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hi everyone
dont have alot of time to post but just wanted to gove missbec a hug - i was wondering where you were. sounds like a tough time - hope it improves soon. will write more tomorrow honey.
Welcome LNB - and congrats on Nate! looking fwd to getting to know you.
Thanks girls...
LNB wonder weeks are when our babies go through development spurts...
LNB - welcome! Great to have a new member to the forum! Congrats on your baby Nate! Unfortunately I cannot offer any advice at present. Sam had a rough week last week but that was just not wanting to sleep as much and being a bit out of whack but nothing major. Perhaps in about a weeks time I will be asking you for advice though!
Missbec - Sorry to hear about all the problems. Skin issues must be so frustrating and it must be so hard trying so many different things and nothing helping and your poor little one suffering. I can't believe the bottle and formula either! I can't believe you tried swapping bottles etc. You must be pretty patient. It is so hard sometimes when nothing seems to be going right to keep your cool. I am glad that if you feel there is no one to talk to that you can come here and off load, everyone needs that. I hope things stay good with DF (I have no idea what that stands for by the way) and that the chat helped. I have a great husband who helps out a lot but I know when you have been changing nappies all day, settling to sleep, pacifying crying all day by 5pm you are tired and when he won't settle and is crying it is nice to have someone just to give you even 5 minutes of time out just to get your head together again. I hope things get better...
Lovelycate - good to see you back! Glad things are going well. I find that Sam is hard to settle when we go anywhere!! He is only staying awake for max 1 hour at present so by the time you feed and get out the door he should be asleep!! Hard when you have to go places and same thing, he gets really over tired sometimes and misses whole sleeps. I just hope he starts staying awake a bit longer soon so that helps a bit. 6 weeks is ages to be on your own, so I hope everything goes well! You will be fine I am sure!
Jess - glad to see you got the house work done! I go through half the house vacuuming today!!
AFM, Sam is doing well and settling to sleep pretty well. He has done only 6 feeds today instead of 7 and slept a lot so here is hoping that tonight he doesn't wake earlier!! He is going 10pm - 3.30am roughly at the moment. He is still only awake for a max of 1 hour or less, I see people saying they have babies awake for 1 1/2 to 2 hours! I would love that, I love play time and I hate putting him to bed all the time, but I should probably enjoy it while it last right!! Sam is screaming still after bath time, worked out I think it is just the difference in the temp as once in his clothes again he calmed down. Husband is upset that we are skipping massage at the moment as he loved that bonding time but Sam is too unhappy! Anyway, hope everyone is well and hope to hear more news soon! :D
missbec - you poor thing! Sometimes I think it's worse having somebody around who doesn't do anything than having nobody at all. Especially if that person also needs some looking after. Feel free to pm me if you want to have more of a vent at any time - that's what we're here for!
LNB - welcome to you and congrats on Nate. Doesn't it seem like you just get the hang of how things 'work' and then they go and change the rules on you? :lol:
Jetta - we are planning to go away with DH next time as he will be in Wellington and our family is in Christchurch, so it should be good, although the idea of flying with a baby is a bit intimidating... Definitely enjoy the sleeping while you can - Zac is one of those who will stay up easily for 1 1/2 to 2 hours, but then only sleeps for 45 mins max - although the last couple of days he has decided to just 'cat nap' - 10-20 mins :doh:
Whereabouts do you bath Sam? I'm still lugging the baby bath into the nursery and I turn the heat up in there about half an hour or so beforehand. The other thing I do is to wrap the towel and his clothes around a hot water bottle. They do seem to drop temp very quickly...
