[QUOTE=~ Zarava Flutterby ~;2169322]Welcome Daytona's Mummy and congrats on your lil girl... will add your details to the first page.
Were you given a choice with Daytona being breach, the hospital here doesn't give you a choice if bubs is breach your a c/s no matter what (Lucky A didn't wait for me to get to hosp), so please don't feel bad about the decision.. you do what you think is right at the time for both yourself and your gorgeous girl and she's here and healthy so thats what counts right?
Sorry to hear she was being so sick on the breast, its not easy to stop BFing is it?
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I kind of had a choice.. My ob was really supportive if I wanted to try for a natural birth and even double checked I was sure it was what I wanted right before I went into theatre. My cardi on the other hand was dead against it, and used all the scare tactics. When my cardi left though, my ob said how about we try next time?
And no, it hasn't been easy to stop BFing!
Daytona's Mummy - it's great your OB was supportive of your choices but a shame about the scare tactics from the other Dr, you made the choice you thought the best at the time and thats what counts... it's gr8 your OB supports a vbac though.
I hated when i had to give up BFing with A.. big
Alicia/Daytona's Mummy - I'm sorry to hear you have the baby blues. A friend said to me to remember that around 3 weeks post baby (which is now for you and me others, as a quite a few of us have had our babies on 12 Jan), all the happy hormones have left the building, and the 'come-down' is really not that pleasant. It kinda makes sense, and I've been happy with thinking along these lines...this way, you can get a bit of distance between the situation and all the 'what if's', or potentially guilt ridden situations that arise. Keep talking to your DH/DP, it definitely helps. Yesterday, my DH and I went for lunch, and left Darcey with my Mum. We were only gone for 1.5 hours, it felt so strange to be away from her, and although throughout lunch we kept talking about her, it also felt amazingly good to talk to my DH about nothing (the weird hairstyle at the table next to us, gossip about some friends, his work commitments etc etc). I felt like a human being again, not the milk machine recovering from a c/s who rarely leaves the house. Anyway, just trying to help....
Oops, not going to have a chance to write any other personals again. Darcey is very, very upset today. We've had hardly any sleep again. She wouldn't sleep for more than 15 minutes at a go last night/today (from 5.30pm last night)...and the non-stop crying has been very testing. She's normally so calm, so patient, and sweet, that the emergence of her alter-ego, Grismerelda, has really knocked me for six. It started off as just very bad wind, and is now just over-tiredness.
Really have to go now, she's crying again. Sorry for the selfish post.....But you know how it is!!!
Thanks for the welcome, I've been meaning to come back for an update but we've had the worst couple of days, Austins having trouble settling at the moment, working himself into a total state of grumbles and screaming for hours. Eluned like your little one mine HATES his dummy and the screams get ten times worse if I try to give it to him, so like you it's straight to the boobie bar.
I've been giving him brauer colic relief every now and again which does seem to help, does everyone give their little ones the 4 doses 1/2 hourly? I've only been giving him one dose before his feed
Petal I know what you mean about the wind/over tiredness cycle, we have one of those at least once a day. I always seem to miss putting him down before he hits that point and then we tend to be up for hours. It can be so testing and then once he finally does go down and looks like such an angel asleep, I wonder what I was so stressed out about lol.
Zarava lol Austin's done some bath poo's aswell, actually I think Austins actually graced almost every surface in our house with some poo....hopefully he will grow out of this at some point
We've been getting out for walks each morning before it gets too hot. It's so nice to get out of the house and *fingers crossed* may even help move some baby weight
How's everyone else going??
Sorry I haven't had a chance to do personal's to everyone, I'm hoping to get down for a couple of zzz's before the little one wakes up again!
Just touching basse with you all........... busy busy lol i have a poo bum that needs attending too and its not william lol
We had to be reffered to the hospital due to the health nurse finding a dark patch on william little balleys that looked like a bruise......... i freaked out worried they would fall off lol Went to the hospital straight away, they got me in coz its legal for them too due to it being in a sexual spot etc ANYWAY turned out its nothing and might be just a birth mark under the skin or a vein. PHEW i wasnt worried as i know i havent caused it and i dont have a habbit of checking every little corner of his balls lol
Got in with a REALLY nice Pead that explained everything really well, while i was there i asked about williams jaundice still hanging around and asked if he could confirm it was breastmilk jaundice like i thought it was. so off for a blood test and yep its breastmilk jaundice so he will be yellow for ages still.
