Babies born~March 16th-31st 2010 #1

Hi ladies,

Teresa- sorry to hear about your mum, now that they have found it early it means they can start treatment though. My dad was diagnosed with renal cancer 4 years ago and they cut out his left kidney but he got secondaries in his liver, has been on chemo pills since then and the tumors have shrunk and he is doing really well, he didn't even lose his hair and lives fairly normally other than feeling a bit crook sometimes. So, cancer treatment has come a long way in the last few years so hopefully your mum will be fine. Big hugs. Hopefully Hamish will sort out his feeding issues too as you dont need the extra stress, but even if he doesn't, don't feel guilty if you have to switch to formula, it's getting him fed that counts :)

B and Missawah- glad we are now friends on FB :) B, i went to Northwest Private to have Adrian, really good hospital and great midwives. Where did you go?

Insom- hope there is nothing serious with Aidan but it is always good to get these things checked out. As for your expressing dilemma? Maybe try really hot showers or packs before expressing? If youv'e already tried that then i'm at a loss. Hope it all gets sorted.

Hi to all the other mummies,
Talk later

B- nevermind, i can see from your photos you were at Northwest too! :) We were nearly there at the same time!

Hi!

Well, I managed to get Louis to kinder on time this morning at 8.45am!! Woohoo - go me! LOL! I even had a shower as well before I left which I didn't think would happen. It was a full on day though as we went straight from kinder to Dylans sports class, the home, lunch for the 2 middle boys, back to pick Louis up, off to the mchn for Jaydens check up and then back home! I was soo tired. Had my first tears this afternoon - just a few when dh got home and just plonked himself on the couch while I was busy making lasagne for dinner and tidying the kitchen. Just thought it would have been nice for him to see how I was and if I needed a hand with anything...oh well, he knows for tomorrow hopefully - LOL! Was good to have a cry though and get the stress of the day out - felt much better for it afterwards!
So Jayden had his check up - he's put on 190g in 6 days and is now 3.91kg!!

Teresa - Big hugs to you...so sorry to hear about your mum...wishing her the best of luck to fight it - glad to hear they've caught it early...
As for bubs..how's the feeding going? He doesn't have thrush does he?? Might be worth getting him checked out for that...??

Insom - Hope bubs is ok with he muscle in his tummy...Yep - bubs often sounds a little snuffly...not all the time but I have noticed it fairly often...

Hoping to get some decent sleep tonight - bubs was up heaps last night...often he's only feeding one side overnight which makes him settle easier but he wakes sooner for the next feed...oh well, won't last forever!!

Chat later...

Hi everyone!

Krisvee, I agree, 4 boys don't know how you do it!

Teresa, really sorry to hear about your mum, glad they got it early and wishing her all the best for a full recovery

Con, when do we get to see photos :P

B, how's the new formula?

Insom, Harri sounds congested sometimes too. Hoping your little boy is ok, I'm certain he will be though. As for the BF, hope it gets easier for you, it can be so frustrating!

Jelly, loved the photos of Adrian on FB, adorable!

AFM we've had a great couple of days, we now know it was Harri's 2 week growth spurt that was causing him to be more unsettled and wanting to feed more than usual. But now he's back to normal and we're even getting a night time routine!:o I expressed today and managed to get 50mls so I was super stoked and just have to keep it up to help with my milk supply (although apparently he's getting heaps anyway). It was nice though to be able to give DP a bottle and let him feed Harri, was lovely to watch.

Harrison put on 100g in a week this week, so he's up to 3.9kg and hoping he can crack the 4kg mark on Monday when we have another visit. He's 3 weeks old today, can't believe how quick its gone!

Hi to everyone I've missed and hope everyone is going well :D

thanks everyone for your well wishes and support. she is booked in for a mastectomy on may 7th which she is dreading. will know more details over the next couple of weeks. feeling positive knowing that they have caught it early.

with Hamish and his feeding, thought that i would try to bf him every 2nd feed and see how i go with that. he takes to the top up bottle with no issues so i dont know why he isnt taking to me. i use the nipple shield every feed so i cant understand why he will have the bottle no probs but not me. going to express after every feed too just to keep my supply up. i always check his mouth and cant see any thrush at all. i did think of that to begin with but cos he has the bottle no probs, i figure he has a problem with me. a friend said that your milk changes flavour around now so maybe mine has and he isnt sure of the new taste. who knows.

insom - Hamish sounds very snuffly and i am still yet to go to the chemist and get some fess to clear his nose. its just saline so there is no drugs and its completely safe. if i was at work i would get some saline there and syringes but i cant!!! maybe try some fess too and see how u go.

big wave and hi to everyone xxx

Hi Ladies,

Just popping in to say hi and do a quicky post, very tired today.....

Teresa, I'm sorry to hear the news about your mum. Big huhs hun. I'm glad they've caught it early though, I wish her all the very best in her recovery.