AFM - ended up missing mothers' group yesterday as Zac slept a bit late and then when we got in the car found that DH had left it with no petrol... since Zac had been a bit unsettled all day, decided to just go for a bit of a drive and give group a miss...
hi all welcome to any new people. Anton has had a few bad days saturday wasnt happy with just bm tried formula to top him off stiill happy went to sleep round 5am sunday morn i was up with the older 3 round 7.30am couldnt settle him sunday spoke to my ex and later on my neighbour about the last 2 night yesterday they both suggested watered down farax gave it a try 1 very happy 10 week old
Hi Everyone,
Welcome LNB - My bub was born on the 9th of July, so very close to your little man Nate. Eva had a couple of weeks of sleeping longer periods at night but she has regressed back to waking up for 2 feeds and is not going back down for at least 1 hour. A wonder week is a period of growth and development. Often this week sees bub regress with sleep, become unsettled or fussy and need feeding more or generally change their normal patterns. After the period is over bub generally settles back to norm and you'll notice bub has grown or learnt a new skill.
Hugs to all
hey everyone. sorry havent been around much lately, my laptop has decided to die so have to wait for some money to buy a new one. am using df's computer, but dont get a chance to kick him off it very often! Lol. Hayley is going well. She is becoming very noisy! Gurgling and cooing lots and sometimes almost yelling, but she loves it! Except for last night she has slept through the last 4 nights in a row, although i think that had a lot to do with the fact we were in Sydney - and I think she was tired from the drive up on Friday, then visiting heaps of people and my SIL's 21st party on Saturday, then driving home on Sunday. She screamed most of the way from Gundagai to home, i think she was just so sick of being in the car. Last night she woke at 2 for a feed, was hoping she had gotten into a routine of sleeping through, but 4 nights in a row is pretty good! She is asleep now and has been for a couple of hours, one of her longest day sleeps in a while. She will probably wake up soon though.
we havent joined a mothers group yet...i do want to but am quite a shy person so am pretty nervous/anxious about meeting new people, and i guess worried about how they will react...we were the youngest couple at our ante natal classes by at least 5 or 6 years, so i doubt it will be any different at a mothers group...so i want to go for Hayley's sake, especially as she gets older, but then I'm not the most social person and find it hard to meet new people and make new friends. guess i will just have to dig up some courage and go find one to join!
anyway better go and try and get some stuff done before she wakes. hope all your bubs are going well, and welcome LNB!
SS - I think the MACH nurses organise the mother's groups... well they do here anyway... I think you will enjoy it and get a lot out of it and people will be v open to you. People join them bc they want to meet other people with young babies - so they will be open to making friends with you. Get the courage up and go - I promise you wont regret it and if they arent v nice people you can always give it a miss after a couple of sessions. i enjoyed mine a lot with Noah and made one of my best friends out of it... I am disappointed I dont get one this time around!
That is great that you got those few nights of miss H sleeping through - that must have been good for you!!! J hasnt slept thru at all yet, he wakes for at least 2 feeds each night and sometimes more. I dont mind though, so far he is a lot easier than N ever was!
Jess - wow on the solids working.. are you going to intro solids from now? I hope Anton contnues to be settled for you. I think of you often, dont know how you manage all your 4 kids on your own!
Hi to everyone else!
All is well here. Poor J still has his cold but he is a lot better, i think it is just a seasonal thing and soon it will pass as the weather improves. he is so responsive now which is great - so many big smiles and coos. he loves when i sing to him (he will get over that i am sure LOL) and he adores Noah. it is beautoful to see how they become little people with expressions etc. I am really enjoying him and having the time off work with him. It was hard going when DH was away and he has 2 more trips in Oct... grrrrrrrrrrrrr!
I went to the Mach nurse on monday to have him weighed - he is v close to 6 kg now (5.9something) and 60cm. his head has grown but his fontanelle is still v small so she wants me to go to the gp. it is a bit scary if i closes over... the flat spot looks a bit better whcih is great.
better go, he is looking at me longingly for a feed... hope all is well.
