A quickie before I get on the eliptical machine. Trainer said to do half hour a day until I see him for my first lesson Monday...I am getting so depressed, I pouted all last night with DH reassuring me that I was not a whale and that he would not go sleep with some random bimbo...lol...I had a stupid night last night. I am having a hard time DTD as it hurts then I feel sore afterward and I just feel so fat, so it makes me worry about my relationship at the same time - I am being stupid and I know it, but DH is used to having a lot with me and now I am just not in that zone. I keep telling myself I can't please everyone and everything and still get my hair washed! but some days are just harder than others...
Carmey, Eva feeds about 10 minutes when she is being efficient, and sometimes takes more but usually no more than 30 minutes MAX...if she has gas and needs burping or something...so Jack is fine and I think you shoul dbe glad - he is a super efficient feeder Eva makes gulping and gasping noises too and people thingk that is just hilarious...a bit more difficult in public since people look when they would not have done so otherwise!
Tilda, I hear you on the poo convo - we discuss poo instead of politics these days! Even over the table, and if we have guests they just think that is hilarious! Thanks for saying I give great adive. I am not sure if my way of seeing things works for everyone, but I tend to be VERY rational (not last night though) and "think like a man" so I manage my relationship with DH in a pretty straightforward way. I always find it better to get what you want by having him "come up" with the idea himself - lol...But every DH is different, much like our little bubs.
Willow, I hear you on the unsettled bub! Eva is just not a dozer! She sometimes gives me a decent stretch in the afternoon (and then it will be like a 4 hour whopper!) but most of the time she doesn't want to sleep. She has little naps all day but wants to be awake, walked around the house, talked to etc...I am ok with that but I can't get a shower in if no one is here to take her for half and hour...and never mind washing my hair! It is exhausting, but my mother is sure she will have lots of character...I can probabmy be sure she will be a girl with a lot of fire, which is better than no personality at all I was always a lot to habndle, so I can't expect my daughter to be any different Have you tried a swing or anythig like that? My parents brought me over an electric swing and a vibrating bouncer from NY (sales!) and I have to say the swing is a lifesaver! She will stay in there for an hour and watch the mobile then doze off letting me have breakfast etc...I try not to use it often but I find that she loves it after her morning change/feed...Maybe you can try something like that with Harry? If you know friends who can lend you one to try before you buy that would prob be ideal...The vibrating bouncer is also great and it is small so we leave it in the living room or at our feet when online (she is dozing in it now)...she always wants to be in on the action so we found that it is a good alternative to putting her in another type of non vibrating chair...it is easy to move around and plays music...you can get those really cheap so maybe it is an option?
Lilyzara, I had the same thing for a long time with eva...My adive, which worked for me, but does not necessarily mean it is the problem for you...is to make sure she drains a full bvreast and gets the hindmilk (has her poo been green or frothy? if so then she is not getting hindmilk which gives gass and the feeling of always being hungry)...give her a night schedule - a bath EVERY DAY at 7pm then a feed, then a rock to sleep for example...Eva settles nicely now and even gets tired if I am half hour late on her bath, so I know she is starting to get the rythm. I drink fennel tea - it is an infusion of fennel and is said to calm colicky babies, and it has worked wonder for Eva with her poo and her sleep...Otherwise, maybe a swing or something would help a bit.
Eva had those bouts of colic too, it gets better. just try your best to find a position she likes - Eva is partial to being held upright and being walked around the house looking at lights mirrors being talked to CONTSTANTLY...do her baby aerobic - folding the legs into the belly and putting light pressure, bicycle legs etc...you'd be surprised at the gas that comes out of a baby! Otherwise, don't stress because it only makes things worse...try to stay as calm as you can (earplugs might help ) and she will be calmer.
Good luck and let us know if there are any other particular things going on...maybe we have gone through it.
Alison, hope you're not still mad at DH Carmey is right, you really don't need this stress right now, so I hope he gets that...Good luck for tomorrow at the funeral - I hope it is not too depressing for you.
ps - i typed so fast to be able to finish a post and made a ton of awful spelling mistakes, but no time to correct anything! Time is of the ESSENCE! so excuse me ladies!
Hi BS The swing sounds good I'll have to have a look around for one, I don't really know anyone who might have one to borrow, but I'll check them out. Harry is starting to have more awake time through the day where he doesn't just want to eat, but that's the hard thing when he's awake he's mostly eating so I'm stuck in a chair feeding. I know exactly what you mean about the shower...or lack of! And hair washing, well that's quite the luxury now
Harry behaved well when we visited work yesterday which was good, everyone loved him.
BUT last night he went back to 2 hours of inconsolable screaming I've been wracking my brain trying to think if there was anything different on the 2 days he didn't scream, but I just can't think of anything
Last night Eva had one of those nights that reminds me of the beginning - Screaming until she turned red for hours. I wanted to die. DH got in from his dinner to me sleeping on the bed fully clothed, made up with her in my arms...
Praying I don't have another one of those tonight...When does it end???