Krisvee, it's good to have a little cry sometimes, it does wonders for the stress!! Hope you're feeling better now, you are a true star hun, looking after 4 children including a newborn AND finding time/energy to cook tea!! I feel so bad as I can't even handle looking after one baby!!! :wall:

Missawah, I'm so happy Harri is doing so well. Cam also went ferral at 2 weeks of age, a big growth spurt they told me!!

InSom, Cam has this thing where he looks like he's choking but at the hossy they told me it's the flem he doesn't know how to bring up yet. He's also been congested too, I thought he had a cold but I think it's just excess milk, that makes thim make these gurgling noises....what the????

b, fingers crossed that Karicare Gold works for your little man!!

Hi to everone else, sorry for not replying to everyone...

I'm struggling here a bit. I have had another horrible day yesterday, Cam didn't sleep much at all yesterday and was a horror in the evening. It 's times like that that I question myself as a mum. I can't even settle my own baby. I feel like a failure. Today I had some tears too, just before DF got home so he wouldn't see. I ask myself, am I a good mum?? Was I really ready to be a mum and have this massive life changing experience?? I don't think it's baby blues anymore, I'm scared it's the begining of PND. I'm seeing my psychologist in a couple of weeks time, I will have a chance to talk to her about it.

On a good note, Cam had a better day today. At the moment though, we have one good day and the next not so good. So of course I'm expecting a bad one tomorrow :o
I had a visit to the maternal health nurse yesterday. He's put on 630 grams in two weeks, so she said I'm slightly overfeeding him ATM. That would explain the little chucks he has after every feed and the unsettling periods. He weighs 4.43 kg now, big chubba. I simply increased his feeds from 125 ml every 3/4 hours to 140 ml in the last week or so. So now I have gone back to 125 ml.

B x

Teresa - Thinking positive thoughts for your Mum!

Missawah - How did DP like giving him the bottle? Mine told me last night he doesnt enjoy it, because Tiah fights it for the first couple of minutes and he knows she would prefer the boob.... I sense he just prefers her having the boob so he can relax!

Krisvee- I think I cry every damn day! I usually finish it laughing, but when I start maaan I am woeful.

Beata - I am feeling a bit the same myself. I was in tears this afternoon because Tiah was unsettled and DP was going to be away all night (Danny Green fight) I am actually a little scared of her... and I know how crazy that sounds. I was asking DP if he thought I would be ok, what if I drop her? What if she chokes? What if something happens and I dont know what to do? He told me I am fine, and I am managing well blah blah blah. But I keep second guessing every little thing I do.

Add that to the fact that I took Tiah to the Dr today and she has reflux so is now on medication for it. SIGH... and it is a freaking TABLET I have to crush and feed to her in a syringe... who thinks of these things for babies?!?!?!??!

Meercat, thanks hun :hug: I also sit there and feel a bit scared of Cam too :o, trying to guess what mood he'll wake up in, ie will he scream, whinge, or just be generally grumpy and HOW in the name of the Lord will I settle him this time???? Thank God I have mum helping me, but I feel terrified when she leaves me on my own, and DF is still a couple of hours away at work! I generally call him every afternoon to make sure he's coming straight home!! The other day I freaked out as he was stopping at the shops on the way home, I just wanted him to come home, like, NOW!!!!

Big hugs to you, I've no doubt you are doing an awsome job hun, it just feels so overwhelming sometimes doesn't it??? Poor little Tiah, taking those awful tablets, why couldn't they think of a nice milky tasting thing?????? :wall:

big hugs Beata, my midwife tells me they have growth spurts at 2, 4, 6 and 12 weeks so he could be going through that, chin up you're doing a great job!

Meercat, DP really enjoyed it, he got excited, I've expressed again tonight and he's going to give Harri that too and then Harri will go to the boob. Harri fought the bottle too, but when he realised what was in it, it became easier. The first time I expressed today I was impressed I got about 30-40mls but tonight I've managed to get about 60mls so seems the supply is good.

Also believe in yourselves, I'm no expert as I've only been doing this 3 weeks myself and I still have meltdowns. But honestly you are the best mum for your child, be confident in the decisions you make :)

Hi all!

Hope you are going well.

~b~ All is going well thanks. I am interested in your settling routine...how do you do it? I have read a few books on settling, and i self settled my older two around 3 months. I am looking to start Grace a little earlier, around 1 month.

Beata- I hope you are okay. Like the others have said, don't doubt yourself. I'm sure you are a great mum...it takes time to adjust and i'm sure we all have a few tears on an off day. (i do!) Remember the more up tight/stressed you are, the more up tight/stressed bub will be...they pick up on your moods and anxiety. Baby blues can last up to 6 weeks so i have been told...it's a good idea to talk to someone though.

