Babies born~December 1st-15th 2009 #1

[sesameseedmum]

Super quick post:

Tilda - Hang in there! You are NOT a crap mother, and being depressed is perfectly normal. Don't be afraid to talk about it, you can always call beyondblue if you're really unsure about your feelings.

Alison - Just quickly, Georgia is so not crawling, this a reflex that many newborn babies have which helps them find the breast after birth. It will disappear in a month or two.

Will post properly later, off to have a shower, it's stinking hot here!

[Tilda]

Thanks for listening girls! If my back doesn't improve and I feel like I'm getting depressed I'll definitely do something about it. I'm just hoping that it miraculously feels better tomorrow. Well I was just about to say I finally got Matilda to sleep but there she is...I don't know what's up with her today. Usually she's passed out by this time of night even on a bad day. Bye....

[BrusselsSprout]

Thanks for listening girls! If my back doesn't improve and I feel like I'm getting depressed I'll definitely do something about it. I'm just hoping that it miraculously feels better tomorrow. Well I was just about to say I finally got Matilda to sleep but there she is...I don't know what's up with her today. Usually she's passed out by this time of night even on a bad day. Bye....

Tilda, we seriously have the same baby! Eva has been really unsettled the past two days too...Just waking up every time I put her down...I know it is really "bad" but have you tried putting her to sleep on her belly? Eva totally passes out that way. And have you gotten her a dummy yet? If not, this might be a good time. It really helps them settle. I know how you feel but don't. I am physically exhausted and feel like crap, and ugly and fat and in pain and tired - you name it. You are a wonderful mother or else you would not be on here and always looking for solutions and always doing exactly what she needs, therefor feeling tired (which is normal since you are a slave to the baby, meaning a wonderful mother!) - don't beat yoruself up for all this stuff - some days are better than others and I get you. I have days (like today for that matter) where I just feel like falling apart. I can't even get to bed since I am so tired...it will poass and will get better and soon she will be calmer. You're almost at three months, Just wait a bit...See if DH can take her for two hours while you go have a hot bath and quiet time. You'd be amazed at how wonderful you will feel after a small break.

Alison, some people are just annoying. I get you. Those bragger types are always annoying and if they are stupid to boot, you just don't get how they get so lucky!

Beany, great to hear from you! Enjoy your mum! It is so great to have family around and yay for Micahel being such a wonderful boy...What a nice schedule I love mornings, Eva talks and coos and giggle for a good half hour during her morning change, and washup...They are getting so much more beautiful every day, aren't they? Eva was doing really well for about a week and has been gassy and crying the past two days. i hope it passes...I need the rest! I don't get excited for any changes since I am not sure how long they will stay

I need to consider the 9:30 bedtime...it might help me feel better but I can't seem to get to bved once she's down since I want to get things done...but I am wearing myself a bit thin...and not getting thinner...lol

[RF&C]

Hi there - hope you don't mind if I crash into this thread?

My name is Rachel. I have two babes - a 15mth old boy and my 2mth old baby girl - Charlotte who was born 3 Dec 09 via c-section.

I haven't read through all the pages of this thread yet......but will do soon so I can try and catch up - hope you don't mind.

Rachel.

[Alison1973]

Hi Rachel - welcome to our thread, everyone here is fantastic, we're all great friends even though we haven't met lol! Congrats on the birth of your little girl, what are your kiddies names? I am interested to hear your story as we just had our first baby - Amelia on the 30th November by emergency c-section and will probably try and fall pregnant again in 12 months or a little less depending on how I feel! I'm 37 this year so don't want to wait too long. Is it hard with the age difference?.....the OB says I can start trying when Amelia is 8 months but we haven't decided yet, seems a bit scary atm! We too found out at my check up the other day that the infection I had picked up while in labour was a rare and deadly staph infection of the amniotic fluid so it's extremely lucky Amelia didn't die, so given that we just want to enjoy her for a while. I hated having a c-section as it wasn't expected but am fine with it now, especially given that information, it saved her life, thank goodness for my wonderful OB! Will probably have to have another next time though unfortunately. Such is life! I am enjoying being a mum so much, even the difficult days although I do feel blessed to have a very good baby, she's sleeping 9 hours at night at the moment since I put her in her cot a week ago, I think she loves the space. The only issue I'm having currently is my milk supply so she's being BF'd and then FF'd with a bottle each feed, I feel bad but what can I do, she has to eat, need to get over feeling guilty about that.

Anyway, that's my story very quickly, look forward to chatting with you some more!

Hi BS - I hear you on the weight thing, I feel so gross, I need to lose 6 kgs and tone up, badly - I can't wear any of my pre pregnancy clothes unless they're dresses, so depressing!

I did get my new pram though and I love it so am determined to start walking everyday now and shift some of this flab!

Hope everyone one else is well. I need to do some housework now, yuk!

[Tilda]

Welcome Rachel. It's always exciting to have someone new join in. Don't worry too much about catching up on the thread - it could take you awhile! I had a baby girl, Matilda, on 6 December. She was supposed to be a planned CS, but it ended up being an 'emergency' CS by definition because my waters broke a week early. But it was all a great experience that I will never forget.

Hi BS - are we living parallel lives or something?? We must catch up for a coffee next time I'm in Brussels Thank you for all your support! I'm feeling much better today. My back is still touchy but its not the disaster I was worried it was going to be. Its just when you've had bad injuries before the threat of a reinjury really gets you panicky. DH was a complete godsend this morning and tokk Matilda so I could sleep in for a couple of hours, Matilda was hysterical again tonight due to lack of sleep. Its so hard isn't it when you know they need to sleep but they just fight it! We tried a dummy a week or so ago and it settled her to begin with but within about 5 minutes it had dropped out of her mouth and we went back to square one. So we thought it might just create another issue. Anyway, take care of yourself. You're sounding so tired too. Being Sunday morning over there, I'm hoping your DH was able to give you a sleep in too.