Just had to share - we had a giggle this afternoon!! Was so funny DF & I couldnt stop laughing..had tears rolling down my face! Lol. We took Hayley outside to say hello to the dog. He was just sitting there and she was looking at him when all of a sudden she let out a burst of laughter. It was hilarious! She wouldn't do it again though, as much as we were trying to get her to laugh again. It was so cute!
ss - how gorgeous! Zac hasn't really laughed yet, although he sort of chuckles/giggles now and then which is very cute (of course :-) ) Don't you wish that you could just re-play the moment over and over??
I agree with preagainpan re the mothers' group thing - go for it! Whoever organises the groups may be able to give you some sort of feeling for the other mothers who will be involved. A friend of mine opted to join a group in a nearby suburb instead of the one she lives in as she felt that the people in her area were all very snobby and she didn't want that sort of thing :lol: The group I'm in has a huge age range - to be honest it's hard to tell how old you are when you're not getting enough sleep anyway, but there are definitely some women in their early twenties, plus some old hags like myself ;) I find it hard to meet new people, but everybody is the same. They're all first time mums, so all in the same boat and keen to share their experiences with others. (gawd, I sound like an evangelist for the cause don't I?!)
jesscook - my god! Anton is just growing up too fast! At least you've found something which seems to settle him down - good work all round!
hugs to all :-)
hi all thanks for the encouragement it is a straggle with the 4 most of the time but ive had a bit of a break this week the 2 older ones have been with their dad most of the time.
Gave Anton some apple today he loved eat he had 1/2 can this morning the other 1/2 tonight. for now im just sticking to apple n farex.
i loved going to mothersgroup with Charity then again with Enoch didnt go with Faith and with Anton i think with my cousin n 1 of my friends we have our own group all 3 babies are 4 3 and 2 months old so all close in age.
Hi Ladies -
Thanks so much for the welcomes and advice on the wonder weeks. I read the website information on wonder weeks and it described exactly what we were going through. We're now in the sunny time and Nate is so much happier.
Break through for us has been he has skipped his 3 AM feed for the last 2 nights. He is feeding (a cluster feed) at around 6pm, 12pm and 6AM. I realised this morning that I miss the 3AM feed !!
There is nothing like advice from experienced mothers, I talked to our MCHN nurse about the changes in the last week or so and she did not have anywhere near as much positive information as the ladies in this group. So glad this forum exists.
Hope everyone's bubs are doing well and enjoying sunny days !
Take care,
LNB
hi & welcome LNB (sorry i'm a bit late!). sounds like nate is going great guns with the sleeping - it's so nice when their sleep improves or they drop a feed!
cate - love the picture of zac in your sig, he's gorgeous!
ss_storm - so exciting when they do something new!! i hope hayley gives you lots more laughs soon!
preagainpan!!!!! - we're still on at least two feeds a night here too, although i do think it's improving (just in time for us to get complacent before the 4mth crazy time, hey?!). good to hear that J is feeling a bit better...do you have to go back to work soon or do you get to keep enjoying some time at home?
miss bec - sorry to hear that things have been rough & that Teaghan as had skin problems. the moogoo is fab though, isn't it? how have things been this week? please vent away any time...that's what we're here for!
jetta - how have bath times been this week?
saw the nurse this week & corey is now 7.2kg...omg he almost weighs the same as his 6mth old cousin!! she did say how he's not carrying excess weight though & it just looks like he might be a tall/big boy! he'll probably be taller than me before he starts school :lol:
we have our second mother's group this afternoon. i think i was so excited last week that corey slept for almost the whole time & was a little angel that i didn't really think about whether i sort of fit in to the group & what i think of it. i want to stick it out though because it would be lovely for corey to have some friends his own age from such a young age...does that make sense?
Eeek I don't think i can do personals for all those posts! Have just come back from a few days away, so haven't been on for a bit.
Missbec, big hugs :hug: offload as much as you need! As Sloane & Cate said, it's what we're here for :) Just remember it won't always be like this. The best advice my mother ever gave me was...everything changes ;)
LNB welcome :) and congrats on the arrival of Nate! Glad to hear things are settling down.