Misssawah- i might pop a photo on facebook today. Hubby isn't too keen on me putting up photo's of Grace, he doesn't like the internet and is worried about security and such.

Jelly maker- i will send you a friend invite on facebook...

Afm- Grace is doing great. She is growing so fast! I am going to miss her being so little and fragile! Hubby says he loves watching the motherly side of me, it reminds him of his mum! lol! I think the hardest thing i have had to do is give myself permission to slow down and relax during the day. I keep telling myself it's okay to be in my pj's till 9am, and it's okay to sit down on the lounge and watch a movie at midday! I'm just so used to being super busy with work and not having time to stop and smell the roses!

Hi everyone! Sorry I have been missing in action for a few days - have been trying to keep up with the posts, but will probably forget half of what's been said.

teresa so sorry to hear about your mum. Ditto what everyone else has saidre catching it early. Isn't it awful that we all have to face our families or even ourselves going through this?

Hope Hamish's feeding has improved.

Con great to hear that Grace is doing well. Would also love to see a pic on facebook.

~b~ routine sounds great! Hoping that it works out well for you!

Missawah great to hear your DP enjoyed feeding Harri! Makes them feel a lot more included!

Beata you are doing a fantastic job. Try not to stress about good and bad days - easier said than done, I know. Babies are so unpredictable that you never know what's around the corner. Just have to try and stay positive and calm!

Meercat that's awful that Tiah has reflux. Better to get it treated though. Good luck with the tablets!

Krisvee you are Supermum! How you manage is beyond me!

insom let us know how you get on with Aiden re the muscle.

Jelly tried to find you on FB but had the same problem as ~b~ - any clues re your picture?

Hi to everyone I have missed.

Well, as for us, all is going pretty well. Fraser (so far - touch wood) is settling into his mini-routine that we are doing, and is not having any "awake ready for playtime" through the night, which is great. He's still feeding anywhere 2-4 hourly (usually 3 hourly), but I can cope with that!
He's growing so big, it's unreal! I saw a newborn at the shops the other day and it put into perspectove just how much he has grown!
We've had a couple of bad days where Fraser has had so much wind and appeared to be constipated. On Sunday, he screamed from 3 pm til 11 pm. We tried everything to calm him - even went out in the car for an hour but nothing would settle him at all. Hopefully these are few and far between.

Not sure if I mentioned this but the company I worked (or technically still work) for had a couple of guys who left to set up on their own. They have asked me to do bits and pieces of work for them (from home) and now they have come back and want to make it more of a permanent thing! I have already done 15 hours this week for them, just when Fraser is sleeping. When I need to go into the office, I can take Fraser with me! Hoping that this works out well - even if it's just long enough to clear the credit card that we had to use to get a new car (after the reposession debarcle). We're still waiting to hear about that and awaiting a response from the previous owners to see if they are going to pay up! Not holding my breath though!

so there was mega consequences to feeding Harri with a bottle...now he doesn't want the boob...he's not attatching and the only way he's been able to feed today was if I've held him really tightly in place. Am very close to just going and buying a tin of formula :dunno:

missawah i understand completely what u r going thru!!! Hamish just either wont attach and scream or will attach, feed for a few minutes or seconds then scream. i just end up giving him the bottle as its just not worth getting him worked up even more. he did bf from me for around 8 mins this morning but then proceeded to scream and cry again. now i can only express 30mls from both boobs if i am lucky. i think i am drying up. its so damn annoying

ok thought i would just let everyone know, had success with bf Hamish before!! was able to get him on without the nipple shield and didnt use the pillow i normally used. somehow (awkwardly too) managed to hold him to feed him. he latched on immediately and ate away. so excited. did chuck at the end but at least he fed!! dont want to give him a top up bottle now!!

missawah - i meant to ask before, what bottle are u using? we use the tommee tippee closer to nature which has made it easy (up until now) to bf and bottle feed Hamish. he has to really work to get the milk out of the teat where as other bottles just are free flow. HTH.

Teresa, yay for him being able to feed today on the boob! well done!! Harri also had a good feed tonight and is now finally asleep. I used the bottle that came with the breast pump, it's shaped like a nipple and the opening is very small, so we thought we could get away with it. But alas, just means when I do express I'll put it straight in the freezer and build up a nice supply and just get through this 6 weeks with him on the boob only.

I'm only getting between 30-60mls when I express to and when we gave him the bottle he went to the boob after for topping up. Who would have thought that something that's so natural could be so bloody difficult!

OK... Last night I had a realisation!

Tiah has been unsettled pretty much since a family member sat next to me while she was feeding, and told me I wasnt doing it right, Tiah wasnt feeding she was just on there for comfort... then she told me I wasnt burping her right and that Tiah had thrush.

So I realised last night that since that moment, without even noticing the change, I went from confident and sure about what I was doing - to second guessing myself. I stopped just cuddling Tiah and letting her use me for comfort, to stressing because she hadnt burped and getting annoyed because she wouldnt sleep. I started giving her wind treatment when it hadnt been an issue before and getting frustrated when she cried.

