Babies born~February 16th-28th 2009 #11

[Kailani]

Hi all,

Olive, sorry to hear about DH's great aunt

Ali, wow on the sleeps. Fantastic news!

Heaven, hope DD has a great sleep tonight to make it up.

Shell, hope it isn't a cold!

Hi everyone else

AFU, where having heaps of feeding issues. L just won't eat anything. Anything I make him he will just clamp his mouth shut and turn his head away. I don't understand I mean he must be hungry right?? Sometimes he will eat toast, sometimes yogurt & avocado, but more often than not he won't. Anything wholesome that I try to cook, he won't even try. It's like he doesn't trust what it is?? I don't know... anyway, I guess I just want to know if it's another crappy phase, as he used to eat well, and is it detrimental to his growth if he is refusing to eat??

[shellbell3]

Kailani- How many days has he been doing it? Is it relatively new thing? Only asking cause I find maybe 2 days before she actually comes down with anything I find Emily goes right off her food so think it could be due to sore throat or something.

Olive- so sorry bout great aunt, may she RIP.

Ali- enjoy gold class! I've been 3 times i think and after each time I think how I can't go back to ordinary class!

Hi Ellie!

Heaven- Did she go down ok tonight? She sounds like how DD1 was, so not into day sleeps!

I've been finding I actually enjoy going to work, i just need that break from daily life at home. Plus now I get to get a cleaner, woohoo (my sister is going to do it) gives her money and me off cleaning crappy jobs.

[AliBaby]

Home again.....movies were sold out!!! So friggen annoying!! Couldnt believe it!

[shellbell3]

That sucks! Its so crap when that happens cause it takes effort to plan a night out! I guess being sat night. You should go over to the friends p[lace and watch DVDs or something!

[Malyna]

Olive - sorry to hear about DH's great aunt passing.
Ali - bummer the movie was sold out.
Meg - Alex goes the same way, some days he eats everything and then hte next day, not that interested - i put it down to his teeth/sore gums/just ain't interested.
Heaven - ohh nooo Miss G with the afternoon nap = hope it's just a one off.

AFM - one of my GF's DH is needing a heart transplant, he's been having health problems for about a year now and it's gone this far - the local hospital didn't pick it up, and he's in sydney, so she's doing the three hour commute one way.. fingers crossed for him.

[Kailani]

How annoying Ali

Shell, he's been doing it for ages, maybe a month or 2?? So over it, I find meal times really stressful because I go to all the effort to prepare and make him something and he just refuses to eat it and I end up frustrated and angry at him and then concerned about why and what may come of it Anyway... glad to hear you're enjoying work. Woohoo on the cleaner!

Speaking of work...on an impulse, I wrote a letter and handed it in today, stating that I am extending my mat leave by four weeks as I want to utilise the whole 52 weeks I'm entitled to. I had initially thought that I had used the whole 52 weeks up but then I realised I actually took 4 weeks of annual leave during my absence, so figured that I'd deduct that from the 52 weeks mat leave I thought I had taken and be entitled to a further 4 weeks off... does that make sense?? Anyway...I re-read my leave details contract and it says this:

The maximum period for a parental leave absence is 52 weeks (including all different types of leave)

and this is on the maternity leave policy information from the HR website:

The 52 weeks absence will be reduced by any period of parental leave (including annual leave and/or long service leave taken as part of the parental leave absence), taken by an employee's spouse in relation to the same child and, apart from up to one week's leave at time of confinement, is not to be taken concurrently with any parental leave taken by a spouse.

I'm mostly confused about the underlined bit. Does this mean that my annual leave was actually treated/considered as mat leave and I am not entitled to another 4 weeks?? That is so unfair! I would have thought I was allowed a total of 56 weeks leave - 52 weeks of mat leave, and also 4 weeks of annual leave (which to me, is totally independent of mat leave!). Now I think I'm wrong, and the new manager who will read my letter on Monday will think I'm an idiot for demanding extra leave when I'm not even entitled to it. She will probably think I don't even want to come back! This is the third time I've written to advise of an extention to my leave...

Sorry this is so long, but what do you guys make of it??

ETA, malyna, fingers crossed for your friend's hubby.

[Nai]

Hi Ellie - I hope you are doing ok! How's the morning sickness? Has it eased off any?

Ali - Grrr! How annoying! Wasn't there anything else you could see?

Shell - Good to hear you are enjoying work. I have one week left. I went and got my hair done yesterday and bought some new clothes in preparation.

Kaz - What colour do you think DS's eyes are? What colour are yours and DH's?

Malyna - fingers crossed for your friend

Olive - Sorry to hear about DH's Great Aunt

Holly - I read it as you are entiteled to 52 weeks leave but if you choose to take part of that as paid leave (being annual or long service) then you don't get any extensions beyond the 52 weeks. I actually extended mine by a week as I was meant to return on Australia Day (a holiday) and then the next day of work I would have had to take leave as DD1 starts kinder that day and I want to be there with her. So my manager said not to worry and just come in the next week.

AFU - I ended up getting the tummy bug so have been a bit sick and tired lately.

[shellbell3]

Holly- I think too it includes the annual leave, I know most jobs do it that way you get year in total regardless of how you took it. I think only sick leave is exempt from it.
Try not stress bout the food intake, ask my mum and she will tell you how shocker an eater I was, only wanted milk, she was always in a panic down at the health centre, but look at me now, I can't stop eating! My mum always brings it up to me. Just keep offering, don't make anything time consuming if hes just gonna waste it, eventually he'll just start eating. DD1 wasn't a great eater now she tries anything.

Malyna- Thats terrible about your friend, in what time frame does he have to get this heart within? What a stress for his wife.

Nai- Hope you get over the tummy bug soon. Just in time for work, new clothes and hair sounds nice tho, dont get to do that in my job.

Snot city here and missy hates having her nose wiped.