Hi Beany - sorry I totally missed your note about DH's cousin, that is so fantastic, I love hearing stories like that, brings a smile to my face. As for Michael's waking, is it his teeth or part of the wonder week perhaps? The wonder week can go up to around 32 weeks so maybe that's his thing. Hope it improves soon. As for mums group, what a shame about yours, ours is still going strong, only 2 girls dropped out and one of them was because she's pregnant again and is finding a 6 month old and morning sickness a bit difficult to juggle, go figure lol! Pity you don't live my way as you'd love our group, we have a great chat every week and are going to create a playgroup soon with just us.
Hi Lani - thanks heaps for the tip on Vicks on the feet, haven't heard that one so will def give it a go. Happy 6 months to Jett for yesterday too, how time flies huh.
AFM - well miracles of all miracles Amelia slept through the whole night last night! I went in to check on her once and she was up the other end of the cot so I just moved her back and she stayed there until 6.30 am! Her nose was clear and she was breathing through it no problems. I got so excited as she looked and sounded back to normal....but since being up her nose has gone all snotty again. She won't let me near her with the suction thing though. I'm a bit bummed as I thought it had gone but perhaps she's on the mend at least. I'm not going swimming today though, thought it best if I avoided that today, shame as she loves it but don't want her catching a chill or passing it onto the other bubs. I feel worse today, think the lack of sleep this week has caught up on me and I have a feeling I might be getting her cold, my throat is a bit sore and my nose feels a bit funny but I don't care, as long as she's better, I can take stuff for it at least! Last night I elevated her mattress a bit more and doubled the dose of the vicks in the vaporizer, my friend said to only use 1 capful not the recommended 2.5 but her room is quite big so I did what it says on the bottle and obviously that made a difference. I also put her in the bathroom when I had a shower last night so she could get the steam. Will be doing all these things again today that's for sure. But, I'm just glad she's on the mend, I really don't fair well with a sick baby, not sure if I'm just pathetic or if it's normal but I hope I get better as I've got many more years of things like this and worse to come I'm sure.
Oh and for those using disposables, I usually use the Huggies but I bought a packet of the Coles brand - they have the Snugglepot and Cuddlepies all over them, I am finding them really really good and they're cheaper than Huggies, good for a backup anyway. I will still mainly use Huggies, especially at night as they have the "girls" and "boys" ones so I find overnight contain more whereas the others are unisex but if you're looking for a cheaper alternative but still a good nappy give them a go.
We decided to stay an extra night at our caravan and got back yesterday evening.
Lani - Happy 1/2 Birthday Jett!
Poor Jett! Glad you have the number 2's sorted. I've been meaning to go to Ikea too! Bit of a drive for me from Canberra Yay for Jett for self settling! Ryan gets like that too. He'll get really grumpy and demand his dinner, then bath, then feed and only calms down once I put him in his cot.
Alison - Glad you had a nice birthday. Sorry to hear Millie's got another cold, poor bunny
Kawa - You're closer to me than the Sydney girls are. Our Van's near Ulladulla, next time we're there I can drive back home through the highlands and drop in on you at a market.
Willow - Bummer about losing your purse, I hate having to cancel and replace everything. Sounds like you could use a break from the ILs. Is your MIL menopausal? She sounds a bit hormonal. Lucky we were away for the weekend, looks like we missed the -5 morning the other day! Absolutely we should get the chubbas together, but after your reno has finished and things have settled down a bit for you
BS - Wow, Eva is doing so well! You sound like you've gotten back in to working with out too much drama, but it is hard to get motivated isn't it? I'm so jealous of your trip to NYC and then the South of France! And you will look fabulous! Here I am planning a ski trip, no swimwear here I love the Skype idea and we should have a Skype BB meetup.
Beany - That sucks about the Mother's Group not being there. My Mum's Group from Craig is still meeting after nearly 3 years, but I think we're pretty rare. Most seem to fizzle out quickly or when everyone goes back to work. Playgroup is a great idea, I'm thinking about joining one too. Hope Michael's sleep improves soon. Sorry to hear about you MIL, perhaps you can Skype like BS suggested, so she still gets to see Michael? Great news about your cousin's BFP!
Tilda - No real poo issues here. Ryan really hates soiled nappies now that his poos are solid, but he still poos a couple of times a day. You could try mixing the prune juice in with the food. You could also try baby yoghurt or natural yoghurt if you're not worried about cow's milk allergies. We haven't introduced meat yet, but might in the next few days.