wow my kids really dont want me to write this post lol
anyway all is going well here now, william is putting on great weight and is still a very good bub!
ok so on the feeling guilty about not paying as much attention to your other little ones - try not to worry too much, you will find that they will get more one on one with you know then they did before because when you do have time with them its more special coz your trying to make up. i always try to make things like bath time or going to bed extra special mummy time and they love it. also try and get bubs to join in on fun like put bubs in the bouncer or on the floor when your sitting down to play with your kids, even if bubs is asleep. make them want to have bubs involved, then they dont feel like his this thing that annoys them. oh and when feeding bubs, grab a book or some paper and crayons and read or draw with your kids while you are feeding, you only need one hand to turn a page and your eyes to read
jesus i must have theorst time management skills ever - i cannot keep up with this thread.
well, just popping for an update, that jacks was weighed on wednesday and put on 340grams in a week and grown 5 cm since birth. feeling very proud of myself ><;
hope everyone else is goin well!!
ill make some more time to do persies soon xx
Alicia - I just wanted to say I hope you are ok? Please talk to us or seek help if you are feeling like you may have PND sweetie. I have been up and down like a yoyo and was wondering if maybe I was getting PND for a while there, but I think it was just from extreme sleep deprivation and I am feeling ok now. I am lucky that I have family staying to help out but am a little worried about how I will cope when they all go home! Please don't feel upset about having a caesar - it definitely sounds like it was the best option given what you were being told by your health providers. I know how disappointed you can feel about the birth as I feel the same way and it is difficult to get past sometimes. We are all here to support you and know that you did what you thought was best for your little girl and that is all that matters! And who knows what would have happened if you had gone for a vaginal birth, maybe you would be here saying that you should have gone with the caesar! Keep talking to us on here if you are feeling down sweetie
Congrats to those with bubs making huge weight gains - great news!
We are doing well although last night was a nightmare, DS hardly slept at all. He gets terrible gas and it keeps him awake. I have tried the Brauers Colic relief and it seemed to help a little but then he was bad again last night so I am not sure that it is working well enough. I may try Infacol when he is a little older.
lindsay - welcome and hehe on the poo story!! I am also only giving the colic relief stuff at each feed and am also not sure if it is actually doing anything??
petal - welcome to you too!
I can relate to those of you feeling like your older child is not getting enough attention. It is so hard tending to both their needs at once! The other day I didn't even get lunch until 5pm because I was stuck tending to one or the other and just couldn't get a break! I am lucky that DD has been v good so far though. I am just hoping it lasts!
Hey Bun just wanted to let you know I started giving Austin a colic relief twice a feed (half hour gap) and he's been an absolute angel today *touches wood & crosses fingers* only a few grizzles here and there. I've also been winding him every 5 or so minutes during the feed which seems to be helping...although I do let him drift off to sleep at the end of the feed.
Hi all. Just quickly checking in. I have fallen so far behind on the personals.
Welcome to the new ladies. I just want to say Lindsay Maree I LOVE the name Austin. I wanted it on my list for a boy but DH wasnt too keen!
Like a lot of you, I am finding it very tough with a toddler and a baby. I feel so terrible for DD1 when I have to tend to DD2. It has created a few tears. Especially when we must have had a growth spurt day the other day and DD2 was feeding every half hour to hour. I am trying to get out of the house for DD1 so she gets some interaction.
Bun- We have tried Infants Friend for wind with DD2 and it seems to have helped. Hopefully J will settle down soon and give you a much needed night sleep. You've had a tough time mate and are a champion to be so positive. I see Jo RAK'd you too. Well deserved! Happy birthday for yesterday to C.
Alicia- Mate I know how you feel. When DD1 was a baby I struggled big time with my life being a huge change where DH's life was still pretty much normal. If you find things are getting too tough, please talk to someone. Getting it out can make a world of difference. I also have DH do specific things with the kids like he is the one to bath them so I get a few minutes at least to myself. Hugs to you.
Awesome news one everyone have great weight gains. My god our babies are all hitting the month mark. Time flies.
DD2 (TOUCH WOOD) seems to do ok at night. She wakes twice normally for a feed and goes back down OK. Now I have jinxed myself.
We went to the breasfteeding clinic the other day because we have attachment issues. It is slightly better now but we still are not 100%. We will get there I am sure.
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