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PMSL - who would have thought it would become such a fascinating subject once we had babies LOL? I'm ashamed to admit that I have become a bum sniffer too when unsure Bailey has dropped one hehehehee, But I do draw the line and sticking my finger down the back of the nappy to check as I have seen some parents do - WHAT'S with THAT???? :o:
I confess I'm a bum sniffer too ;)
Why would anyone do this...NO WAY in this world that I'm sticking my pinkie down Aarons Nappy...YUKOOOOOO!!:
But I do draw the line and sticking my finger down the back of the nappy to check as I have seen some parents do - WHAT'S with THAT????
Well this morning I found Aaron's top teeth cutting through!!
Watch out BB here comes jaws :lol:
Nicole: Yay for more teeth!
Naomi: I sometimes catch myself sniffing bums too... Not that I really need to atm - both girls stink to high heaven when they poo lately. Once they start walking it is easier - you can just pull out the top of their pants and peer in. But the trap there is that they do it back to you when they get older and wiser, LOL!
Great that you found out about the weet-bix. I'm not surprised they have a 'blocking' effect - have you seen how much it swells up when you add liquid to it?!? Those things are the tardis of the breakfast cereal world.
Phoebe has done so well the last 2 nights... fingers crossed her unsettledness was just because of the heat. Last night she went to bed at 7 and didn't wake til 2, so I (breast) fed her. But the night before, I gave her a feed (bottle) at 9 and she went through til 6:30am! She did wake briefly at 1:30 and 3:30, but had settled herself by the time I got to her. We've had a more normal day today though, so tonight will be a test.
Bella: Glad you are getting settled but what a massive PITA about the furniture! I hope you can resolve it without too much trouble. Good idea to document things though - for JIC. Thanks, I am in two very different minds about weaning. Sometimes I think, thank heavens she is still bfeeding as I'm so not organised enough for bottles. And other times I think how it'd be just easier to go to bottles and be done with it. At least then I'd know what each day would bring. Today I am thinking I will just keep offering the boob for as long as she wants it and what will be will be. I introduced the bottle cause I knew there'd be days when I wouldn't be with her (of which there have now been a couple) and I needed to know she'd have her milk. It's a great thought re getting DH to give the bottles... especially overnight, LOL! But he's thoroughly hopeless. Best not get me started.
Vic: Yeah, Phoebe likes going out too, but we always pay for it at dinner time - if we've been out all day she is VERY upset and overtired. But if she manages one good sleep she is able to cope better.
I love the sound of your clothes-making! Post some photos :)
I was lucky enough to hang out with some BB ladies yesterday at Jennifer's house. Was such a fun time, and got to put some faces to (user)names!
Bought some more training pants for Natty today - she seems happier to wear these than undies and they do hold the wee to a certain extent, which saves my carpet (not that it's all that flash, but YKWIM). Plus I bought myself some wine in a box. PMSL! Oh how my standards have dropped.
PMSL Amy! I love your wine in a box moment! You always make me laugh! Big Loves and Hugs to you. I don't think my sister would get her hubby to give a bottle over night either but I think she just meant when u can't be there to bf and someone else needs to give. If you are regularly giving at night it is different I think. I don't think my DH would be able to do it either!
I had a shocker night last night.... up every hr for feeds and then she wouldn't settle for hrs btwn about 2 and 4.30. Eyes closed but unhappy and in pain? I cried when she woke with DH alarm at 6..... still she was so tired she slept heaps this am and I did too.
Fingers crossed tonight is better
Aw, Bella. Sorry for your crap night. I too hope tonight is better for you.
I'm only giving the bottles when she wants them (ie when she refuses boob - which she still does on occasion even though she doesn't have them in the day... weird) and that's usually overnight or first feed of the day. All of which DH is asleep for :rolleyes: I do KWYM though - it is my Mum who would feed her while I am away.
Hope u had a better night last last Bella :hug:
I nearly lost it last night...I think all these late nights are starting to catch up on me.
I felt like such a bad mummy and just let Aaron cry till he was tired then picked him up and held him until he feel asleep so I could put him in his cot.
The more I think about it I just feel more terrible.
AC plays so much in my mind and I just think I should be happy all the time even if Aaron is crying or happy but then something happens and all I want is him to just GO to sleep.
Anyway I'm off to catch a few more Zzzzz.