So last night, I cuddled her and let her stay on my boob as long as she wanted. I didnt rush to put her in the bassinet... I just held her and didnt stress that she was going to wake up soon. Yeah she still threw up (Damn you reflux) but she slept for 4 hours, and when she woke up she was so much more content and even though I had only had an hour or so sleep... I was so much more content!

Ok there is my rant. I am so annoyed that someone could rattle me without me even noticing, but now I am going to just do whatever I want because I do know what is right for my child!

(Oh and the person who gave me all this advice? A midwife a million years ago who has never had children. She meant well and was only trying to help, but she had no concept of the emotional side of breastfeeding... only the mechanics. And Tiah has gained 1kg since birth so I figure she is doing it right!)

Hi!

Just a quick one - I'll try and do personals soon!!

Just wanted to say in regards to routine/sleep training...each to their own but just from a different perspective - I did all the "wrong" things...fed babies to sleep, rocked them, let them sleep in my bed at times, let them fall asleep on my chest, etc etc and Ethan has slept through every night from 9 1/2 months old...Louis is a great sleeper and has been since about 1yo, and Dylan is a pretty good sleeper who wakes up more than the others but is happy to be put straight back to bed...all of them are easy to put to bed in the evening due to a good evening routine of dinner, bath, story and bed...

Anyway, my point is not that you have to do things the way I have but just know that you can go with your instincts and it doesn't mean they will never sleep well...You really can't "spoil" a baby...they need us...and as long as you make choices that suit you and your baby and choices that you are comfortable with you can't go wrong!! Enjoy your babies - I promise it all goes so fast (even though at times those nights can feel like they'll last forever!!)

Just wanted to get all that out while I had 2 seconds...xoxo

Chat later!!

I also heard from a chiro that it is actually healthy for babies to wake up every few hours...too often and it's stressful for them and too little and their usually not making all the brain connections they need to be in those early months!! I found that really interesting!
It's also completely normal for babies to be unsettled, and cry and have wind and is in no way a reflection on your parenting...Oh and for those of you that have the babies that catnap...my kids all did that a lot...some babies won't sleep for 2 or 3 hours at a time...they take 20min here or 40min there...again - just one of those things...sometimes they resettle and sometimes they don't...

I highly recommend reading from Pinky Mckay...check out her books on ebay perhaps or I dont' think they're that expensive in the shop - 100 ways to calm the crying is a book I read snippets of everyday to keep me on track...and she has one called toddler tactics which is great for when their older...Also a book called - the science of parenting (although I think it has a new name now) is fantastic...These books AREN'T about routine though...Some people find a routine works for their baby and some people don't - again, this isn't a reflection on your parenting...if anything it just does your own head in to try and make them fit a mold that they obviously aren't interested in!!

xoxo

Speaking of which - bubs is just waking up...chat later!! (Promise I'll stop ranting...lol!)

b - I was like that a bit with Louis as well...even though I tried so hard not too...lol...

Krisvee - I am actually looking up Piny Mckay right now! Someone gave me the Save our Sleep book when I was pregnant, and I like some of the advice but I just could not leave Tiah to cry ....

B- You are right about peoples negative comments starting everything off on the wrong track - we even had a friend tell us that we were idiots if we had Tiah in our room longer than one week. When I pointed out that the SIDS foundation recommends they share a room for up to 12 months, we were graced with a lecture about how HE had kids so he knew better.

I spent all this morning just snuggling with Tiah on the couch, didnt feel guilty and stayed in my PJS :)It was so nice, and she was loving it!

Hi!

I just had the most amazing massage at home!!! My neck and shoulders were sooo tight!!

Meercat - Sounds like you had a fantastic morning!! Good for you!

Hoping bubs has a good night...last night was the best night we've had since he arrived...he went 5 hours, then 3 hours and then 3 1/2 hours...so I actually got a bit of sleep which was soo needed...

Feeling all blissed out now so will be heading to bed soon...I've got a big weekend - dh is working tomorrow so I've got to take all the kids to Louis' sports class, cleaners coming at 10 so also have to have the house tidy and the the parents in law are down in the arvo...Sunday we have Dylan's 3rd b'day party at home so I have to make his cake and get organised...
Phew...can't think about it too much or all my sleepy relaxation vibes will disappear...lol!!

Sweet dreams!

couldn't agree more in regards to doing whats best...each and every one of us knows whats best for our babies, there's a reason we're their mummies. I love that there's such a positive vibe in here and I really enjoy reading about everyones good times and sympathising with the trying times.

Meercat, Harrison and I have many days like that where we just chill out either on the couch all day or in bed with dvds. There's nothing like cuddles!

