O&G - I'm so sorry to read about your XP causing you dramas. So not what you need right now... Wish there was something more I could do. Is there a childcare near the hosp? Any way you could spend more time there? Must be so stressing for you - I can only imagine and send lots more big
mitf - tea shouldn't be as much of an issue as apparently most of the caffeine stays in the tea bag or tea leaves. Or so I have heard!!! Good to know about chocolate I do have a very sweet tooth...
As for unsettled bubs - fortunately for me X seems to be quite a content bub and easy to settle - at this point anyway! But I do know what you are going through - DD needed lots of cuddles, rocking and being held to get her to sleep. I have memories of sitting on the couch for an hour or so at all hours of the day and night to try and settle her... co-sleeping only really worked for us in the morning, for some strange reason.
Don't feel bad or anything for co-sleeping and not having a routine. Don't forget little L is so tiny he doesn't know which way is up, let alone what time he should be feeding. I'm taking a much more relaxed approach this time around - X seems to need to feed 3 sides (as in L, R then back to L after a little break) before he is really full, so that's just what I'm going with. And if he wants a feed an hour after I've fed him, I'll feed him. Routines don't really work for babies until their circadian rhythm is aligned - I think with DD we started the bath, boob, bed by 7pm routine basically as soon as we were home but she didn't get it until like about 3 or 4 months I'm sorry to say!
Til then, we had extended periods of cluster feeding from 6pm to anywhere around midnight, sometimes before. But she did get it, eventually. You just try everything and whatever works for you, works for you.
I've been bringing X into bed with us after he wakes in the early morning, so between 3 and 6am... I figure its the coldest part of the night and that's the warmest place for him, but also it means I can doze while he feeds. I've even remembered how to feed both sides without having to move him... I have big BBs...
Do whatever works for you hun. Whatever you can to get the rest you need.
SB - maybe its a boy/girl thing - X seems to think long and hard and then squint his eyes and I hear "squoooosh" and he's completely filled his entire (often just put on and clean ) nappy! I remember DD did some poo-splosions but not many...
Very exciting about DS's birthday! Jealous of your "toy room" - DD's toys are strewn all over the house!
Hope DD continues to be a happy bub for you!
Hi to Salad, Dr T, Emma, Jessey! And anyone I missed! Hope everyone is travelling well and adjusting to this thing called motherhood!
AFM: X is still a pretty contented bub at the moment. I know it can change so quickly... but for the moment I am enjoying being able to play with my DD more than I used to and I am falling in love with my little boy. He has such a wise little face and often after a feed he just looks at me, so serious... but then he'll get a bit of wind and smile and it just makes me love him more.
As I said above we don't really have a routine as such but he is feeding 2-3hrly during the day and a bit longer at night, 3-5hrly. I woke up yesterday morning to an alternate universe where I had fed Xander at 9.30pm and put him down, went to bed 10.30pm, he fed 2.30am and was back asleep by 3.15am, 6am DH went to work (usually wakes DD) but DD kept sleeping, we all slept til 7.15am
DD woke and we had brekky and played, DS didn't wake til 8.30am so I'd had a shower and we were all good! That was a pretty good morning!
I know it can't last but I will enjoy it while I can.
Brooke – don’t blame you for the not so positive post. I feel like I am really doing it tough and don’t have time for everything and everyone and have DH to help, so hats off to you hun, you are doing an amazing job.
Star – I know what you mean about not being able to wait for DS birthday. I couldn’t wait to give DS his train tracks and table etc. Am slightly regretting it now as he does nothing else and is obsessed and always wants me to ‘play trains’ with him. Its very cute though.
Hands up over here for another boy with an explosive bottom !
Mitf – the early weeks are so hard with bubs that just don’t seem to settle. My bub is waking every 2.5 - 3 hours to feed and it is really taking its toll. Occasionally we get a 4 hour stretch but rarely. Not too sure is there is much you can do about it at this stage. Just have to wait until they are a little bigger and stronger and can last longer on the feed. I found that routines don’t really work this early on except for steering bubs in to a day / night routine to encourage longer sleeps at night rather than during the day. However a warm bath does seem to wear them out and relax them, a big feed and usually a better/longer sleep. Good luck
OP – I am very jealous of your day. I had a similar one a few days ago but sadly back to newborn normal ! I know what you mean about falling in love with you little one. I just can’t get enough of him. I feel so much more relaxed second time around and although have no time for anything seem to find plenty of time to just enjoy him and now stress like the first time. With DS1 I think I was over analyzing everything and worrying too much to be able to really enjoy it all.
Sorry, I didn’t go back and read the last couple of pages from our old thread so I am sure I have missed heaps. So a big hello to everyone, hope you are all well and getting some rest
DS was in daycare today so had a great day out in Fremantle walking and coffee’ing. However I am now totally knackered after not having a nanna nap today, I am off to bed.
Jacki - Sounds like you had a good day out and about! And I hear you on being exhausted if you don't have your nanna nap. I usually tuck Brock in next to me about 1 or so and have an hour and a half or so nap with him. Then I put him in his cot and get a few things done around the house till he wakes up.
OP - I envy you being able to give X both sides without having to move him Can't say my breasts are that big. It's a mission to switch sides with B. He's usually partly asleep and won't want to latch properly to the second side, but still wants food so gets squirmy and grouchy and we usually both end up with a milk bath I'm slowly getting better with it though.
Mitf - That must be so frustrating for you. Sorry I don't have any suggestions to help. I'm confident you'll get it figured out.
SB - The poo splosions MUST be a boy thing. I get 3-4 (sometimes more) of them a day! So far today I've already gone through 4 outfits and about 8 diapers I don't know how they leak out. Doesn't matter if I use MCN's or throwaways, how careful I am to make sure the edges are tight the poo seems to leak out everywhere! Up his back, down his legs, around his willy, up his belly it seems like I'm constantly washing the poor little guy.
Salad -
O&G - You're entitled to have a 'me' post once in a while. From the sounds of it you're dealing with several very hard situations at the moment and all things considered are doing a pretty good job. I hope it gets easier for you soon.
AFM - Just fed and put B down for his long afternoon nap. Am not too tired today, so thought I might take advantage of the situation and see if I can get my birth story written!
Wish there was something more I could do. Is there a childcare near the hosp? Any way you could spend more time there? Must be so stressing for you - I can only imagine and send lots more big
I do have a very sweet tooth...
I have big BBs...
) nappy! I remember DD did some poo-splosions but not many...
I hope it gets easier for you soon.
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