of it. Poor Tobi in gnawing the skin off his fingers!
QB/ Shell - same here re the knawing... i think he is also undergoing a growth spurt as im getting lots of early morning feeds, and hrs of sucking on and off before he wakes in the morning.
Also alot of sleeping which suggests growing too
Queen Bee, Definitely just went through another growth spurt here too, Chomping 2hourly. Day and night, Seems to be settling now.
We used a teething necklace forDD and it was awesome. The first night she wore ut she slept 13 hours!! ( at about 10months) after weeks upon weeksof broken sleep. My nephew got one and had awesome results as well. We need to get a funky boy one for DS, lots of drool and biting here. There's a facebookpage and website called giggle and grow that sell them. Why did DH talk you out of it? DD is still wearing hers as she is gettng her 2 year old molars.It dramatically reducede our panadol use too
Thanks for your kind words about my words, 12 years ago I studied creative writing for year with plans of writing one day, BUt I decided to go and live some so I knew about life, then I could write. I'm keen to start writing a bit more and 6 word fridays are a great start.
Internet still not workihg too well so still no personals, sorry
Happy days
Cass, About your DSD, you're definitely doing the right thing
My mum was very unsupportive when I got my period. She sent me on my bike to buy pads which to me was mortifiying but she got a hysterectomy just after I was born and was so out of touch with it all, and we have an 'interesting' relationship
Anyway, when my Aunty found out she got me aside, gave me a big cuddle and told me I could go to her anytime. You just need someone. IT makes all the difference. She was mum's best friend (pretend Aunty) and she also told mum off so she got a bit better after that.
I am close to my Aunty to this day and my DD's middle name is the name of her daughter who sadly died in a car accident when she was 25, leaving behind an 18 month old bub.
Now its my turn to be there for my Aunty and i try and involve her in much of my life nad my childrens.
Keep doing what your doing
Thanks Polly. We dropped the kids back to their mum's yesterday and DSD gave me the biggest cuddle (make that squeeze!). It's hard to drop them off sometimes particularly since she told me how much she misses her dad (and I know that he feels the same way). Watching her drag her feet up the path to the front door was pretty sad.
Shell - I too am suffering from gnawed on nipples!!
Breesa - well done Ciaran!! Has he done it again?
Roxie - I hear you on the daycare thing. We are waiting to see if DH is getting posted back to the ACT. If he does it's great because there are daycare facilities at my workplace (I'm currently on leave without pay). If not, I know that I will have to find another job (and soon!) but I'm dreading having to leave Robert. The longest I've been apart from him is a quick dash down the shops!!
Polly - I was thinking about an amber necklace, so glad to hear you recommend them. Is it too early to use one now??
Cass - yup, repeat performances last nite and this morning. Guess he needs to build up his strength so he can sit for longer! I also left him on his tummy today for like 15min and he was still kicking around happily. No sign of rolling from back to belly yet though (not that i mind!).
On another note, my mum was over on Tues nite. She left me a voice voicemail today, saying wht a great, natural mum I am - for those who recall my mum issues late in the pregnancy, this is a big event! Gotta be happy with that compliment, esp from my mum
Hey Breesa,
I don't think its too early, I wish I'd known about them earlier for DD, I am just ordering one for DS now, Lovely that your mum is being supportive, it really meanas a lot doesn't it!
Off to get my amber necklance,hopefully twill stop the biting
Happy Thursday
Robert slept from 7 last night until 4 this morning! A big first for us. Now I guess we wait and see if it was just a case of a good night's sleep after having croup and not being able to sleep properly for the past week or, if we've turned a corner! Must say my boobs were killing me though!!
The other night Miss H slept from 7 till 3 before waking for a feed
then we were doing bed at 8 up at 12 then 3 then 6
now we are back to more feeds every 2 hours ,sometimes more sometimes less, i just go with it , im used to being up at night now .
I have been thinking back to when she was screaming at night and we were up all hours rocking walking around driving in the car ,nights where she just wouldnt sleep and nothing we could do would calm her, they feel so un real now like a blur ..At the time we thought we would never be able to do it but we coped, that stage has passed thank god lol
So who is returning to work? what will u be doing with ur bubs?
whats new with everyone?
What are ur bubs doing during the day now sleep wise play wise?
Hey Shell, This biggest lesson I've learnt as a parent is "this too shall pass", it counts for teh good things too so you know to enjoy them. I tried to remember when DS was sleeping through the night it might not last forver, now he goes to sleep about 11pm wakes 3:30am and 6:30am usually but sometimes more. I know its a bad night when I don't know how many times he woke..just lots!