AFM Harri has had a really great day today and even slept this morning and again this afternoon for longer than 10 mins. Not to mention that when I held my fingers out for him to grab on to he pulled himself to a sitting position! I really am amazed at how strong my little fella is and how amazing he is.

Had a friends hen's night tonight and while I really hated being away from him for a couple of hours (I only went for dinner) it was nice to have a social life tonight haha

Hope everyone is going fantasticly!

Good Morning ladies!

It sounds like everyone is well in here at the moment!

Beata- how are you? I hope you are feeling a little better than the other day :)

~b~ i totally agree on the 'save our sleep' routine. I have been trying it, but i think it is too early yet, so i will leave it till she is 3 months or so. I think they need the cuddles and re-assurance of mummy at this age! Plus, Grace is getting big so fast...i want to remember this age and all the cuddles we had;)

Krisvee- I don't know how you fit it all in! It's great you got a good sleep, if only it was every night!

The advise in here advice was really great. I realise you are right...people do put negitive thoughts and pressure on you before and after you are pregnant. My hubby was proudly telling a friend that Grace eats and sleeps at night, and we haven't had to pace the floor at night with a screaming baby yet, and she just said in a snarly tone 'oh, don't you worry it WILL happen'. He was hurt that she said that!:shakehead: I keep telling him she is a good baby, it is perfectly normal for babies to do all the things she does...cry when we undress her, grizzle when she is tired. I think being his first he gets a little worried, but because she is my third bub i can re-assure him and make him feel secure about it all!

Have a great day ladies! Better get ds to soccer!

Hi ladies, just a super quick quetion...so I'm told its quite normal for BF babies to go for up to 10 days without pooping...this doesn't seem right to me I think it should be at least once a day, and I know with Harri after he finally gets a poop out he's a much happier little man. The problem is (and its a problem in our family) is that he is having trouble getting it out which makes the colic worse and makes Harri wriggle around in so much pain. You can hear the noises from his tummy it makes me so sad.

So my question is how do I get him to poop?

Missawah - Have you tried laying him down and in a clockwise motion kind of circling his knee's around over his tummy??? Kind of hard to explain...lol...does that make any sense??? I know it often means a huge fart comes out of Jayden at the very least...lol...

just found this https://www.bellybelly.com.au/baby/baby-crying-game

very helpful! thank's Krisvee, read the article as well and will try a few of the things they mention with massage, hopefully that helps.

I do that with Tiah - move her legs so it kind of looks like she is riding a bike? I get a few farts from this and she always seems way calmer afterwards :D

B - Good luck with the weight watchers! It is pretty cool you can do it online, the training I did before I fell pregnant was online.... and I found it so much easier when I could do it that way. I am going to try and start some walking next week, I really want to start weights and abdominals again but I think I have pulled a muscle from lifting Tiah in and out of her basinett (A very lovely looking but highly impractical one I now realise) so I am going to have to take it slow :( I have 6kgs to lose.... and I dont think the amount I am eating atm is going to help that! lol

Hello lovelies,


Thanks everyone for you lovely comments, feeling much better today :)

Missawah, sometimes I have to give myself a wee pat on the back for doing the best I can! We're FB buddies now, yay! Harri is so adorable hun. Sorry I can't answer your question about the pooing bussiness....Cam is like clockwork, a poo every second day...;)

b, today and yesterday was much better, Cam has been a lot more settled, and slept most of today which is great. I ended up changing his formula to Nestle Pro HA Gold today as he was still pretty windy on the S26 Original. I also got some Colic relief from the chemist last night, so far he hasn't been as unsettled and seems calmer. GL with the weight watchers!!

Con, I totally agree about babies picking up on our stress/anxiety. Even when I'm trying to settle Cam, I try not to get too stressed when he isn't letting up on the screaming.

Miamunchkin, I was told to give bub some water (boiled but at room temperature) with a tiny bit of sugar to taste, apparently it helps with the poos...hope the wind settles for Fraser soon, Cameron takes infacol with every feed and now some colic relief too.

Teresa, yay for success with bf again! Well done hun :D

Meercat, what a stupid midwife! I would have politedly told her to go and jump. How terrible that you have doubted yourself as a mum and what/how you were doing things b/c of her comments. Yay for snuggles on the couch with your little princess :D

Krisvee, I'm getting jealous of your messages hun!!!

Con, I'm good hun :D Not a very nice friend telling your poor hubbie that things will get worse!! That's all we want to hear, hey?? Terrible :(

Well, like I've said Cam is on a new formula now and the colic relief thing. He has been a lot more settled today and has slept most of the day. I actually feel a lot more relaxed now. Hopefully this will continue!

Hi to all my other lovely friends, hope you all have a nice day tomorrow. Here in Melbourne we are having the best weather!