It is getting better but man, when it comes back, it hurts...
Carmey, I love your new pics! I tried to leave comments on some but my computer is not having it for some reason, but Jack is gorgeous!
off to shower and have lunch with a friend!
Kisess to everyone!
xoxo
Last edited by BrusselsSprout; January 22nd, 2010 at 08:22 PM.
Well I have just the most long and draining day ever. We had DH's mates funeral, was horribly sad, we left home at 8.00 am and I didn't get home until 8.00 pm - worse is I left DH with his mates getting smashed, he didn't want to come home and I was quite annoyed as I had a headache and poor Amelia has been in and out of the bloody car all day. I understand he wants to hang with his mates under the circumstances by why does everything have to be solved with getting smashed, I was quite upset he let me drive home alone, it was an hour drive back from the house the wake was at!!!!! I just tried to call him and his phone is off, not happy jan! The girl he picked up from the airport was quite nice but she did get the front seat, I felt weird having her in the back with Amelia as we took her to the funeral, is that silly of me? I felt very protective. Also, I've been with DH 5.5 years and I've never seen him cry until today and selfishly I was jealous and upset as he didn't cry when Amelia was born, am I weird for feeling that way or what?!
I must add that Amelia slept almost 7 hours last night, could do with a repeat tonight!
Sorry for no persies, I'm absolutely shattered.
Last edited by Alison1973; January 23rd, 2010 at 12:05 AM.
willow - I haven't tried BFing in it as Amelia doesn't like having her head covered and I have to be careful since she still chokes sometimes with my fast let-down. It does seem simple though, as long as the sling is tight enough.
Thanks for the info on nappy covers. I've ordered a couple of thirsties duo to try as they have an adjustable rise as well as the leg gussets.
Carmey - As long as Jack is putting on weight and happy I say, enjoy those 5 minute feeds. Amelia was feeding around 10-15 minutes, but the last couple days has been longer. She is more leisurely at the end of the feed though with lots of start/stops. She'll keep sucking even though she's asleep and looks so annoyed when I take her off. I think its a comfort thing in her case.
Tilda - Glad spacing out the nilstat seems to be helping. Hopefully Matilda is more settled fater her immunisations.
BS - Hope your feeling better today. The down side to BFing is that our bodies don't produce as much oestrogen which is what provides the lubrication for DTD. I'm sure your DH understands. It's not forever. I hope Eva is better tonight.
Alison - after your long, draining day. I don't think you're silly for not wanting is friend to sit in the back with Amelia - I'd feel protective too. Don't worry about DH not crying when Amelia was born. My DH didn't cry either and I've seen him cry a lot over the last 10 years. My guy just isn't a happy crier.
AFM - Today has been hard. After a week of 5-5.5 hour sleeps, Amelia has started wanting her 2am feed again the last couple of nights. Although last night she feed at 3am and woke again at 8am. We have absolutely no routine. So I didn't get up until 12:30pm and didn't have time for a shower before DH left for work. I haven't washed my hair in a week! Then I couldn't put her down all afternoon as she was inconsolable from 1:30 until 5pm. She was okay after that and we went to bed ater her 11pm feed. She woke at 1:30 with wind which we dealt with. DH changed fer nappy and I took her for a feed. She's now been feeding on and off for 2.5 hours and its more for comfort than hunger. She's wide awake in her swing right now 'cause I need a little space. I wonder if its her next developmemtal leap unsettling her and disrupting our 'routine' (I use that term loosely). She has been looking around her more today, rather than mostly staring at the ugly curtains I've been wanting to replace since we moved in 5 years ago. She has also begun starting at sudden loud noises.
I've been feeling really alone today too. DH and I hardly see each other let alone talk. Amelia and I tend to sleep late in the mornings when DH is home and I'm exhausted by the time he gets home at night. I have no one to help physically help me so I don't get to eat well and my house looks terrible. When I do see DH he doesn't seem all that interested in Amelia. He'll comfort her if she's crying amd I'm stressed, but its rare for him to cuddle her just for the sake of it. Then he has so many projects at home that I feel bad asking him to do things for me. Plus things with my mum aren't good - she's got more blood clots - so I can't even ask her for help. I don't even like to call her to vent as it just makes her feel worse and she's down enough as it is.
Sorry for the rant. But it is almost 5am. I'm so glad I have you girls - I'm a little less alone for you
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Eva makes gulping and gasping noises too and people thingk that is just hilarious...a bit more difficult in public since people look when they would not have done so otherwise!
) and "think like a man" so I manage my relationship with DH in a pretty straightforward way. I always find it better to get what you want by having him "come up" with the idea himself - lol...But every DH is different, much like our little bubs.
I've been wracking my brain trying to think if there was anything different on the 2 days he didn't scream, but I just can't think of anything
after your long, draining day. I don't think you're silly for not wanting is friend to sit in the back with Amelia - I'd feel protective too. Don't worry about DH not crying when Amelia was born. My DH didn't cry either and I've seen him cry a lot over the last 10 years. My guy just isn't a happy crier.
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