Babies born~May 16th-31st 2009 #6

[briggsy's girl]

I sooooo get that, you think you love them as much as you possibly have, but the love just grows and grows - isn't it wonderful?

mostly it is - but it's bringing up a lot of "what the hell was wrong with me/my childhood" questions. i don't understand how my parents didn't feel like this - or if they did when we were E's age, what the hell went wrong - and how do i make sure that doesn't go wrong for me?



E has woken up rather distressed this morning. she had a bit of puke on her face, and her wake up sounds were weird, so i think she may have had a bit of a scare. she is ok, but very clingy. not her normal "yeah i've had boob, now let me explore" self

[Bridg]

BG- They won't look at giving him glasses until he is older, and it may not improve his vision much. Because the eyes develop so much in the 1st 8 years, it is really hard to predict anything, so it's a waiting game really.

Cathy- I think these babies need to stop doing so much 'big peoples' things!

AFU, We are off to the MCHN soon for Logan's post James appointment.

[briggsy's girl]

hmmm, if E turns out to have the eye problems i have, she will be getting glasses - i'm not going to wait indefinately just cos she is young. i have the same problems the local guy said E appears to have - and 28years after getting my first glasses, i haven't grown out of it! i don't think she will either - astigmatisms are pretty much a life long thing....

[~*Niadalla*~]

Bridg - glad to hear Logan's appt went well. Have fun at the MCHN today.

Glad to hear you girls had a great time catching up!! I can't wait to be able to take the kids to the theme parks one of these days.

How is everyone? All is going well here, doesn't look like the kids will be affected by FIL's shingles which is great. He is on the mend, but can't watch TV, read, or have lights on as it's affecting his eyes pretty bad. Hopefully his eyes are ok at the end of all of this.

Kids are same old. Allira standing up everywhere showing off and will walk along only holding one of my fingers now. Amazed at her strength for her age.... DS was so different (although he was also smaller).

It's my sister's 21st today, so we're heading into town tonight for dinner. Allira will be good... just whack her in the high chair and continually give her food and we won't hear a peep! haha. Lachie on the other hand.... I'm going prepared with 2 bags full of activities.

Anyway, lots to do before we head off.
Hope you are all going well.
xx

[*TripleJ*]

Jamie crawls like a monkey lol on his hands and feet and he really gets around and even out the front door the other day and he tries to crawl off my bed and hes climbing the furniture i want him to go back to when he would fall asleep in my arms and stayed in one spot its not fair

[MummyNaomi]

mostly it is - but it's bringing up a lot of "what the hell was wrong with me/my childhood" questions. i don't understand how my parents didn't feel like this - or if they did when we were E's age, what the hell went wrong - and how do i make sure that doesn't go wrong for me?

BG - I was thinking about your post today and I think that sometimes our parents ways have a lot to do with the environment they were brought up in to (especially our Dads), and 30 or so years ago parenting ideas were quite different from the nuturing ways of today. I know my Dad found it hard to show us affection, his own father was a real task master (and a bit of a pr*ck too) and although Dad has softened significantly, he was a strict disciplinarion when we were younger and sometimes we thought he didn't love us (he did - alot), but when you are a kid its hard to understand. Now he is soft as a marshmallow! However we had a great childhood so I really dont know how you must feel, but it must be hard to fathom though that the love and affection you show E perhaps wasn't shown to you in the same way so I just want to give you a big hug I know from previous posts that there is a lot more to it than that, but your awareness and reflection of your situation is what will give you the strength to break the cycle as you are clearly a fantastic Mum to E which I hope you know, and are proud of

Today my mothers group had a catch up with some Mums and Bubs we hadn't seen for a while, the other babies are VERY developed - almost walking, crawling up a storm, climbing etc. It really struck me today how hindered Bailey is with his brace as he sat stationary as all the other babies played together, crawling after each other etc and I had a little cry. So ENJOY your rapidly developing babies doing all the things they should be doing (sorry to get on my soapbox but I would LOVE to chase Bailey around!!)

Nay
x

[Bridg]

BG- I think what Naomi said was spot on. You and DH ARE awesome parents, and you show E alot of love and I know you will support her with anything she does when she gets older.

Naomi- Huge hugs honey. I can sort of relate to having the baby that's not doing what everyone else's babies are doing, and it IS hard. I think that when Bailey gets his brace off, you and DH won't be able to keep up with him, because he will be unstoppable!!!

[briggsy's girl]

Hugs Naomi - i can't imagine how confronting it must have been in that situation. hoping you are ok with it now

i think you are right - i am not my parents, and i am doing all i can to make sure E doesn't have my upbrining. my dad was not just a hardass - he was much worse. he ended up having to go onto the strongest antidepressants on the market to control his temper after throwing me across the room as a teenager. he is a much different person now with his grandchildren but it doesnt' change how he was with us. if anything, it makes it worse because i can see how he should have been and what he is capable of in terms of affection and stuff.

[*TripleJ*]

Jamie has now decided 10pm is a great bed time thats the only news

for everyone going through hard times xoxoxox

[Nicole S]

Looks like this thread needs a BIG CYBER

I am sorry I am not much use to anyone atm but know that I am thinking of you all and lurk as much as possible but the last few days have just been laying low.