B xxx

well i have given up bf. Hamish just doesnt want the boobie milk anymore and just cries when i try and put him on. it was getting to be too stressful and my supply was dropping because of it. so i finally gave in and now he gets just bottles. i feel sad but know that at least he has had almost 10 weeks of breast milk so thats a comfort.

missawah - my mum told me that giving a bottle of boiled water and half a teaspoon of raw sugar (bout 100mls of water should do it), will ease the constipation and help them poop!! i gave one to Hamish the other day and he pooped within an hour!! the previous one i had given him took around half a day tho. plus he LOVES having a bottle of water. must be refreshing for him. i give it between feeds so that way he still gets his milk. HTH.

hi to everyone else xx

Hi!!

Just a quick message from me...I noticed a few of you are talking about facebook again - I'm sure I'm friends with quite a few of you now but if not you can search me - Kristie Visser! I have a profile photo of my wedding day at the moment (geez...so must update it!! I only had that up because of valentines day...lol!)

Teresa - Big hugs - you do what you need to do!! You've done a great job!

Beata - Glad Cam's a lot more settled for you at the moment!!

Hope you all had a geat weekend!

Hi ladies,

Teresa, you have done extremely well hun! You should be very proud of yourself. I gave up bf after 2 weeks, I still feel a bit guilty that I didn't persevere with it. The MCHN told me that I should at at least keep up the b/f for 6 weeks. Last time I saw her Cam was 4 weeks, and I couldn't bring myself to tell her he's been on the bottle since he's been 2 weeks old..... She is such a b/f pusher!!!! So next time I see her (next week ) I'm gonna come clean ;)

Missawah, I also give Cam a drink of room temp. boiled water every day. Usually he has a few sips here and there. I think that's what's keeping him from being constipated which can happen with bubs on formula.

Krisvee, lets's hope the settled little man is here to stay! He has been a lot better of late. I changed his formula 2 days ago, and this new one says to do 150 ml of water to 5 scoops of powder, which makes up approx. 160 ml. Well, Cam is used to drinking approx. 130 ml every feed, so the first time I have him the 160 ml he had the biggest spew ever! Poor luv, must have been waaaaay too much for him....so I've scaled it dowm to 140 ml for now :D

How is everyone else doing???

Speaking of FB, if anyone wants to add me I'm under Beata Odrobinska :D

Hope everyone had a nice weekend, let's hope next week is all good to us and bubs!

B xxx

Hi everyone

Hoping that everyone is having a better time than us. The last few days have been horrendous - just hoping that we are coming into a better time now.

Since Friday, Fraser has decided to only take half of his feed, whoch consequently means he needs fed twice as often. Through the night, I have just been getting back to bed when he wakes wanting his next part of his feed. We have tried everything - we thought it was tiredness so tried keeping him awake, but he still refused point blank to take any more than about 60 mls max. It's like you are trying to poison him if you actually get the bottle in, but most of the time, the jaws are clamped fixed shut and he's just not interested. He hasn't done a poo since Saturday morning, and is having really bad wind, so we think that the constipation and wind combo are making him think his belly is full, therefore not wanting to take his feed.

I spent most of yesterday in tears and just not knowing how I'm going to cope. When DH got home last night, he came in thinking he could fix it all, but was quite shocked when he realised that he had been screaming like that all day. Luckily, I asked him to take Fraser out in the pram, and I got an hour of sleep, which made the world o f difference!

I got him to take 2 full feeds through the night and he went for 3 hours after each. This morning so far, he has only snacked every hour, but just got a poo as I'm typing this, so hopefully things on the improve!

miamunchkin - we have had trouble with Hamish too for the last couple of nights. he has only taken either 1/3 or 1/2 of his feeds. up almos every hour with him. so exhausting. he keeps falling asleep when he has his bottle which means that he doesnt finish it and wakes up hungry later. i keep telling myself its a growth spurt and wont last forever. DH keeps thinking its coz he is withdrawing from not having the boobie milk anymore lol. somehow i doubt that considering the little one hasnt wanted it for awhile now. fingers crossed he gets better for u!!

Hi Girls - finally have my internet sorted, so will be back on here a bit more.

Well all the visitors have now left and itis great!!!! Not that I didnt like seeing people, it just was sending Matilda feral! She is good now.

Well not to gloat but she slept through 9 hours at 2 weeks and 6 days and has been doing it ever since and back to 3 hourly and 4 hourly during the day! Sometimes she will stay awake during feeds, which is good and has the unsettled time during dinner, but otherwise all good.

I haven't caught up on posts, but Teresa don't feel bad about changing to bottle, you did a good job sticking it out.

By the way did anyone watch that show on Lifestyle channel about extradinary breastfeeding - ie 8 year olds??? Not against BF but it creeped me out a bit at that age.

Becc - I didnt see it but I saw the adverts. I am all for breastfeeding but I am with you on the creepy factor once they get that old. I know that isnt a popular opinion in the breastfeeding circles..... but it is def not for me!

