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Teresa - Thinking positive thoughts for your Mum!
Missawah - How did DP like giving him the bottle? Mine told me last night he doesnt enjoy it, because Tiah fights it for the first couple of minutes and he knows she would prefer the boob.... I sense he just prefers her having the boob so he can relax!
Krisvee- I think I cry every damn day! I usually finish it laughing, but when I start maaan I am woeful.
Beata - I am feeling a bit the same myself. I was in tears this afternoon because Tiah was unsettled and DP was going to be away all night (Danny Green fight) I am actually a little scared of her... and I know how crazy that sounds. I was asking DP if he thought I would be ok, what if I drop her? What if she chokes? What if something happens and I dont know what to do? He told me I am fine, and I am managing well blah blah blah. But I keep second guessing every little thing I do.
Add that to the fact that I took Tiah to the Dr today and she has reflux so is now on medication for it. SIGH... and it is a freaking TABLET I have to crush and feed to her in a syringe... who thinks of these things for babies?!?!?!??!
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Meercat, thanks hun :hug: I also sit there and feel a bit scared of Cam too :o, trying to guess what mood he'll wake up in, ie will he scream, whinge, or just be generally grumpy and HOW in the name of the Lord will I settle him this time???? Thank God I have mum helping me, but I feel terrified when she leaves me on my own, and DF is still a couple of hours away at work! I generally call him every afternoon to make sure he's coming straight home!! The other day I freaked out as he was stopping at the shops on the way home, I just wanted him to come home, like, NOW!!!!
Big hugs to you, I've no doubt you are doing an awsome job hun, it just feels so overwhelming sometimes doesn't it??? Poor little Tiah, taking those awful tablets, why couldn't they think of a nice milky tasting thing?????? :wall:
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big hugs Beata, my midwife tells me they have growth spurts at 2, 4, 6 and 12 weeks so he could be going through that, chin up you're doing a great job!
Meercat, DP really enjoyed it, he got excited, I've expressed again tonight and he's going to give Harri that too and then Harri will go to the boob. Harri fought the bottle too, but when he realised what was in it, it became easier. The first time I expressed today I was impressed I got about 30-40mls but tonight I've managed to get about 60mls so seems the supply is good.
Also believe in yourselves, I'm no expert as I've only been doing this 3 weeks myself and I still have meltdowns. But honestly you are the best mum for your child, be confident in the decisions you make :)
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Hi all!
Hope you are going well.
~b~ All is going well thanks. I am interested in your settling routine...how do you do it? I have read a few books on settling, and i self settled my older two around 3 months. I am looking to start Grace a little earlier, around 1 month.
Beata- I hope you are okay. Like the others have said, don't doubt yourself. I'm sure you are a great mum...it takes time to adjust and i'm sure we all have a few tears on an off day. (i do!) Remember the more up tight/stressed you are, the more up tight/stressed bub will be...they pick up on your moods and anxiety. Baby blues can last up to 6 weeks so i have been told...it's a good idea to talk to someone though.
Misssawah- i might pop a photo on facebook today. Hubby isn't too keen on me putting up photo's of Grace, he doesn't like the internet and is worried about security and such.
Jelly maker- i will send you a friend invite on facebook...
Afm- Grace is doing great. She is growing so fast! I am going to miss her being so little and fragile! Hubby says he loves watching the motherly side of me, it reminds him of his mum! lol! I think the hardest thing i have had to do is give myself permission to slow down and relax during the day. I keep telling myself it's okay to be in my pj's till 9am, and it's okay to sit down on the lounge and watch a movie at midday! I'm just so used to being super busy with work and not having time to stop and smell the roses!
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Hi everyone! Sorry I have been missing in action for a few days - have been trying to keep up with the posts, but will probably forget half of what's been said.
teresa so sorry to hear about your mum. Ditto what everyone else has saidre catching it early. Isn't it awful that we all have to face our families or even ourselves going through this?
Hope Hamish's feeding has improved.
Con great to hear that Grace is doing well. Would also love to see a pic on facebook.
~b~ routine sounds great! Hoping that it works out well for you!
Missawah great to hear your DP enjoyed feeding Harri! Makes them feel a lot more included!
Beata you are doing a fantastic job. Try not to stress about good and bad days - easier said than done, I know. Babies are so unpredictable that you never know what's around the corner. Just have to try and stay positive and calm!
Meercat that's awful that Tiah has reflux. Better to get it treated though. Good luck with the tablets!
Krisvee you are Supermum! How you manage is beyond me!
insom let us know how you get on with Aiden re the muscle.
Jelly tried to find you on FB but had the same problem as ~b~ - any clues re your picture?
Hi to everyone I have missed.
Well, as for us, all is going pretty well. Fraser (so far - touch wood) is settling into his mini-routine that we are doing, and is not having any "awake ready for playtime" through the night, which is great. He's still feeding anywhere 2-4 hourly (usually 3 hourly), but I can cope with that!