Rose - That's so fantastic about Liam's sleep! You'll really benefit from the extra deep sleep you're getting. Our pram has a bassinette which we only used a couple of times because I often had to put Craig in the pram and carry Ryan in the sling. So Ryan has faced forwards nearly his whole life, but he has Craig to keep him company. Craig was a curious baby and wanted to see out, so we had him facing forwards early too. I guess all bubs are different. My workmate has a bub 2 weeks younger than Ryan and they sold their Phil & Ted's Dash and bought the same pram as Alison (can't remember the name) so he could rear face as he was always crying facing forwards. Do whatever works for as long as you need to.
Carmey - Hope Jack's back to sleeping through soon. I loved SATC2, thought it was hilarious! But they could have done cartwheels as you said and I would have laughed my head off. How did Jack go without the wrap?
Kanda - I hate losing posts! Hope you get to post again soon.
Did I miss anyone? to anyone I missed.
AFM - It was a nice trip away. Hectic, now that my whole day is taken up with baby food and feeding. Ryan did well with his needles, but woke for night feeds while we were away for the first time in ages. I really need to catch up on housework, so I think that's the job for today.
Question for you all, and a TMI warning. Does DTD still hurt for any of you girls? Does it get better? DH and I have only managed to DTD twice since having Ryan and both times it has hurt, to the point of not being enjoyable. I haven't been avoiding DTD, DH has either had broken ribs or falls asleep early so although I would have liked some intimacy I've left it up to him. From what I can work out, he's been feeling unattractive because of his weight and stressed from running his business. And now that his ribs are healed, he's been away every weekend for the last month! It took a weekend away to get us back in the sack and now I'm worried it's going to hurt everytime.
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HI Girls just a quick one sorry I just whinged last post hadn't really read through everyone's posts...
Hi Beany YAY! For DH's cousin!! That's excellent news! Sorry to hear MIL is not so good though.
Hi BS Go Eva crawling is only days say I'd say!
Hi Suzi MIL is not menopausal she just doesn't listen, even when she asks a question she just doesn't seem to listen to the whole answer, and she takes everything the wrong way and gets upset, if she would just listen things would be a lot easier. Even when she tells us things that someone else has said or done, when you talk to them you get a different story, it's not that she lies, she just doesn't listen then says what she thinks is the rest of the story or what she wants to hear, and is a great one for exaggerating things Grrrrr. DP says she was a nightmare when she was going through menopause! (before my time, so glad I missed that lol)
Harry's got his BB radar working again better go, I'll catch up persies later Hi to everyone I haven't gotten to yet hope all is well.
Willow - oh no! Sorry to hear about your lost purse, I would have been so angry!! And good on you for hanging signs up, I would'nt worry how many you put up...if thats what it takes to get the message across.
BS - so Eva has 2 sleeps a day? I was wondering when it will be normal for them to have 2 rather than 3. How long are those sleeps, usually? Wowee...NYC and then France! Sounds wonderful! You must be so excited
Alison - I hav eno idea whether its teeth or WW still or what. I just want it to stop already. I long for the times we used to just put him down at night, he'd be out like a light and not wake up till 4.30am, then sleep till 6.30am. Yet again, last night it was 10pm, then 2am, then 3.30am then 5am then 5.50am. Ughhh. Haha, I wish I lived your way, that would be so great! I'm happy that your MG has worked out so well How is Amelia today? Any better? I can't believe she slept so well last night!! Maybe its on its way out?
Lani - I know how you feel about going back to work. I really don't want to I'm gonna miss him so much, I'll be in tears at work, I know it. I've said September, depending on whether we can get childcare...are you putting Jett in childcare? When he wakes at 1am and 5am, have you tried just resettling without a feed? Might be worth a shot?
Suz - Sounds like you had a great time away! Glad the needles went ok...I have to say this time around it was as though he didn't even have them. No reaction at all! (I mean, he cried the place down, of course, but afterwards I mean...) And to answer your TMI question....Lordy, yes does it still hurt!!! We don't do it often at all, prolly count on one hand how many times we have since Michael was born. It really really hurts and I don't enjoy it at all. I dunno whether to see a doc or what, its a bit embarrasing. Do you remember it being like that when you had Craig?
AFM - not much to report. Had another rubbish night. Tho he did sleep for 1.5 hours this morning, and managed to resettle him after his 40min lunch nap. Pffft...so much for sleeping better once they start solids!! What a load of crapola!
