BS - Funny you should say that about your DH holding Eva down so she can't bounce and will go to sleep, my Mum used to have to physically restrain my brother so he would sleep during the day. And my DH's best mate as a baby in his cot used to rock on his hands and knees and butt his head against the railings! So I don't think what Eva is doing is too abnormal and there must be some way to get her to understand that bed is for sleep. Thanks for sharing the SIDS info and about your brother OMG yes please will you help me with clothes! I love fashion and clothing, but I feel so out of touch with everything now and don't know what my style is anymore, or what is appropriate for my age. I'll email you with some details.
Rose - That's great that Liam is still doing so well! Great sleep tips also. I just read a site that pretty much said what you just wrote. The only thing I would add after the site I read, is that babies seem to sleep better at night when they have a routine of sorts during the day. Not a rigid routine that must be adhered to, but we've all had days when we've been to a wedding or baby's been sick or immunisations, where it's upset the usual daily routine and we have a rough night. Oh yeah and I totally agree that babies sleep through when they're physically and mentally mature enough to do it.
Tilda - No, you're not forgotten! (is that a song lyric? ) I get what the Tresillian lady was saying, that babies like consistency and ritual. Ryan is also a non-crying happy baby and I dread the thought of having to do anything where he's got to cry it out. Rose's sleep tips are great and you can do them without having to let Matilda cry it out. I don't know whether to wrap or sleeping bag, but how about changing her to sleeping bag for all sleeps and making it a part of her bedtime routine? How's her sleeping environment? Did you say you have her back in her old cot and in her own room? Sleep associations: I guess she has a sleep association with the boob. If she falls asleep during her last feed, try waking her gently so that she's awake when you put her in her cot (I did this with Ryan and now I can lie him down awake and he goes to sleep on his own). Are you having to feed Matilda every time she wakes? Maybe try following the advice Karitane gave Lani and feed her as a last resort. Or even get your DH to go and settle her for the first half of the evening while you sleep, so that you get a few hours straight before the dreaded 3-4 o'clock wake up. Hang in there, you'll get that girl sleeping through. Please send me the info about DTD that the physio gave you, I'd be very interested to read it.
Beany - I'm so glad the sleepy dust worked! Poor Michael sounds like he's having a tough time teething I really hope his next teeth are through soon.
AFM - Ryan bit me on the nipple today!!! Not once but several times! Each time I calmly and gently got him to open his mouth and firmly told him 'No!' He dropped the bottom lip and cried each time, he doesn't like being told off and this was the first time I've had to do so. I think it was towards the end of the feed, I've noticed he's easily distracted during feeds now. DH is being a lot more helpful with Ryan than he was with Craig, I think he's feeling a bit guilty about spending so many weekends away. But he's also a much more confident Daddy and Ryan's a big calm cuddly koala of a baby. Which makes me wonder if that's why Ryan's been so much easier than Craig was, because DH and I are more confident as parents? It doesn't take much to undermine your confidence. Does anyone think that babies can smell fear and get upset if you're upset? A midwife told me that I would have calm happy babies because I was calm and relaxed during my pregnancy, but I think it carries on through to motherhood. I know that when I get stressed, the kids seem to pick it up and get upset and then it quickly escalates out of control. But when I'm calm and patient (which is easy when you're well rested, showered and feeling good about yourself) no matter what the day throws at me I can ride it out. That's why it's so important to have time to ourselves to destress and look after our health and wellbeing.
Be good to yourselves ladies
Last edited by *suz1*; June 23rd, 2010 at 10:51 PM.
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OMG yes please will you help me with clothes! I love fashion and clothing, but I feel so out of touch with everything now and don't know what my style is anymore, or what is appropriate for my age. I'll email you with some details.
) I get what the Tresillian lady was saying, that babies like consistency and ritual. Ryan is also a non-crying happy baby and I dread the thought of having to do anything where he's got to cry it out. Rose's sleep tips are great and you can do them without having to let Matilda cry it out. I don't know whether to wrap or sleeping bag, but how about changing her to sleeping bag for all sleeps and making it a part of her bedtime routine? How's her sleeping environment? Did you say you have her back in her old cot and in her own room? Sleep associations: I guess she has a sleep association with the boob. If she falls asleep during her last feed, try waking her gently so that she's awake when you put her in her cot (I did this with Ryan and now I can lie him down awake and he goes to sleep on his own). Are you having to feed Matilda every time she wakes? Maybe try following the advice Karitane gave Lani and feed her as a last resort. Or even get your DH to go and settle her for the first half of the evening while you sleep, so that you get a few hours straight before the dreaded 3-4 o'clock wake up. Hang in there, you'll get that girl sleeping through. Please send me the info about DTD that the physio gave you, I'd be very interested to read it.
I really hope his next teeth are through soon.
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