He's growing so big, it's unreal! I saw a newborn at the shops the other day and it put into perspectove just how much he has grown!
We've had a couple of bad days where Fraser has had so much wind and appeared to be constipated. On Sunday, he screamed from 3 pm til 11 pm. We tried everything to calm him - even went out in the car for an hour but nothing would settle him at all. Hopefully these are few and far between.
Not sure if I mentioned this but the company I worked (or technically still work) for had a couple of guys who left to set up on their own. They have asked me to do bits and pieces of work for them (from home) and now they have come back and want to make it more of a permanent thing! I have already done 15 hours this week for them, just when Fraser is sleeping. When I need to go into the office, I can take Fraser with me! Hoping that this works out well - even if it's just long enough to clear the credit card that we had to use to get a new car (after the reposession debarcle). We're still waiting to hear about that and awaiting a response from the previous owners to see if they are going to pay up! Not holding my breath though!
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so there was mega consequences to feeding Harri with a bottle...now he doesn't want the boob...he's not attatching and the only way he's been able to feed today was if I've held him really tightly in place. Am very close to just going and buying a tin of formula :dunno:
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missawah i understand completely what u r going thru!!! Hamish just either wont attach and scream or will attach, feed for a few minutes or seconds then scream. i just end up giving him the bottle as its just not worth getting him worked up even more. he did bf from me for around 8 mins this morning but then proceeded to scream and cry again. now i can only express 30mls from both boobs if i am lucky. i think i am drying up. its so damn annoying
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ok thought i would just let everyone know, had success with bf Hamish before!! was able to get him on without the nipple shield and didnt use the pillow i normally used. somehow (awkwardly too) managed to hold him to feed him. he latched on immediately and ate away. so excited. did chuck at the end but at least he fed!! dont want to give him a top up bottle now!!
missawah - i meant to ask before, what bottle are u using? we use the tommee tippee closer to nature which has made it easy (up until now) to bf and bottle feed Hamish. he has to really work to get the milk out of the teat where as other bottles just are free flow. HTH.
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Teresa, yay for him being able to feed today on the boob! well done!! Harri also had a good feed tonight and is now finally asleep. I used the bottle that came with the breast pump, it's shaped like a nipple and the opening is very small, so we thought we could get away with it. But alas, just means when I do express I'll put it straight in the freezer and build up a nice supply and just get through this 6 weeks with him on the boob only.
I'm only getting between 30-60mls when I express to and when we gave him the bottle he went to the boob after for topping up. Who would have thought that something that's so natural could be so bloody difficult!
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OK... Last night I had a realisation!
Tiah has been unsettled pretty much since a family member sat next to me while she was feeding, and told me I wasnt doing it right, Tiah wasnt feeding she was just on there for comfort... then she told me I wasnt burping her right and that Tiah had thrush.
So I realised last night that since that moment, without even noticing the change, I went from confident and sure about what I was doing - to second guessing myself. I stopped just cuddling Tiah and letting her use me for comfort, to stressing because she hadnt burped and getting annoyed because she wouldnt sleep. I started giving her wind treatment when it hadnt been an issue before and getting frustrated when she cried.
So last night, I cuddled her and let her stay on my boob as long as she wanted. I didnt rush to put her in the bassinet... I just held her and didnt stress that she was going to wake up soon. Yeah she still threw up (Damn you reflux) but she slept for 4 hours, and when she woke up she was so much more content and even though I had only had an hour or so sleep... I was so much more content!
Ok there is my rant. I am so annoyed that someone could rattle me without me even noticing, but now I am going to just do whatever I want because I do know what is right for my child!
(Oh and the person who gave me all this advice? A midwife a million years ago who has never had children. She meant well and was only trying to help, but she had no concept of the emotional side of breastfeeding... only the mechanics. And Tiah has gained 1kg since birth so I figure she is doing it right!)
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Hi!
Just a quick one - I'll try and do personals soon!!
Just wanted to say in regards to routine/sleep training...each to their own but just from a different perspective - I did all the "wrong" things...fed babies to sleep, rocked them, let them sleep in my bed at times, let them fall asleep on my chest, etc etc and Ethan has slept through every night from 9 1/2 months old...Louis is a great sleeper and has been since about 1yo, and Dylan is a pretty good sleeper who wakes up more than the others but is happy to be put straight back to bed...all of them are easy to put to bed in the evening due to a good evening routine of dinner, bath, story and bed...
Anyway, my point is not that you have to do things the way I have but just know that you can go with your instincts and it doesn't mean they will never sleep well...You really can't "spoil" a baby...they need us...and as long as you make choices that suit you and your baby and choices that you are comfortable with you can't go wrong!! Enjoy your babies - I promise it all goes so fast (even though at times those nights can feel like they'll last forever!!)
Just wanted to get all that out while I had 2 seconds...xoxo
Chat later!!