How much water is everyone giving their bubs? Anyone noticed a decrease in intake of formula/milk? It seems I am forever feeding him, I thought he might slow down in one of the departments but not at all!
Following on from the recent poo discussion, thought I'd add my bit....his poos are a lot harder than they used to be, and orange (he's only had orange solids so far, plus rice cereal). And he's going usually at least once a day, but sometimes its only a little blob. And he really really strains for it too...he's usually sitting in his bumbo during a solids feed and he starts grunting and squirming and going red. Incredibly cute and I can't help but laugh! I'm worried he's not getting enough water, so started giving him more today.
Alison, I am glad that Amelia had a good night - I am sure the rest will help her fight the germies...Eva is also clogged up all the time, but she sleeps through it...But the first few days of each cold are the worse...keep doing what you're doing, sounds like it helped to up the dose...
Lani, I woul dtry to resettled without picking him up, at least fior that first waking...Eva used to wake up also before she dropped her night feeds and picking her up out of bed was what made her want a feed...Does he take a dummy? With her I would just pop it back in and she would go back down. At this stage if you go by the book he does not "need" a night feed. But who cares about books, do what he needs, but it is worth trying...He might just bne getting up out of habit...Going back to work seems awful and you girls remember how emotional I was about it, but finally it is nice to get out of the house, do your stuff, know that your baby is ok with people who take good care of him...We are on baby sched so every day depends on them...when you get back to work, you have more of a sched...he will also be more tired and stimulated...Since starting daycare Eva "talks" more and she was already a chatterbox! She has also become physically more advanced fast and I see her squirming around to touch other babies, grab toys etc...she has also become super easy with strangers and goes to her carers with no complaining or crying...I am happy she is in there and honestly, even if I did not work, I would leave her in there for half days - that is how much I feel it is good for her to socialize and be out and not be so dependent on me (which at the moment she is and super attached! DH is blown away by how much she just stares at me and want me in her line of vision all the time!)...Saying that though, I could NEVER be working full time right now. I work the 9-3 which is very light...because I need to see her and I am so happy picking her up every day - I skip into that school every day to get my baby! So don't worry Lani, even if you do go back, you will be fine, and he will have a lot more alert time! Eva has her two naps in daycare so I still get a solid 3/4 hours with her in the eve and 2 hours in the morning and weekends...so I am happy with that, since I know she spends her days napping and playing with other babies, which she loves and I cannot offer her at home. If you need any advice or have questions, don't hesitate to ask (same for Beany)
Beany, yes she is down to two sleeps. She is up around 530/6 for food then she hangs out with us while we have breakfast together, usually poos lol, then I go dress and change her while DH showers and dresses, then he plays with her while I get ready then off to daycare. She usually goes down for a little morning nap, then gets up for veggies and bottle, then usually naps a bigger nap in the afternoon...She is usually up around 3 again for food and I pick her up around 330/4 (4 when I go work out right after work). Then at home she plays and hangs out with me then food then bath around 6ish then she goes down around 730/8, and all over again! I noticed that on WE she naps more, prob because she is less stimulated at home since there are not 15 other babies cramling around! Daycare has really given her days a lot of structure...I am glad his needles went well...He is becoming a big boy
Suz, it hurt for me the first few times (like the first 6 times or so I would say) and it will get better..try lubrication, it helps...DH and I have sex now about three times a week or so, which is way less than before (I used to be a once a day girl on a reg day), but it stopped hurting a while a go...I think it is just a question of using the equipment Introducing meat! Wow, Eva is still on and off...she has days when she opens wide now and days where she purses her lips shut...At daycare they crack up with her because they say when she doesn't want anything, nothing can get in there! She just purses her lips shut and does not budge - I hope her stubborness helps her refuse advances from stupid boys later in life! lol
Willow, just count down - you're almost done with the work - The personality type you're describing is def hard to deal with - BIL is like that - he hear the beginning and invents the rest but he is so super nice that I don't get mad at him - he is also 21 so easier to forgive.
xoxo everyone - off to get some work done!
