Babies Born ~ September 2007 #63

Omg ISA that would be awesome!,,
Happy to do a catch up at my place in may....

Cass - could you go to the gp without her and tell them issues and then take her in and they can examine and observe without you saying too much about it... Something like a 3yo check up...
It does sou d like you are worried ... Is it physical lackluster stuff or more emotional? She has had bit of chg recently I guess w marta coming in the scene, kinder et. Etc and if these few months have been for yu how it was fornus when j was under 12 months then maybe more of her reality also has changed like more time at home mote Sharing you less energy left for her at the end of the day so all that could affect her too....I did find when I took a day off and spent it w Noah back then or took him out for mummy time in between feeds it made a big diff.... And I guess on the physical sir a dr is best placed to assess but maybe iron levels... Anyway I have no idea but it seems to be a worry for you so I reckon check it out... She seemed fine go me ghe other day by the way so don't readanyting into my coments but go with your gut...

Cass - I wonder like MP if its because alot of your attention is directed at M these days? Its a tricky situation really with not wanting to make too much of a fuss in front of her at the GP. My M is so distracted as soon as we get into the GP's office, looking at the toys. Can you find a way to distract L for a couple of mins so you can get your questions out without her noticing?

MP - I like your mummy time ideas. I really feel bad for M at the moment. I am a grumpy mum towards her, just so darn tired. Last night she had a nightmare and I was so grumpy with her, I just couldnt deal with getting up to both kids. And then my time is mostly directed at baby and feeding her. M and I used to do everything together, she had me for 3 yrs to herself. :(

I am amazed, I just caught a glimpse of something in M's ear as DH was holding her. Grabbed the tweezers, pulled it out and its her grommet! Its absolutely tiny. Cant believe I saw it and wondering if the other has come out without being noticed.

I know I have driven people on BB mad with all my breastfeeding questions and vents lately, but just wondering if you girls can offer some advice. E pretty much feeds well these days, but sometimes we have a dodgy feed where her attachment is off and it hurts me. I had a bit of a bad day today with feeding, as we had a few dodgy feeds and I am sore from the thrush. I'm just wondering if with time does it really get easier as their mouth gets bigger? She just cant seem to open any more than she does and I am just hanging in waiting for her mouth to grow a bit.

Also sometimes she will start with a great latch, no pain etc, then maybe 5-10 mins later she starts to slip right up against the nipple, like she is tired maybe? At this point when it really starts to get uncomfy I have been taking her off and she doesnt make a fuss. Is this ok to do? I know they say to let them come off on their own...

Sorry, still feeling my way with this

Isadora :hug: Hang in there, it most certainly gets easier as their little mouths get bigger, and also you both get the hang of doing it together. I never had any problems with DD1 coming off, but DD2 was a chronic drifter. I found it easiest to detach and re-attach. Also propping up or holding your BB can help (sometimes they kind of fall out because of the weight) - using a BFing pillow to give you an extra hand, adjusting your posture, or even using a rolled up nappy under your bb to hold it up (never did that but met a lady who did) all can help.

Cass - could you write your concerns down in a note and give it to the doctor, then they are out there, but not verbalized in front of L? Then you and the doc can still talk, but L won't make the connection it is about her?

Isa - I found hte breastfeeding pillow very helpful if you don't have one already.

Oz - hugs

JM - glad you made it back safely, what a trip! Silly hostess for not realising about the light going off.

LOL MD I had to have a little laugh, trust me I dont have much at all to 'prop up'. In fact the other day my MIL said to me, 'see you dont have to have big boobs to be a good cow' lol I was so offended at the time but can laugh now hehehehe. So I'm glad to know that the 'drifting' is normal for some bubs. I have been detaching and reattaching, sometimes with success, sometimes not. If I have to pull her off I do and just see how she reacts, she is usually pretty content by this time. I have been keeping track of her weight with the health nurse and she is steadily stacking it on. I guess I will just hang in till she grows! :)

hi girls, i had a little BB break and it has done me the world of good tbh.
dh has gone away this weekend though so i've popped back in to catch up with everyone!

isa- don't feel bad at all about asking bfing questions in here, we all know how hard it is at first and are more than happy to help how we can

arte- L is absolutely loving kinder. he runs off and doesn't even say goodbye to me when i drop him off and i can never get him to leave. his teacher is the most awesome earth mumma hippy and he loves her, it's really great to see.

there's been another huge fall-out in my mothers group. nothing to do with me as i have already pulled out of it but one of the girls that i am still close to got really burnt by them yesterday. it's been hard to watch but kinda good for her cos now she can distance herself. feel bad for her though.

when i dropped L at kinder on fri i had to kill about 40mins before picking him up- normally i probably would've come back home and popped onto BB to fill the time but i decided to take myself and J up to the local deli for a coffee. funnily enough i was sitting at a window seat and the lady who i had mentioned in here before that i had wanted to strike up a friendship with walked past and i smiled at her and she came in and sat with me. was really fantastic to get to know her, and probably woul;dn't have happened if i wasn't on a bb break iykwim? so it's been a really good thing :)

Ginger, your mothers group sounds nasty. Glad you are out of it. Hope your friend doesn't feel too bad about it - she still has you and she is better off without them.
Sounds like L was completely ready for kindy! Sounds like you are happy with the one you ended up choosing.