Nicole - as much as AC is a part of how you got your little man, it doesn't change how you feel about the normal mummy things. when babies don't sleep, it has a mammoth impact. sleep deprivation is used as a torture method for a reason! yes, you feel bad for letting him cry last night BUT, you could feel yourself losing it - IMO, it's better to let your bubba cry a little every now and then when it gets too much, than it is to continue holding them and doing something stupid if your frustration grows. i have done it with DD a couple of times. she simply won't sleep but is exhausted - so i leave her for a few minutes - i walk to the other end of the house (long house) - get a drink, regroup, then go back to her. i hate hearing her cry, and yes, i do have the "i fought so hard for this, why am i not coping" thoughts, but i have tried to accept that i'm NORMAL and hearing a baby cry when i'm really tired really does your head in!
Bella - hope you had a better night last night hun! we had an "awake every sleep cycle" night a few nights back - was horrible! last night wasn't that much better - bubba refused to settle for nearly an hour (which was bad enough given we were trying to watch a movie - yay for pause button!) but then she woke two hourly through the night. woke at half 8 this morning, had a feed and went to lounge with daddy while i had another half hour, and is now back in bed sleeping again (lucky monkey lol)
Amy - go the wine in a box! if you enjoy it, who are we to judge lol
Well, had a rough few days here - the changing weather is making life really difficult - so hard to know what to dress E in! it's mostly ok cos we can judge, but when it comes to sleep time, if she's not dressed just right she gets either hot or cold and won't sleep properly! the other night, we had one of those nights where she just wouldn't settle. it was warm, but not hot - so i tried everything for her - more feeds, cuddles, settling her into bed etc. the whole time i was getting rather yukko myself - was having a bit of a hypo or low BSL moment (think hypo more than anything), overheated and collapsed. thankfully, i was standing between bed and cot and managed to catch the edge of the bed so that i fell backwards onto bed rather than forward onto E or the floor between, but i have managed to strain the muscles through one side of my back, my arm (and dodgy wrist - grrrrr), and rolled my ankle and knee on the opposite side. sigh. i feel so stupid! i could feel myself feeling ick and should have walked away to cool down but i wanted to ensure DD was settled. after that, DH had to settle her - i couldn't pick her up! oh well - at least i'm not feeling toooooooooo bad now lol
i have those times here i've noticed as Jamie has gotten bigger i have been able to leave him cry when i know hes tired and just wont sleep where when he was smaller i just couldnt do it and now hes decided that the best way to get my attention is to whinge but i think hes slowly realising it doesnt work
he's now getting around the whole house and now the bathroom door is always shut he got in there this morning and got covered in baby powder lol and hes now in size 0 hes growing too fast im starting to run out of clothes ppl have given me might have to go for a trip to bendigo to buy some more clothes
i think DH has finally realised how difficult it is to look after him properly I.E. feeding changing etc he had a explosion the other day while i was at work and he had to clean it up lol and hes never cleaned poo before lol
i actually like having a job dont shoot me lol but sometimes i just need time away from jamie sometimes i get really frustrated when DH doesnt help me and when hes not here that its a good change
sorry for the all about me post hi everyone xoxoxox
Hey Nic I totally agree with BG on this. If you feel like that you are always better to just let them cry for a bit and regroup. That's why I laid in bed and cried and let J cry the other morning. I was beat and I felt like I was close enough to the edge that I might slip if she pushed me more. So the safest thing to do in that situation was to just take a moment. I think any mother who says she has never had a moment like that id either lying or has a really really really easy baby and a great support system. The rest of us just have to have little moments. It may not be ideal but life isn't fair and we do the best we have with what we have. You had enough insight to know you needed to look after yourself for a moment to better care for your bub. Kudos to you sweet heart. Well all get there. Don't beat yourself up
Love Bella
Same as the other girls, I totally understand Nicole, I've had moments where sleep deprivation has near driven me potty and turned me into a desperate, biatchy and irrational crazed woman, and sometimes you do just need to remove yourself from the situation, give yourself a few moments, take some deep breaths and then start again. I don't think Mum's of AC babies are any different, yes I feel totally grateful to have Bailey and I know how lucky I am to even be a Mum, but it doesn't make it any easier, in fact I think sometimes AC Mums put too much pressure on themselves as we feel we should be grateful for every moment and be a perfect mum as we all know others who are dying to be a Mum and would take our screaming/non-sleeping bundle at a moments notice. So anyway, my point is not to be so hard on yourself :hug:
Be back later for more persie, the little man is letting me know its dinner time here :)
Thanks ladies :grouphug:
Guilt plays bad tricks on you in the middle of the night.