I have been back at work but so far lots from home nad half days at work, in four weeks I awill be back 3 full days 2 half days and 10 ish hours at home. One of my full days my Mum will look after DS (DD in at 'play school' and the other days DH stays home, WOrks weekend nights. I am the main bread winner for the family which is a tough positions but means that DH gets a great relationshipwityh the kids. Ultimately we both want to work 3 days. ANd towards the end of the year DS will probably start going to daycare with DD. It seems so much easier now that we know the girls and DD is happy there.
DS still sleeps between most feeds but has more awake time. He loves being in a carrier so we do lots of house work etc and then he also plays on teh floor under the play gym and even now in the jumparoo (DD didn't have it til 7 months but he loves it) Next week we want to buy him a bumbo with a play tray. He has rolled front toback a couple of times but not consistently.
Thats us at the moment, ! A bit rambly//feeeling very sleep deprived but happy!
Hi girls. It feels like I haven't posted here for ages - how life flys by eh?
We've been pretty busy with visitors (3 teenage girls) and lots of catching up with friends. I'm feeling a bit tired at the moment as Toby's not sleeping as well as he had been. Plus I'm terrible at staying up too late and not getting enough sleep .
Toby had his needles last week and he took it like a man Just a bit of a scream then he was smiling at the dr. He did end up with a pretty big lump and bruise on one leg though - I think the nurse put it in too low. It was down by his knee and I don't think there's as much fat there. Poor wee guy. He weighed in at 6.8 kg and was 64 cm long. A whopper compared to DD who was 8.5 mths before she hit 7 kgs!
We put him in the Jolly Jumper for the first time on Friday and he loved it. It was soooooo cute watching him figure out that he could jump, and the massive smiles and giggles that came when he got it. I'm picking up an exersaucer for him tomorrow which he loved in the shop so fingers crossed he'll enjoy that too. He's rolling from front to back fairly regularly - although I'm not sure if it's by fluke or by design. He's almost got back to front but his arm gets in the way so it could take a while for him to figure that one out. I'm in no rush and don't to hurry him with anything - just savoring every moment. He's loving blowing raspberries too - very messy but very cute.
Polly - Toby seems to be the same with the sleeping as your wee guy, although he'll usually go down about 7.30 pm for a decent stretch until midnightish. But from about 3am he wakes A LOT Some mornings I feel like my eyes are hanging out of my head I'm so tired. How do you manage to work?! A friend suggested that he might need solids but I'm pretty firm on wanting to wait until closer to 6 mths. And I guess I'm not convinced that will help because he does a big stint earlier on Oh, and really lovely poem by the way. You are one talented lady.
shell - That's awesome that Hannah slept through until 3am. Did you feel better for it, or worse? Sometimes I think I feel worse if I get a long sleep now, it's strange. I won't be going back to work at this stage. We decided before we had kids that I would stay home if we were able to financially. It's getting pretty tight just now but we're managing and we're hoping DH will have a better job in the next couple of months which will take off some pressure.
Cass - has Robert slept through again? Hope the croup has gone - it sounds pretty scary. And with your DSD - it sounds like you're doing all you can. I think if you build a good relationship with her eventually she will come to you more and more and hopefully you and DH will be able to be a secure base for her for when things get tough (as they always do with teenagers). Must be hard for you both though
QB - I'm hoping all Toby's waking is the growth spurt you mentioned and that he'll settle down. How have you been feeling? I've had the odd day here and there when I've felt pretty miserable and the PND feelings were lurking. I think a big part of it for me is that I've put on about 5 kgs since Toby was born and I'm feeling really gross and unattractive. I've started WW (just at home. I have the books and can't afford to go to meetings) and I'm trying really hard to get into regular exercise. I'm hoping that will help with my moods too and give me a reason to be happy with myself, IYKWIM?
Bree - that's great that your Mum left you such a nice message. I'm sure it meant a lot to you. Toby's also starting to want to sit all the time. He even pulls himself up in his car seat! I sit on the floor with him between my legs and he sits and plays with his toys. He loves it! He's also started with the one poo a day. I said to DH how relieved I was that you'd mentioned it otherwise I might have worried because he used to poo so much!
roxxie - I'm so jealous that you have a cleaner! Don't feel guilty - it gives you more time to be with Lacie and that must be a good thing . Sounds like you're getting lots of good sleep there too.
LJ - The new pram is a Steelcraft Strider 4. Toby and I are both loving it because we can see each other. He's a lot happier in the pram now and will just drift off to sleep if he needs to. Plus it has a huge shopping basket, which is always a bonus!
Hope you've all had a good weekend. I'd better get to bed now - another busy week ahead here.
My lovely little bub is starting to really take to food. I bought a couple of sachets of the Rafferty's Garden 4 month vegies. I'ved mixed a teaspoonful of the apple and pears with farex for his breakfast and he likes it. I gave him a feed (breast) this afternoon and he seemed to want something more so I gave him a couple of teaspoonfuls of the sweet potato, carrot and apple sachet. I know it's slack because I could be making my own, but there's nothing else in these except fruit and veg. I'm always giving him the breast first - at least until he's 6 months old. My theory is that he doesn't really need the "food" so it can come second to the booby milk!