Aaron had his u/s done last week and still WAITING for his paed to call me with the results, I guess it really doesn’t matter anymore as Aaron will be seeing a Neurosurgeon a week after next for a second opinion. He will also be having a CT scan done that day as well.
My heart is falling apart in this waiting game and all I see is a happy loving little man the thought of possible surgery scares the crap out of me. I know it is ONLY another opinion but why is this scaring me soooo much

Anyway I better go and get some Zzzzz

Hugs to you all I promise to keep up to date with you all and post when my head is in a good space

[Snacks]

Nic: Sweety, the very thought of either of my children needing surgery scares me. But you are right, it is just another opinion. Plus, perhaps seeing a different specialist may in fact set your mind at ease a little more? It is just waiting that does your head in. Who is your pead? My niece's paed is up in the Hunter but they struggle with the same issue - they are always waiting for him.
Jacinta: Agh, I wouldn't cope with a 10pm bedtime. But then, I know I am up well before 8am on a good day, so that's probably why.
BG: You are DEFINITELY a different person to your parents. You are so patient with E, so understanding of her needs.
It's interesting what Nay says though. I'd have to agree that my dad is totally different now to what he was back then. But he was never abusive, just absent.
Bridg: So sorry that Logan's sight has hindered his development. And OMG, I'm sorry for the hips scare... I really hope he gets the all-clear in that regard. Do let us know how he gets on.
Naomi: Very insightful re the parents. I have often wondered at the way my Dad is so attentive to my kids. Also, even my mum is so much more relaxed and less strict with my children than she was with us. I remember her being very loving and affectionate, but I was scared of being in trouble with her too - she did the best death-stares. But with my kids, she is so lenient, so understanding of toddler-isms. It's either the fact that she's now Grandma and therefore the kids can't really do wrong, or that she worked as a kindy teacher when we were in high school and has been educated in effective ways to deal with little kids... Either way, she's a different person now to then.
Honey, I am sorry for the way the brace has held Bailey back. But. If I'm completely honest, I am really surprised that the 8-9mo babies we are all seeing are so mobile. I think it's an anomaly. In my mothers group with Natalie, most babies were crawling before her (she only began crawling at 11mo, only rolled at 9mo) but she was one of the first to walk at 14mo! With one exception, they all were at least 12mo before they started to walk. HPs I've spoken to say not to worry about walking until 18mo, then if they're not doing it, maybe start to investigate. Crawling isn't a milestone at all. And sitting is supposed to be mastered by around 9mo. Yes, it's really hard seeing other kids develop before yours. I thought Phoebe would be crawling by now, but she's not. She moves around, yes, but she still hasn't worked out how to get those knees and hands moving. I'm ok with it. Truly! It's no indication of how smart she is or isn't... in fact, if they don't walk til later then they have the smarts about them not to bash themselves into things as much, LOL! But I'm really struggling with Natty not being toilet trained yet. I don't know what it is - to me, it seems like this massive failure on both our parts. I'm being mega honest here - wouldn't admit that to anyone but you guys. I don't know how I can feel ok about her not having made any progress in 6 months. *shrug* So yeah, I do know how it feels to be disappointed that your kid isn't right there along with their peers.
Cathy: I had a look at your pics very quickly the other night - you did a great job with the sposie camera! Looks like you guys had a fabulous day. I LOVE the 'worlds' and would go there again in a heartbeat. Bummer that they are quite exxy though, and that my DH hates rollercoasters, LOL! I love them. We need to go with my bestie and her DH because he loves them and she hates them. We can partner-swap for the day
Krystie: There have been a few teeth erupt around here lately, but not sure who's got them or not. Phoebe has had two teeth for months now but no more! LOL! She's been a two-toothed girl for ages. Natalie was the same, it took so long for the top teeth to come through. You may find that Kyson gets his teeth in very quick succession. My nephew got his first tooth at 11mo then he had 8 teeth at 13mo. (And they didn't really bother him either.) But you're right - gummy smiles are GORGEOUS. Those teeth change the look of their faces so much, so enjoy this look while you can.
Nicky: I hope the 21st was good fun!
Hi there, Bella, Vic & Kat, hope you girls are doing well. xx

I have two job interviews today, and the kids have given me hell through the night! I will need some good make-up on today.

[~*Niadalla*~]

Hi girls! I just wanted to give you all GBH. I am sorry some of you are going through some tough times, and don't worry, I sit here some days and just think to myself how lucky we are that the kids are healthy and so far don't have any real issues.
I'm really sorry for bragging too. Will keep that in check

Krystie - Allira has no teeth either. Can't even really feel any in her gums, so could be a while yet.

Amy - All the best for you interviews today! I'm sure you will impress everyone and kick some interview butt!

Nicole - I just want to give you a big hug. We were preparing ourselves for being where you are with DS, we're just lucky all of his problems they told me about during the pregnancy turned out to not be problems. GBH for you and your little man.

Bridg - A big hug for you too. I hope that the appts for Logan's hips go better than expected. xx

Naomi - I can picture Bailey sitting there sussing out all the other kids, and working out what he wants to do... once that brace comes off he'll be gone! I can't imagine how you are feeling (and sorry for putting my foot in it with all the bragging). xx

BG - My parents are different with my kids aswell. My dad was a bit of a hard ass when we were kids, and now he is the worlds biggest softie and these kids can wrap him around their little fingers with the tiniest little smirk. It's a bit weird to see actually.
You are a wonderful Mum! You can see the love pour from your posts! Seriously! You've been so attentive to E's needs and seem so in tune with her. You are doing a wonderful job. xx

I will have to go facebook stalking and see where I can find all these pics.

I hope everyone has a great day, and a wonderful weekend.
xxoo