Feel allot better today talked to my DH about how I was feeling it feels good to say how it is out loud.
Let’s see what tonight will bring.
Naomi, I think you really summed up how I was feeling, I totally agree and at the end of the day I'm a mum no matter how we got here.
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AC Mums put too much pressure on themselves as we feel we should be grateful for every moment and be a perfect mum as we all know others who are dying to be a Mum and would take our screaming/non-sleeping bundle at a moment’s notice
Nicole: I did the same tonight. Phoebe was just soooooo tired, wouldn't fall asleep on the breast even though her eyes were drooping - she just kept pulling off and crying. I laid her down and patted, stroked, then picked her up and cuddled etc. No good. So I put her down and walked out. She went to sleep in a couple of minutes. I knew she was tired and it was driving me crazy! I think the negative (impatient, LOL!) energy from me was keeping her awake.
BG: Gosh, how scary re your collapse! Hope you are recovering ok.
I am still chuckling about wine in a box too - I haven't told my dad cause he'd slap me upside the head and say, "Child! Have I taught you NOTHING?!?!?"
I so KWYM about this fickle weather. Tonight the girls had a bath at Mum and Dad's and I dressed Phoebe in a cotton long-sleeved suit. Then we got home and it felt several degrees warmer! So I had to change her. I have been keeping a fan going in her room and dressing her a little warmer as it seems to be the most comfortable for her... Not sure I'll like our electricity bill, but so be it.
Jacinta: I do understand about enjoying going to work. It's time that you can be just you again and certainly a great learning curve for your DH (I can't believe he has gotten away with 8 months of not cleaning up any poo!!!). I felt the same when I went back to work after Natty. Plus, it really helps you enjoy the time you do have with the little one.
I am going to bed already I think! LOL, I have been so tired and Phoebe has slept pretty well the last few nights so hopefully I will have a good one and feel really refreshed tomorrow... hopefully. I have been such a cranky cow of late. And tomorrow I have a few job applications to write and I want to do a good job of them. I will hear this week if I got the job that I interviewed for last Tues, but I'm not hopeful. I rang my old boss a couple of days ago and told him to ring or text me if they called him, LOL! He hasn't contacted me so that means they haven't contacted him. I reckon that means I haven't got the job. Sigh. Ah well, there are a few more options out there for me. I will get cracking on it tomorrow.
Hope you all have a restful night. xx
Nicole - Glad to help babe, it's nice to be understood isn't it? These girls have saved my sanity on more than one occasion! Yaaaaay for Aaron getting some teeth! But OUCH at the same time! Bailey bit me a few times when I was BF (he was born with a tooth, it came up properly about 12 weeks) and it stung, not nice at all!
J - LOL @ the powder - did you take a pic? I think its perfectly healthy to enjoy some 'YOU' time away from Jamie and enjoy work. You aren't only his Mummy, you are Jacinta too, so none of us are going to shoot you! I hope I feel the same way when I go back to work in March. I used to really enjoy my job, so seeing as I have to be away from Bailz, I hope to find the same enjoyment again, although I know I will cherish my reduced time with him too! Good on you for getting back into the workforce and enjoying it, Mums feel guilty for way too many things so I'm stoked for you :)
BG - Thats scary mate re the fall, glad the bed caught you, how are you now? You poor bugger, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF - thats an order!!!! I was reading your FB status and I can relate (re C and E's exchange). Bailey is starting to really understand and respond to 'instruction' if you like atm, I can tell him not to put things in his mouth (and he wont LOL) and have taught him 'gently' so we are not getting our eyes clawed, hair pulled, necklaces ripped off anymore. As the kids are so much more interactive at mothers group I was trying to minimise him inadvertently hurting another baby as he curiously 'investigates' their face, hair etc hehehehe. If only he would listen when I tell him to go back to sleep at 6am!!
Bella - perhaps it was the night for it but we had a odd night last night. Am thinking its teething as Bailey's 2nd tooth is really coming up now, so there is a fair bit of movement, and when I give him the teething gel he settles down again, Anyway, I was up from 330-430, I couldn't get him back to sleep, in the end I gave him some panadol and a bottle and he stopped fighting me!! Hows the unpacking going? Are you getting a bit settled? How's J going with the new surroundings? Post some pics of your place!! (demanding aren't I?)