He loves rolling! You lay him on his back and quick as you please he's rolled over onto his tummy. He's trying to crawl which is just gorgeous! He pulls his knees up to his tummy and sticks his bum in the air (hillarious when the nappy's off - got many videos of him for his 18th). Now he just has to get the hands coordinated. At the moment he's pushing himself along on his face. If I walk out of the room I will always walk back in to find him facing in a different direction. He has his own form of breakdancing (yep, showing my age here) spinning himself round on his tummy.
Feeding is so interactive now. He just loves an audience. He knows when I start watching telly, talk to someone else or my attentions not on him. He stops sucking, turns his head towards me and waits for me to catch his eye. I tell him yes he's the centre of my attention and he smiles that wonderful gummy smile and goes back to drinking. If I do ignore him, he's not above biting down on my nipple (ouch!!).
We haven't had a repeat performance of the big sleep. I'm thinking that was a one off from being absolutely exhausted from being sick and not sleeping properly - either that or DH and I were so out of it from not getting any sleep at all for 5 days that we slept through him waking up! I guess he can't have cried too much because DS1 didn't get up to him and his bedroom is right next door to the nursery. I've gone back to giving a dreamfeed last thing before I go to bed otherwise I get up twice a night. Getting up more than once just seems to make me more tired. I would rather go to bed a bit later. No matter what his wake up time seems to be between 5 and 5.30. Then it's a feed a bit of a play and then back to sleep within about an hour and half for a big morning sleep. This is followed by a feed and a play then a bigger middle of the day sleep. Then he has an afternoon nap, going down somewhere between 4 and 5 otherwise it's meltdown time. Bathtime is between 6 and half past, followed by a feed then it's bedtime.
Well that's about it from me. I'm going to get him weighed on Wednesday, so I'll let you know where he's at now..... gosh can't believe he's been here for 20 weeks already!!
Toby rolled from his back to front for the first time today It was very exciting and totally unexpected. I was sitting with him on the floor and chatting to a friend that was visiting and he was reaching for his toy. Next thing I know he's rolled over and I'm shrieking about how clever he is. He was of course, very pleased with himself. I think he heard me telling another friend this morning that he was rolling from front to back but that it was more fluke than anything and he wanted to prove me wrong. After the excitement died down I actually felt a little sad and had a moment thinking that he's growing up too quickly. Talk about being all over the show
He also had his first go in an exersaucer I bought online. It's great! He was loving all the different things to look at. Will only let him stay in it for 5 mins at a time for now though as I don't think it's great for them to be in that position for too long.
Cas - same here with pulling knees up. It's bloody terrifying! I'm sure DD wasn't this active so early on. And the pulling off while feeding thing is starting to get a tad embarrassing when we're out in public as he pulls off while I'm having a big let-down and has a good look around all the while I'm spraying all over the place. Not very discreet!
Polly - I'm thinking of trying some cloth nappies as Toby seems to be getting a bit irritated by the disposables and I think I read a post with you recommending a good, reasonably priced AIO??? Did I? Or am I having a severe attack of baby brain? If I did would you please let me know the brand?
Bed time for me. I'm making an effort to get to bed earlier so I'm not so tired all the time.
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) and lots of catching up with friends. I'm feeling a bit tired at the moment as Toby's not sleeping as well as he had been. Plus I'm terrible at staying up too late and not getting enough sleep
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Just a bit of a scream then he was smiling at the dr. He did end up with a pretty big lump and bruise on one leg though - I think the nurse put it in too low. It was down by his knee and I don't think there's as much fat there. Poor wee guy. He weighed in at 6.8 kg and was 64 cm long. A whopper compared to DD who was 8.5 mths before she hit 7 kgs!
Some mornings I feel like my eyes are hanging out of my head I'm so tired. How do you manage to work?! A friend suggested that he might need solids but I'm pretty firm on wanting to wait until closer to 6 mths. And I guess I'm not convinced that will help because he does a big stint earlier on
Oh, and really lovely poem by the way. You are one talented lady.
. Sounds like you're getting lots of good sleep there too.
It was very exciting and totally unexpected. I was sitting with him on the floor and chatting to a friend that was visiting and he was reaching for his toy. Next thing I know he's rolled over and I'm shrieking about how clever he is. He was of course, very pleased with himself. I think he heard me telling another friend this morning that he was rolling from front to back but that it was more fluke than anything and he wanted to prove me wrong. After the excitement died down I actually felt a little sad and had a moment thinking that he's growing up too quickly. Talk about being all over the show
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