Hi Beany - I have to admit I just dropped the 3rd nap to see how it would go. One of the books I have says that you can start to drop the nap around 6 months so I thought I'd try and it worked no problems, was a bit hard the first few days as I had to keep her amused to keep her awake but she manages it on her own now. I have found (aside from having this cold) she is sleeping much better since dropping the 3rd nap, both day and night. Why don't you give it a try? This is my routine if you want to know her sleeping patterns:
Up at 7.00 am, down for a nap at 9.00/9.30 (she's usually awake from around 6.30 am but just talks and plays with her teddy in her cot) - depending on her mood, up at around 11.00 and then down around 1.30 pm (she has milk and solids in between these sleeps), then she's up around 3.00/3.30 pm, has another bottle, then dinner (solids) at 5.30 pm and then bath around 6.00 pm and last bottle around 6.30 pm - bed by 7.00 pm. I'm not strict on these times but it's always around these times.
Amelia is taking less milk generally, although she was worse a week or two ago when the tooth was coming through/wonder week, she's finishing all but about 40 mls on her bottles and in the morning I use the rest of the milk to make up her cereal. She's also been on orange solids until yesterday when I bought some fresh peas, boiled, peeled and bamixed the peas - I added it to her pumpkin/potato mix, you can't see the green but it's in there and she eats it. I tried her on plain baby yoghurt at lunch today but she wasn't too keen, will try again in a day or two. For breakfast I buy the Rafferty's cereals, she has rice cereal and I add pear or apple, or she has the one with banana already in or the one in the orange packet with apricot and banana, she loves all of them! As for poo's, definitely more solid and what goes in comes out lol....but, she has been going 2 or 3 times a day the last week,WTF!!!!! ha ha. Banana chocks her up so I don't give her the cereal with that in it every day. I don't give her a lot of water, have been trying with this cold but she hasn't been as keen as normal, I just offer it to her in a sippy cup every now and then, not sure how much she's actually drinking as opposed to dribbling down her chin! Anyway, hope that has helped you a little. Oh and by the way those times you mentioned he is waking are what they call classic "waking" times for babies. Next time we catch up I'll bring my Baby Bliss book and you can borrow it, it explains all that and how to deal with it.
As for her cold, she's definitely better today, sleeping last night helped I think, she's still a bit snotty and blocked but not as bad as previous days and you can see in her face she feels better. She had 1.5 hour nap this morning and has now been asleep for another 1.5 hrs so I expect her to wake soon. I can't wait until she's 100%, I feel so bad for her when she's ill poor thing. Their little noses go all red and crusty and just the sound of it being so blocked up and gross, I just wish she could blow it! I have a feeling I'm getting it now, bit of a funny nose and sore throat but I don't care, as long as she's well. Honestly, last year I didn't get sick once, this year has been terrible so far for sickness!
Hi BS - we posted at the same time so thought I'd edit so I can pop in and say hi, glad things are going well lovely, my sister text me from Penang today, can you believe she can't find any Hello Kitty that's not cheap and nasty!
Hi Suz - it hurt for me the first few times as well but not anymore. I have to admit though TMI I'm finding tampons are still uncomfy, it's almost like it's gripping or something, does that sound weird? It hurts to walk like it's in wrong lol. Oh well, not sure what that's all about.
Hope everyone's having a great day. I'm brewing pumpkin soup in the slow cooker again, the first time I made it was so yummy even DH wouldn't stop going on about it. I made it last week with a diff pumpkin (I used butternut the first time) and it didn't taste anywhere near as nice so doing it the original way again today. Never mess with a recipe that works huh! Well, best go, got a couple of things to do before Missy Moo wakes.
xx
Last edited by Alison1973; June 16th, 2010 at 05:25 PM.
Forgot to mention I finally got a vid up of Eva in crawl mode on fb
Alison, speaking of the sippy cup, it is funny but eva hates watter in a bottle but loves, loves, loves cups. especially with no tops, so I give her from uncovered cups then she serves herself from a sippy (and most of her clothes get served too!). In the recent heat she has been complaining for water...I tried giving her bottles a few times thinking she was hungry and she would not take them but bring out the sippy and she was drinking away. She has been eating a lot less in the heat or taking more frequent small bottles...
I am having a really bad day. I am exhausted and really upset. Jett has been a bugger. He has slept 30mins in total today. 10mins in the car on the way to the shops and 20mins on the way home. He has had 8feeds today too. I am not getting any help from DH either. All he says is if he would take a bottle I could help. He wont change nappies, burp, bath, dress or put him to sleep. I can't stop crying and don't know what else I can do.