Desperately wanted a piece of fudge, made the fudge, ate it and now I feel sick. This rocks.

JM, tell me you are feeling better these days? I worry about you. Happy Birthday! (didn't FB because my birthday messages always seem so generic but I really do hope you had a good day).

Isadora, if she isn't fussing when you take her off and she is still putting on weight then she is probably finished and just playing. She will let you know if she wants more.

how many weeks are you now arte? will you find out the gender, i mean through an ultrasound rather than a giant penis sign LOL

hi girls!

Thanks for the tips with the GP! what i will do is get DH to come and he and Leila can play outside for a bit while i chat with the GP then i can bring her in and he can do the check.

ooops gotta keep it brief 'sleeping beauty' has just arisen...oh boy she is angry!

BBL

Cass - Is M growth spurting? Saw your fb status about her feeding 2 hourly overnight. Not looking forward to that myself!!

Ginger - Oh yay thats great that you got the opportunity to strike up a convo!! Is this the lady you wanted to befriend but didnt want to come across the wrong way?

Arte - How many weeks are you?

Thanks girls re the bfeeding advice. I feel like a drama queen. My SIL tried to palm off a few tins of nan formula to us last night that she can no longer use on her DD. It tempted me but I totally resisted the urge. If I have formula in the house, all it could take is one bad feed for me, not the strongest person. The only reason I am keeping it up is she is putting on weight, is content and during the day she is feeding every 2.5 - 3 hours with much longer stretches at night. The past few nights I have dream fed her at 9.30ish and she has stretched through to anywhere between 4-6am. Honestly if I had to feed her two hourly I couldnt hack it lol, so she better keep it up!!!!!

What is everyones plans for Sunday? We are having a lazy one I think, waiting for DH and M to wake thinking we might go out for brekky - come on I've been up since 5.30am and been for a morning walk & all haha!!

isa: not sure if it is a growth spurt...argh i dunno! she was sleeping through sooo nicely a couple of weeks back, and now she is starting to wake overnight again :wall: driving me a bit bonkers. but the house is a bit topsy turvy with DHs dad here and all.

for attachment i really have to recommend seeing an osteopath for bubs. it was miraculous for us and saved our BF journey...just a thought as i was totally amazed having never even seen an Osteo or knowing what they do before marta was born lol.

G: that is awesome! you go girl! i love meeting new people. we met a new lot of neigbours yesterday; they had a baby 11 days ago (their 3rd) and wow, they are awesome and lovely :dance: i have been wanting to meet them for ages but being me i am waaay too shy, so totally jumped at the chance when they invited us over :)

Cass, I hope M sleeps better for you. Can you imagine I did the two hourly wake-ups for nearly a year with A (with several months of hourly wake-ups), and even longer with W. I feel tired just thinking of the next baby!

Isadora and Ginger, I am 10 weeks now.

Not sure about finding out the gender. I have a heaps of good condition girl clothes and my cousin is having a girl in May so it would be sort of a waste if I held on to them in case and then had a boy anyway.
And I have a lot of trouble bonding with my babies. Nothing before they are born and then it takes me a long time (months) to bond after they are here. So I am wondering if I knew the gender if I could help myself with the process?

sounds like maybe you should find out the gender Arte! i reckon it may help w bonding if you can picture him/her etc. and then you can get planning more etc. i hope no 3 is abetter sleeper - i also did the 2 hrly wake up with J til about 12-15 months and man it was tough. i dontknow how i got through it and hate to think how i was at work some of the time. he is a lot better now, not perfect but muchbetter and i am like a different person. N was also hard - i remember him waking for up to 3 hrs a time between 12 and 18 mnths (and also did 2 hrly wake ups to 12 months) - so i am thinking i need 3 yrs of good sleep now to feel human again...
had a good weekend, did a house swap w mum on sat night - so slept in til 8 on su8ndsy and went for a walk and bfast with dh before we met the boys at 10.30 in the park!

Arte, it's certainly worth a shot finding out and seeing if it helps at all.

I think you should definitely find out Arte. I loved knowing j was a boy.

Girls can I just say you are super mums for doing the 2 hourly wake ups for that long. I just could not hack it!!

That being said Cass its probably just a growth spurt or bit of a rough patch, from what I can remember with M it was all over the joint, one good week, one bad bad week. Hang in there!!

Arte - Yeah I agree find out the sex. Then you can get all excited knowing what you are having. I was thrilled to know I was having another girl.

i loved finding out with my girls! go on arte lol!

Hiya ladies, I'm totally braindead after a few very busy days. Had a totally ****house Valentines yesterday with a massive fight with DH, so i hope some of you at least scored some chocs or flowers or even a decent smooch cos it sure aint happening here!!!

Wanted to say while I still remember Ginger I am very impressed with you getting onto the IRL mumma bonding during your away from BB time! Good work. I'm feeling ready for some new IRL friendships too, thinking about taking Missy E to care later one day just so I can drag her along to playgroup as a pretext to meet some other mummas LOL.

Cass WTG with the neighbour action. You are such a social butterfly, is there anyone on your street you don't know yet? LOL How is it going with FIL there?

Arte, another vote for finding out here - it was such a thrill with Missy E to find out as early as we did (courtesy of the CVS).

MP, totally love the house-swapping concept! What a great way to have yourself a little break :)