Alison, Beany, and Rose, it will be great to catch up in perth in a couple of weeks! Will be in touch about it.

Hi everyone else. Sorry I can't do great persies tonight. Need to give DH a break so better go.

[BrusselsSprout]

Rachel, Welcome!

Alison, love your sig pic! What a cutie pie

Tilda, I tried four dummies before finding one that worked well. I would really suggest you try to find a shape that helps her - you have NO IDEA what w godsend it is, especially for babies like ours - With Eva I had to give it to her a few times before she took it, like the bottle - rememeber we have babies that love staying attached to the nipple, so they have to understand that they can satisfy their sucking urge from something that is not us...You are invited to lunch or dinner at my place if you're ever on my side of the pond! We have to introduce these two! lol

As for me, wanted a sleep in but left baby with DH in bed and got a bunch of stuff done instead! Heres hoping for that 9pm bedtime today

Planning a long walk in the forest today and finishing up some stuff around the house (yet again!).

hugs to all the mums and bubs!

[Plinky]

Oh hello girlies! I'm so sorry I haven't been on in yonks. My mum is here you see, so been having a great time with her.

Just thought I'd pop in to write a quick note.

Tilda - would be great to catch up with you and the other Perth girls while you are over! Sorry to hear you are having a rough time. I know its easier said than done...but you really must believe that it WILL get better. Because it will. Its probably just a phase Matilda is going through. As for your back, can you go to a chiro or something?

Alison - I got my period too...same day as you only during the night! Fancy that! It's been a fairly light one really...I was expecting a heavy downpour for some reason... Your new pram sounds lovely! I'm pretty happy with mine so far..only thing is getting it in and out of the boot is damaging it A cap has already come off and I can see marks and stuff on it. Grrr! We were going to get a bigger car, but decided against it...we don't want to stretch ourselves too far financially while I'm not at work. And what a load of rubbish about that girl from work's baby crawling at 1 week! I very much doubt a 1 week old will have enough muscle development and strength to put one arm out to support itself, never mind coordinate all 4 limbs at once! Pfft, she's in la-la land!

Rose- you've been putting up some great pics and movies on fb...he's so CUTE!! I love it when they try to talk...Michael is starting to make different noises now too.

BS - how is Eva today? Any better?

Suz - Congrats on the DTD! I haven't been brave enough yet...esp with my mum sleeping here too! My poor DH! I've just started back on the pill, the full pill as I'm not BF anymore ( )

Carmey - sorry to hear about those dodgy calls...are you still getting them? I'd report it to the police perhaps? Must be v scary.

Hello to everyone I have missed!!!

AFM - been spending heaps of time with my mum, as I mentioned. Michael is going well...has bath at 5.30pm, feeds at 6pm, bed at 7pm, feeds some time between 3-5am, bed again then up at around 8am, feeds 9am, then 1.30pm, then 6pm....etc, etc. He seems to have got himself pretty much into that routine, I've only had to tweak it here and there. Drinking between 240-300ml a feed (formula fed, remember). Sleeping during the day is another issue entirely...he rarely sleeps longer than 40 mins or so, prolly about 3 or 4 times during the day. The rest of the day he's awake... Its very tiring trying to keep them occupied, isn't it!!

Someone metioned about the grunting...thank goodness Michael isn't the only one!!! Lordy he makes a racket when he sleeps. He will sleep like a log till about 1.30am, then he tosses and turns, grunts ALOT, farts like I don't know what, sometimes makes these cute little sighing noises. I'm hanging out till we move him into his own room, which I think I will do fairly soon...just got to get some block-out curtains and then we will. I'm reading Sleep Sense which says that babies get a memory of where they sleep when they're about 4 months old so if you are going to move them into their own room then try to do it before then (or something like that). Hopefully it works!

Does everyone have that wonderful moment when their babies wake in the morning and they see you and give you the biggest smile? Oh thats my favourite thing ever, I love it!

MIL still in hospital, has an infection at the mo, but the docs have put her on antibiotics so hopefully they do the trick. Sesame - how is your dad?

Okies girls...as much as I don't want to I must sign off now. I've only got 1 hour till my new bedtime (9pm - so sick of going to bed early tho...I wanna stay up with my mummy, or watch a movie with DH...but the sleep calls me...)

PS - Michael's Christening tomorrow!!! Eeeek! 60 ppl invited...I hope we have enough food!!!

[Alison1973]

Hi Tilda - you're welcome, anytime! Definitely would love to catch up when you come to Perth.

Hi Beany - so lovely to hear from you! That's great you're having fun with your mummy, when does she go back? OMG we do everything the same lol....my period was super light too, only last a couple of days and was nothing that I expected, turned into more of a pale coloured bloody discharge (sorry TMI) yours too? Weird! Michael sounds like he's doing so well, go the formula huh, I think that's what helps Amelia sleep so long at night too and stay in a routine. It's great to talk to someone else who FF's. I still give Amelia a boob before a bottle but I don't know how much she gets, she's only on for 5 mins each side . You've made me wonder though as I'm only giving her 125mls of formula, should I be giving her more? Unless the boob is giving more than I think?! Can't wait to catch up with you and Tilda soon. Get back on soon, we miss you! And don't worry, 9.30 pm is my bed time too, ha ha! Oh and have fun at the christening tomorrow, I must organise Amelia's....DH isn't so keen but mum keeps asking and I'd like to! Let us know how it goes. And yes, the smiles are the greatest, melts your heart huh! xx