Teresa & Miamunchkin - maybe your bubbies are having another growth spurt?

AFM - I spent all night last night in emergency with the worst stomach cramps, I actually thought I was in labour again. I had them all day, but kept putting off going to the Dr because it was my first day alone with Tiah as DP went back to work and I didnt want to have a winge and drama on my first day flying solo! The hospital was USELESS. Waited for nearly 2 hours while people with cracked thumbs or needing to get a cast removed went in before me... all the while crying out in pain. When I finally get seen they seem clueless as to what is wrong, do the most painfull internal I think has ever been performed, give me panadiene and tell me to see my Dr tommorrow. :wall:

I go see my Dr, he performs an ultrasound. I have retained products and an infection. He couldnt believe they didnt do a scan and start me on antibiotics straight away. I have to see how the antibiotics go and may need a D&C :(

Now I have to have someone come and help me during the day, because I cant stand up straight from the pain and cant lift Tiah by myself. On a good note though, she smiled for the first time yesterday... she must have known her mum needed it :)

Hi girls,

How are we all doing?

Becc- so jealous of you and your long night sleeps! Though I can't complain too much as Adrian has a big 6 hr sleep from about 7pm-1am but i don't go to bed till 9ish, then he's awake every three hours. Not too bad but i miss sleeping in!

Meercat- That's awful about the hospital! How useless when you were in so much pain and not one nurse or doctor thought maybe it was an infection! Duh! I was just common sense to give you an ultrasound! What were they thinking! Hope everything gets better soon and try and enjoy the extra help around the house. Big hugs!

AFM- Adrian has been good but seems to be going through a growth spurt as he is feeding lots and i keep running out of milk and im worried bout my supply. I have to keep topping him up with formula or else he sucks and sucks at the boobie and cries when he doesn't get enough. Poor little monkey :( I'm taking fenugreek to help with supply but doesn't seem to be doing much and its all i can taste for hours after, Yuck! Was going to try and make the Lac cookies but time to go to the shops and to cook them seems unlikely.
Has anyone found that one boob produces more milk then the other? My left seems to only get about 40mls at a time whereas my right gets about double that? Weird.

Anyways, sorry i can't remember any other personals, hope everyone is doing well, thanks to all the ladies who are now my friends on FB, all your baby photos are precious.

Hugs

Meercat, I had that with DD. Honestly have no idea how I made it through the first 4 weeks with her. I was so sick & can hardly remember most of my first four weeks with dd. We found out cos I passed a large piece of placenta when I was on the toilet a week after dd was born. They put me on antibiotics & confirmed it with an ultrasound. Three weeks later I still had retained placenta & ended up with the d&c. Was a totally different person after that. Please go back to the doctor in a week & get another ultrasound done.
I have lost the weight alot quicker this time, feel so much better & wish I had known then what I know now. My bleeding went to mild a week after Jax was born. With Maddi it was still bright red fresh blood after 4 weeks. If anyone is still having alot of bleeding get checked out. It sounds gross but I really think they should actually look at your pads and what you are passing a week or two after birth. This issue would be picked up so much quicker if the did. Sorry for the tmi but it is an infection & it is dangerous. People say it is hard with a new baby so I pushed through thinking that was all it was. It can be hard, but what I experienced was beyond hard.
Please please please anyone who still has alot of bleeding, go & get checked out.

Hi!

Miamunchkin - Big hugs...Jayden often only feeds one side as well at times...Hopefully he settles down for you soon..Try not to blame yourself...these cheeky babies just do their own thing sometimes. I know how hard and frustrating it can be though!

The only thing I can suggest for bubs that aren't having full feeds and you're probably already doing it is I usually change the nappy after feeding one side and it wakes bubs up enough that he usually feeds a bit more...worth a shot...

31becc - Wow on that sleep - amazing!! Hope she keeps it up for you!! Omg...no I didnt' see the bfing show - 8yo??? That seems so unecessary!!! I've fed all my kids until they were 1yo and that was plenty for me!! LOL!

Meercat - You poor thing!! I'd be complaining to the hospital if I was you - they should have at least checked you out properly considering you've just had a baby!!! What a disgrace!! I hope your starting to feel better quickly...xoxoxoxo

Jellymaker - I've always had one boob with more milk than the other - my right boob is also heaps bigger - LOL!! God knows what the state of them well be after 4 years of bfing when I'm done...lol...will need to go and invest in some good bras I think!! hehe.

Mel4d - Sorry to hear you went through so many dramas as well..wise words of advice from you about seeing a dr!!

Well, I'm tired - but then we all are aren't we?? LOL! Bubs seems to gets more unsettled as the night progresses...He always screams after his feeds and has some good burps happening...but we got a brief smile last night and another today!!! Can't wait until it's a more regular occurence! He's been loving looking at his big brothers though as long as they can stay quiet while their close to him!

