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  1. #1

    May 2008
    Melbourne, Vic
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    Afternoon ladies! Am writing this from the laptop at my IL's beach house, overlooking the beach, sound of the waves, breeze blowing, two kids outside playing with DH and my FIL, ahhh nice and relaxing!

    Emma - thanks for asking about the house, its not perfect, doesn't need much work inside (new bathrooms are on the cards as the originals are still in place... ) but we need more storage space for DH, so he will be doing some work outside to put up a shed. Oh, he also reckons he's got two weeks of electrical work (he's an electrician) in putting new lights and stuff so that'll keep us busy once we settle!

    That is so cute about T bonding with the other kidlets. Isn't it great how they are starting to realise there is a big world and they want to be part of it? So next month he's off to day care? He'll love it

    Delph - I have to admit I had a moment of confusion with "Lily" too! It is a beautiful name, I've got a niece, a second cousin and a friend's bub who are all named Lily!

    That's fantastic about your DH being a wonderful SAHD. Must make being at work so much easier.

    And am I a bad mum if I pick the rusks up when X drops them, dust them off and give them back??

    Anyway - I'm going to go join in the fun outside. Hope everyone is going well!!!

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    Registered User

    Jul 2008
    Country VIC
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    And am I a bad mum if I pick the rusks up when X drops them, dust them off and give them back??
    Phew and I thought I was the only one, if your a bad mum that makes me a bad mum too

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Nov 2009
    Vic
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    HI all,

    Sorry for the confusion- I didn't even realise I was writing Lily. LOL...

    OP- very jealous your at the beach. Sounds awesome! YOu lucky duck!

    Nah- I don't think either of you are bad mums at all, I just cant give the rusk back to her, especially if it was covered in saliva and muck and collects dirt and crapola on it which is what it looks like when gumnut has it

    We are really battling through the third tooth at the moment- funny because we didn't have many problems with the first two. I am beginning to be abit hesitant about TTC number 2 now- not sure how I would cope with two teething kids lol

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    Nov 2008
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    OP - I only have the tupperware sippy cups. I did try B on one after reading your post and he played with it more then anything, but I think he did manage to get a bit of water down and he only choked on it once

    I also picked up some rusks from the store and found some without salt and B loves them….so do the dogs. After having B loose one to each of the dogs and dealing with the waterworks that followed I now I have to make sure that when I give one to B I tell the dogs 'not yours' (they're really good about not touching anything that I've told them isn't theirs). They they patiently sit there and wait for him to get gooey bits on his hands and chest that they can lick off And I'm with you an Sal on the pick it off the ground and dust it off, can't be any worse then him licking rust off the fish tank stand or chewing on the dogs' ears!

    WOOOHOOOOOOOOO on the new house and am also VERY jealous about the beach holiday.

    Delph - Sorry to hear that Gumnut's third tooth is giving her and you grief. Hopefully it will come through soon. I also didn't realise that you were TTC #2. Or maybe I read that wrong. Are you TTC now, or looking at trying to start soon?

    Emma - Yeah, really don't like my work at all, although that probably didn't come out at all because I worked right up to my due date, but that was more because I am a workaholic in general and because I wanted as much of my maternity leave WITH not waiting for my baby. I am only working where I am because the pay is REALLY good and it has really good benefits particularly concerning maternity leave and we are probably looking at trying for number two soonish….maybe…I swap and change with that one on a daily basis.

    AFU - This is going to be a bit of a poor me.
    I am completely miserable being at work and all I can think about is the next time I will be able to see B and how much I really didn't miss all the political bull$hit and politicing and back biting and underhandedness here at work. It's sickening. My unit is good, but that's about as far as it goes. It seems like everyone else is only out for themselves and they don't care who they step on or run over the top of in the process. And the deciet and complete disregard for well….EVERYTHING

    Then add to that the fact that leaving B just breaks my heart. I don't want to be here. I don't want to leave my baby. The first day was hard for me, but he didn't really know what was happening so he was okay. But Tuesday night….He woke up several times during the night just wailing. He NEVER does that. As soon as he saw me he calmed down though, so of course now I'm wondering if he woke up and didn't see me and thought I'd left him. Which made me feel horrible. Wed when I went to drop him off he started to cry when I went to leave. I called when I got to work and they said he calmed down almost straight away, and I couldn't hear him, crying anymore, but just the fact that he knew I was leaving him and he didn’t want me to. Then I went to feed him at lunch and as soon as he saw me in the door he started crying and trying to wiggle out of the carers arms and when I got to him he just latched on to me and grabbed a huge handful of my shirt and wouldn’t let go. When I went to leave he was trying to crawl after me and they had to pick him up and hold him but he was crying and reaching out to me and trying to get to me, I bawled my entire way back to work. Yesterday night he wouldn't let me get out of sight. He crawled after me everywhere and if he lost site of me for even a second he'd start to cry. And it's SO unlike him to cry and be like that. He was always such a happy baby. This morning he started to cry as soon as I got him in the car and I literally had to pry him off me to give him to one of the carers and the same at lunch. And again they tell me he's fine and happy and smiling within minutes of me leaving but what I'm left with to think about all day is him desperately trying to get to me so I don't leave him. Every time I think about him, which is all the time it feels like my heart is going to break and I start to cry.

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    Registered User

    Jul 2008
    Country VIC
    930

    Dr Tal - I cant read that without coming in to give you an E-hug, man I dont know how you do that, it must hurt you so much. Its not fair I wish you could stay home all the time with B

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    BellyBelly Member

    Oct 2009
    219

    Dr T, you poor thing, that sounds so devastating. It's just cruel how the return to work often coincides with the development of separation anxiety.