Amy - LOL @ the cask wine!! My SIL and I have gotten through a few boxes in our time - I think it was a Banrock Station one from memory, its was a nice as any bottled wine I'd had, there are a few dodgy lolly water ones about though hehehehehehe. Sounds like Phoebes is going great guns with her sleeping of late - have you gotten some quality sleep too? I find Bailey struggles when the weather changes too, it was so much easier in winter when you could just bundle them up. If we have baby number 2 I would love to have a winter baby again - in fact an april or may baby would be awesome. I wont be too picky though LOL. DH has made mention of baby number 2 recently (after being dead against it after the IVF journey and then the dysplasia issues) as I think the thought of Bailey being an only child and potentially left 'alone' in the world when we depart it upsets him, Obviously this is quite a leap ahead, but it really got him thinking. As my time of going back to work nears, it makes me realise that I do want another, I want to go through this wonderful experience again and I think we (and Bailey) have a lot to offer another child - but we are talking 2012+ LOL
Busy weekend for us - we went out to lunch yesterday to our community club and got home at 630pm LOL! Today we had the IL for lunch, we have just been mooching tiredly about this arvo, we really need to have a quiet weekend, feel like we still haven't had an opportunity to 'wind' down since christmas. Bailey is getting himself into the crawling position, trying to move forward, then slumping on the ground with frustration then crying out for help. Its kinda heartbreaking yet encouraging at the same time. I feel his frustration at the brace but think, hey, if you have worked out how to get yourself into a crawling position, you are one step closer to finding a way to move about. I'm not sure that he has enough arm strenght to commando crawl, but talked to DH today about getting a nice rug for our lounge room as the 'alphabet' mat and our current el-cheapo IKEA rug dont give him enough traction to move, they seem to just provide a slippery obstacle. I will have a look this week I think. Bailey has said Mum-Mum-Mum and Dada-Dada-Dada but quite indiscriminently, but says 'Heerroww" (Hello) regularly when we say it to him or give his toy phone to him so I have decided that is his official 'first word'!! He can mimic us quite well but saying the right word in context is pretty random currently. He seems quite advanced socially compared to my mothers group babies, so perhaps thats one of the reasons he is behind with motor skills etc? He is too busy charming everyone with his cute chatter and charm hehehehe. He is getting quite discerning with strangers also - he is getting wary of blokes, but will throw most ladies a smile without too much fuss - he is quite the ladies man already!!
Better go, there are a million things I SHOULD be doing
Nay
x
So true Amy, when we are stressed am sure they can feel it.:
I think the negative (impatient, LOL!) energy from me was keeping her awake.
Nay: I think you guys have heaps to offer another baby too! You are such a cool mum.
Sounds like Bailey is doing really well with his motor skills! If he is getting up into crawling position then he's on par with Phoebs... I think these movers and shakers who are cruising already are actually doing it pretty early, so I wouldn't be using that as a benchmark personally. He certainly is very determined - I reckon he'll have figured out a way to get around in the coming weeks, sooner than you think.
Not surprised he's charming the ladies already either - look at that smile!
Nicole: Hope this isn't creepy, but I saw you post in the Baulko hospital thread - I think you live pretty close to me, LOL! Let me know if you'd be up for a coffee sometime.
I got a call yesterday telling me I didn't get the job. Bummer - it looked really good. But I have another interview this morning and this one is only 2 days per week, which DH and I are pretty happy about. (I would rather 2 days than 3.) So fingers crossed this morning goes well. I am due there in 45 mins - better run! Catch you all later. xx
LOL Amy not creepy at all....would love to catch up for a cuppa, you name the day and the place and we will go from there ;)
You never know we may have even passed eachother at the shops and didn't even know!!
Good luck for your interview this morning :goodluck:
I hope today went well Amy!!
Hi everyone!
My head is killing me for the lackof sleep we are getting at the moment. Allira is teething, I'm sure of it, but theres still nothing to show for it!
I wish these stupid teeth would just hurry up and cut through and then we could get back to normal.
I hope everyone is well. I will have ot go back through posts... I've been slack.
xxoo
Hi all - a few wakeful nights here with teething, hopefully we have a better night tonight
Hope the interview went well Amy