Lani omg ...DH needs to pull his head in!!!! I wish I was near you I could give you a hand! Have you asked him to help with nappies etc?? There's so much he could do to help...maybe he could take him for a drive give you a break? If you feed him so you know he's not hungry then DH could go for a drive, he might even go to sleep again he seems to sleep in the car. I think you'd feel a lot better if you could get a half hour even an hour break!
Is 8 feeds a lot for him? He could be having a growth spurt, or it could be the dreaded wonder week either way it will pass soon handg in there. Do you have a freind or rellie that can give you even a little break tomorrow if DH won't man up? Even if some one takes him for a little walk in the pram just to give you time to breathe, it feels like it's all too hard sometimes I understand how draining it is
Lani, can't you call a parent to come stay with Jett and just leave the house? Call someone to take over and get out of there for a few hours! DH is an ass for not helping...Is it night time there? He won't take anything from a bottle? What the hell is up with DH? Has he never done that stuff or is he just being difficult? Maybe go have a hot bath once you have given Jett a feed and change? Lock the door and don't come out until you feel ok. We're here for you
Lani...DH needs to lift his game....If it were me (and it has been), I'd dump Amelia on DH have a lie down and a good cry. Jett isn't going to settle if you're upset anyway. Sorry hun, I've got to go. I hope DH can give you a break. Even an hour sometimes makes all the difference
if you can't get DH to do anything maybe you should take him for a drive at least if he sleeps in the car you'll have a little quiet time...times like this DH doesn't stand for "dear husband"!!!!
DH won't help unless I ask him and he will only do it when he is ready too.
BS yeah it is night time almost 10pm. I have Jett in bed now and I am lying in bed crying. I feel like getting in the car and just driving but that's not fair to Jett.
He is normally on 6 or 7 feeds a day.
BS he won't take anything from a bottle or a cup just boobs.
My family all work and any of my friends not working have babies and I don't want to inconvience them.
I asked DH before if he could take a day off to give me a break and his reply was how can I help?
ARGH
Sorry didn't see your last post, it sucks when you have to ask all the time I hope you get some rest!! I'm sure one of your friends wouldn't mind helping you could do the same for them one day...
Sorry I have to go try settle Harry good luck Lani
Is Jett asleep? If not then maybe you can do what Willow says and just take him for a drive, that should calm him and you...I would go check into a hotel for the night just to teach DH a lesson. Or go crash somewhere with someone who makes you feel safe...Sometimes just getting out helps. Maybe go for a walk with Jett in the pram for a bit? Or is it scary? Or cold?
If Jett is asleep try a hot shower. I always find that helps. You can just cry it out in there. I don't know what to tell you...DH needs to do something. If Jett is asleep, and you know he'll stay down for an hour or two just go get ready, and when you walk out tell DH I'm going out for a bit. Watch Jett. Then go out for a drive. If you don't force DH to step up, he won't...
And I am sure a friend would help you out. I watch my friend's baby often overnight (she takes a bottle though) and she does the same for me when DH and I need a night out. Real friends won't hesitate to help Lani - call someone...
Thank you sooooo much girls. U are all so beautiful. Well I got an hours sleep n now Jett is awake again.
Oh how I crave a night off. In 6mths I have left Jett with my mum for 3hrs when we went to the movies. That is my only time off and that was when he was 8wks old.
I really need to get him to take a bottle as this is not healthy for me. I am so down and am thinking very negatively about motherhood.
Anyone got any tips or advice to wean him off the breast?
Happy 1/2 Birthday Jett!
Yay for Jett for self settling! Ryan gets like that too. He'll get really grumpy and demand his dinner, then bath, then feed and only calms down once I put him in his cot.
You'll really benefit from the extra deep sleep you're getting. Our pram has a bassinette which we only used a couple of times because I often had to put Craig in the pram and carry Ryan in the sling. So Ryan has faced forwards nearly his whole life, but he has Craig to keep him company. Craig was a curious baby and wanted to see out, so we had him facing forwards early too. I guess all bubs are different. My workmate has a bub 2 weeks younger than Ryan and they sold their Phil & Ted's Dash and bought the same pram as Alison (can't remember the name) so he could rear face as he was always crying facing forwards. Do whatever works for as long as you need to.
to anyone I missed.
Introducing meat! Wow, Eva is still on and off...she has days when she opens wide now and days where she purses her lips shut...At daycare they crack up with her because they say when she doesn't want anything, nothing can get in there! She just purses her lips shut and does not budge 
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