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I also heard from a chiro that it is actually healthy for babies to wake up every few hours...too often and it's stressful for them and too little and their usually not making all the brain connections they need to be in those early months!! I found that really interesting!
It's also completely normal for babies to be unsettled, and cry and have wind and is in no way a reflection on your parenting...Oh and for those of you that have the babies that catnap...my kids all did that a lot...some babies won't sleep for 2 or 3 hours at a time...they take 20min here or 40min there...again - just one of those things...sometimes they resettle and sometimes they don't...
I highly recommend reading from Pinky Mckay...check out her books on ebay perhaps or I dont' think they're that expensive in the shop - 100 ways to calm the crying is a book I read snippets of everyday to keep me on track...and she has one called toddler tactics which is great for when their older...Also a book called - the science of parenting (although I think it has a new name now) is fantastic...These books AREN'T about routine though...Some people find a routine works for their baby and some people don't - again, this isn't a reflection on your parenting...if anything it just does your own head in to try and make them fit a mold that they obviously aren't interested in!!
xoxo
Speaking of which - bubs is just waking up...chat later!! (Promise I'll stop ranting...lol!)
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b - I was like that a bit with Louis as well...even though I tried so hard not too...lol...
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Krisvee - I am actually looking up Piny Mckay right now! Someone gave me the Save our Sleep book when I was pregnant, and I like some of the advice but I just could not leave Tiah to cry ....
B- You are right about peoples negative comments starting everything off on the wrong track - we even had a friend tell us that we were idiots if we had Tiah in our room longer than one week. When I pointed out that the SIDS foundation recommends they share a room for up to 12 months, we were graced with a lecture about how HE had kids so he knew better.
I spent all this morning just snuggling with Tiah on the couch, didnt feel guilty and stayed in my PJS :)It was so nice, and she was loving it!
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Hi!
I just had the most amazing massage at home!!! My neck and shoulders were sooo tight!!
Meercat - Sounds like you had a fantastic morning!! Good for you!
Hoping bubs has a good night...last night was the best night we've had since he arrived...he went 5 hours, then 3 hours and then 3 1/2 hours...so I actually got a bit of sleep which was soo needed...
Feeling all blissed out now so will be heading to bed soon...I've got a big weekend - dh is working tomorrow so I've got to take all the kids to Louis' sports class, cleaners coming at 10 so also have to have the house tidy and the the parents in law are down in the arvo...Sunday we have Dylan's 3rd b'day party at home so I have to make his cake and get organised...
Phew...can't think about it too much or all my sleepy relaxation vibes will disappear...lol!!
Sweet dreams!
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couldn't agree more in regards to doing whats best...each and every one of us knows whats best for our babies, there's a reason we're their mummies. I love that there's such a positive vibe in here and I really enjoy reading about everyones good times and sympathising with the trying times.
Meercat, Harrison and I have many days like that where we just chill out either on the couch all day or in bed with dvds. There's nothing like cuddles!
AFM Harri has had a really great day today and even slept this morning and again this afternoon for longer than 10 mins. Not to mention that when I held my fingers out for him to grab on to he pulled himself to a sitting position! I really am amazed at how strong my little fella is and how amazing he is.
Had a friends hen's night tonight and while I really hated being away from him for a couple of hours (I only went for dinner) it was nice to have a social life tonight haha
Hope everyone is going fantasticly!
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Good Morning ladies!
It sounds like everyone is well in here at the moment!
Beata- how are you? I hope you are feeling a little better than the other day :)
~b~ i totally agree on the 'save our sleep' routine. I have been trying it, but i think it is too early yet, so i will leave it till she is 3 months or so. I think they need the cuddles and re-assurance of mummy at this age! Plus, Grace is getting big so fast...i want to remember this age and all the cuddles we had;)
Krisvee- I don't know how you fit it all in! It's great you got a good sleep, if only it was every night!
The advise in here advice was really great. I realise you are right...people do put negitive thoughts and pressure on you before and after you are pregnant. My hubby was proudly telling a friend that Grace eats and sleeps at night, and we haven't had to pace the floor at night with a screaming baby yet, and she just said in a snarly tone 'oh, don't you worry it WILL happen'. He was hurt that she said that!:shakehead: I keep telling him she is a good baby, it is perfectly normal for babies to do all the things she does...cry when we undress her, grizzle when she is tired. I think being his first he gets a little worried, but because she is my third bub i can re-assure him and make him feel secure about it all!
Have a great day ladies! Better get ds to soccer!
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Hi ladies, just a super quick quetion...so I'm told its quite normal for BF babies to go for up to 10 days without pooping...this doesn't seem right to me I think it should be at least once a day, and I know with Harri after he finally gets a poop out he's a much happier little man. The problem is (and its a problem in our family) is that he is having trouble getting it out which makes the colic worse and makes Harri wriggle around in so much pain. You can hear the noises from his tummy it makes me so sad.
So my question is how do I get him to poop?