There IS great advice here, and fantastic support, I think the reason it is so good is that we aren't 'professionals' , just other mums doing the same thing, and there are so many of us there is bound to be someone who is/ has been in a similar spot. Not to mention how good it is to get on & be able to have a vent, and get :hug: lol. in fact I am so fond of these ladies I snuck into this thread, I don't really belong here - Arlea was too late :rofl:
Pre - you changed your name! & love the avvy ;) lucky I spotted your avvy before I went away, it took me a minute to work out who the 'new person' was lol. That's just me being a bit sleep deprived & slow lol....
AFM, we have just come back from 3 days at mum's, my sister is due to have her first baby any day, she is very tired & over it... hmm I remember how that feels! She is expecting a girl, so will be lovely for Arlea to have a cousin so close in age.
Arlea & I have colds, it's her first (& my first for the year!) but nothing too serious just a bit sniffly. It has hindered the BF attempts the last few days...not that we were making any great progress, really. I am donating my surplus milk to the milk bank here so that is nice.
And ...it's official... I am going back to work on the 15th of October. Just one day a week atm, maybe another one day a fortnight on top, nothing more for at least 6 mths, the rest I will do from home. I know a lady who does family daycare, so Arlea will be in with her, her first day is the 8th. I am not going to work that day as I am not sure how I will cope....
ETA - I just spotted my ticker & realised she is 2 months today :redface: wow that goes fast....
missbec - sorry things have been so tough. Fingers crossed things start looking up soon!
LNB - Welcome! Sounds like Nate is sleeping well for you!
Pre - Love the new name, took me a second to figure out who you were!
Jasp - Hope the transition back to work goes smoothly. I'm sure Arlea will do great!
AFM - Been feeling a bit down this week actually. I'm really feeling not having a license atm. I'm sick of being trapped at home. We needed milk this morning so I bundled them both into the pram and away we went, a block away Oliver started screaming, so into the sling he went. Didn't want to be in there either. I trundled on, pushing Noah and trying to quieten Ollie. Finally got to the shops and realised I'd left my wallet on the kitchen table. Had to turn around and come all the way back, of course then it started raining too. Felt like crying right along with Ollie at that point!
Luckily I managed to whip back in a rare quiet period and pick it up, but that made me really want my license. Too bad I'm super nervous about driving.
My mum and my sister both recently went from working part time to full time recently, so I'm missing having them pop around during the week too.
Anyway, I'm sure I'll get out of this bad mood soon. It doesn't help that Danny is out tonight at The Footy Show Grand Final Show (he works on Wednesday nights, so have been stuck at home with the both of them alone since Tuesday morning).
I thought his wind should be getting better by now, if anything it seems to be getting worse. He won't sit with his legs bent for very long, as that seems to cause him discomfort. He'd be happy if I could carry him upside down on my forearm all day, unfortunately that's not exactly practical.
Sorry for the pity post!
yeah Anton selpt from 10pm to 6am lastnight
lauren - :hug: i hope today is much kinder to you.
jess - :dance: wtg anton!
jas - hope you & arlea are feeling better.
wow I'm impressed with some of the sleeps your babies are getting! I guess that's one of the drawbacks of co-sleeping for us plus low milk supply - we don't comp over night, so he sort of snacks all night :rolleyes: He had a few nights recently where he's gone down at around 7pm and slept for 4-5 hours before coming into bed with me - fantastic! - but hasn't made a habit of it unfortunately...
LotusFlower - don't apologise, sounds like you're having a sucky week! Have you tried some massage on Ollie? you can stroke their bellies in the shape of a 'C' which apparently encourages stuff to move through their digestion. Pinky Mackay has a baby massage DVD which you can from the library and she talks about massage for sore baby tummies.
AFM - looking forward to the weekend. Even though DH has worked from home a couple of days this week, it's not the same as when he's actually home and not working!
Hope everyone has a good one.