I'm so going to bed in a minute - my eyes can't focus on the computer screen properly...lol..

Chat later!

Hello lovely ladies,

Miamunchkin, Cameron has also been taking about 3/4 of his feeds lately, which makes him want food earlier for his next feed. I'm putting it to a growth spurt, he's supposed to have one around 6 weeks?? The other thing I was going to suggest is to try a diff. formula. I was talking to my hairdresser last Friday and her daughter had a baby girl in early March. She ended up trying 4 different formulas before she found one that agreed with her little girl. Cameron was still farting a lot and appeared unsettled from early evening and again from about 6 am, and the hairdresser said it's most likely the formula. So I changed from S26 Original to Nestle Nan H.A Gold and he seems OK on it. He's still passing a fair bit of wind, so there is another one Nestle Nan Pro Gold that I might try. Failing that, and having tried pretty much all of the formulas now, I'll have to see if he's lactose intolerant. I would have stuck to the S26 Original but my chemist told me they really need the 'Gold' version as it has all the goodies babies need for development.

Teresa, I was going to suggest the same thing as Krisvee, changing his nappy and waking him up. It works for my wee man most of the time, although a few times he refused to wake up the little bugger!

Becc, wow, Matilda is awesome for sleeping that much!! Very jealous hun!! B/F at 8 years??? OMG :o

Meercat, OMG hun! I can't believe you were so sick! That is so dangerous to have retained products, can't believe they didn't pick it up earlier! I remember when I birthed Joshua, my placenta didn't come away completely as he was born so prematurely (so the placenta wasn't ready to come away 100%) and they whisked me away for surgery right there and then. My doc said you can die if something gets left in there and you develop a nasty infection :o I got the antibiotics straight away too, but still passed pretty big clots at home a week later. It was gross!!!! I hope you won't need the D&C and feel better soon :hug:

Jellymaker, my left boob is bigger than the right, but I had heaps more milk in my smaller boob!! Go figure!! The only thing they told me to get more of the supply going when I was b/f was to drink heaps of water, eat properly, plenty of rest (yeah right!!!!! are they mad????) and keep b/f frequently as it's supposed to build up the supply.

Mel, you poor thing! My OB told me that if my bleeding doesn't subside in a week or so or if it increases to tell him as that might be a sign of infection, so I knew what to look for.

Krisvee, someone told me that the wind builds up in the evening from the whole day and that's why bubs get more unsettled then. So happy for bub's first smile hun!! I'm still waiting for mine!!

Well, this morning I had a cracker. I fed Cameron at 4.30 (DF fed him at 10.30 last night, OMG couldn't believe he slept for that long!) and I burped him but didn't get too much of a burp.....I put him back to bed, and I could hear him wriggling away for aaaaages, so I thought he had wind....so I got him up half asleep, and massaged his belly furiously, and did the whole legs up to the chest thing and the bicycle leg thing, and then I help him upright on my chest and then........a massive burp followed my half his food!!!! the poor thing was still half asleep, thank God, as normally that would make him scream, and then I had to change his whole outfit as it was soaked and smelly. Back in bed now sleeping, that was obviously what kept him wriggling away for ages. I learn something new every day!

Hi to everyone else, and I hope our bubs will start smiling soon!

B xxx

hi everyone :)

Meercat, that is terrible! I hope the pain eases for you quickly, it must make things so difficult trying to take care of Tiah by yourself :hug:

Beata, aww poor little fella, bet he felt so much better after having a spew though.

Krisvee, yay for smiles!! There's nothing better than baby smiles.

Mel, that must have been awful :hug:

Jelly, yep one side of mine (the left) seems to always be fuller, but having said that I find it easier to express from the right side, go figure.

Mia, hang in there, I hope he's taking his feeds properly for you now :)

Bec, wow marathon sleeper!! Harri's had 1 night where he slept 7 hours, could have been more but I got worried (and my boobs were absolutely bursting) so I woke him up to feed.

Teresa, well done for persisting with the bf as long as you did, you should be so proud of yourself :)

B, ah regular feeds at particular times, I think that's just a pipe dream for us at the moment haha

Hi to Insom and Con, hope your bubbas are going great

AFM: Harrison is 1 month old today!! The time really has gone so fast, sometimes I wish he was tiny still, but at the same time I just love watching him grow and learn new things. We had smiles not too long ago and they're becoming more frequent now. Harri also rolled onto his side for the first time a couple of days ago, as well as that if he holds my fingers he can pull himself to a sitting position. I am amazed at just how strong the little fella is, its not often he flops his head either as he's usually holding it up by himself. He cracked the 4kg mark this week, which made me very happy, not only that he's put on weight but that I've been able to nourish him and help him grow.

We're house hunting at the moment (not easy with a 1 month old and a toddler) I really can't wait to move as we've outgrown our unit and it's horrible and cramped, can't wait for space!

Hope everyone is doing well :)