Nicole - I just want to give you huge hugs. You are going through what we thought we were going to be going through with DS. I can empathise with you. I just want to give you some massive hugs as there is nothing I can say that will make anything better. I really hope your the fluid levels just go down naturally for your little man. GBH. xxoo
Krystie - yay for AF!! I hoep that this IVF cycle works a treat and I'll be really interested to hear how you go with it, especially being someone who really doesn't have much knowledge about all things IVF. All the best!
Hi everyone!
Just packing bags for the night away (How sad that I have to pack a suitcase for us to stay at my parents for one night... ). We've got an engagement party on tonight so Mum and Dad are looking after the kids.
Can't shake these colds. The kids and I are all still blocked up, although not as bad as we have been. The weather here today is just YUCK, so just makes us feel so much better... Not.
Everytime Allira stands up now she takes 2-3 steps then drops herself on her bum. This has only been happening today after she took a few steps on her own last night. She won't stop it today. My folks will be very excited when they see her later.
Anyway, better head off. Have a great weekend. xxoo
Nicky - Hope the colds leave your household soon, are they doing the loop through the family over and over? I know what you mean about a suitcase for one night..... LOL whether or not we go away for one night or 10 we seems to taked way too much hehehe. Sounds like Allira is going to be walking very soon with the few steps, it wont take much and she'll be off - another one for you to chase around heheheehe
We finally had a nice Sunday where the stupid weather was well abouve 30 degree's - Yay! We headed down to Glenelg (sea-side suburb of Adelaide) and took Bailey to the Beachouse - lotsa fun (actually I think we enjoyed playing all the arcade games better LOL), but we took him on his first train ride and carousel - he was curiously blazè - no bursting smile but seemed content
Other than that I had a mega cry to DH this morning about going back to work, I was getting teary about it every time it's mentioned but today I just couldn't stop crying, had a bit of a breakdown, but it was probably good to get it all out. We talked about a few different things, and the fact that if we were still in our old house with our old mortgage I wouldn't need to go back to work yet, and although we briefly discussed the idea of living in a cheaper house etc, thats really not what either of us want to do, it would be a big step back for us and would take months or more to do anyway, we wouldn't get the money we would want for our house in the current climate etc etc and then we would have no savings capacity for IVF baby number 2 etc so we are making the right decision for our families future so I feel more at peace with it from that perspective, but far out, I am an emotional wreck right now. I didn't think it would be this hard. I really want to enjoy this last week, but it's gonna be bittersweet. I just gotta work through it!
Thank you all for your support on my FB post about the same thing
So throw a few "Toughen Up Princess"s my way, I might need a slap about the ear or two, but I am counting on you guys to get me through it all, so sorry in advance if I am a big sookie sookie la la over the next few days/weeks, I'm sure in no time I'll adjust to the change in our family life (although I'm sure I'll never be happy about going to work and leaving my baby)........ plenty of other fantastic mothers have gone through the same thing so I can do it too!
Thanks for all the support ladies, you are all the greatest!!
Am doing ok today still a bit of a mess yesterday but I know that whatever needs to be done for Aaron we will do it.
Nicky, did they think your DS had Hydro?
Naomi, BIG hugs to you.
Will not play any"Toughen Up Princess"s lines for you cause I am sure it is such a hard reality for you this week.
I take my hat of to you for being so brave, I don't have a job to go back to so the thought of work hasn't crossed my mind but can only imagine how you must be feeling.
You and your DH are doing your very best for Master Bailey to give him a beautiful home and a future sibling. These things do come at a cost but in the long run will be very worth it.
Sorry - super-quick-flying-out-the-door post...
Nic: Just hugs for you, babe. I had hoped that it was just that you needed to get going, but when I didn't see you I wondered if you'd gotten some less than good news. I am glad you are feeling more positive about things today, and of course you will do whatever you can for your baby. You are a strong mum and Aaron's going to be great.
Nay: I know how you are feeling. I remember going back to work after Natalie and although she was almost 13 months old, it was still really tough. And of course you know what a roller-coaster it's been with Phoebe. So I feel for you, there's nothing else I can say except of course you are making the right decision for you and your family. You will certainly miss Bailz, but the time with him will be all the more valuable and precious. And, I also think you are giving S a MASSIVE gift by going back so's he can have some time with Bailey! So few dads get that opportunity.
I am sorry - I'll try to pop back on sometime today. Love to you all. xx
Cara is trying to clap...it's so cute. She just misses her hands though hehe. She is pulling to stand up a LOT now. With a teenager and her homework around, we have to watch she doesn't get into everything now.
I can't believe it is March!! OMG! My best friend is due to have her baby this week. Her and her family (her, hubby, 4 and 2 year old) all have had whopping cough!! this past few weeks so I haven't seen them since christmas. She doesn't believe in immunisation. She's exhausted being that close to having the baby and kids throwing up everywhere. I am so glad my kids never had it. We had a close call when Cara was a newbie, but I got her shots as soon as she hit 2 mths (me too).
The same Mum is thinking of home schooling her kids. I don't think I could do that, I kind of like the break I get them they go to school hehe I think it's good for them to make friends and socialize too.
Cara turns 9mths this week...time sure is flying! I guess we will celebrate on wednesay..having a baby born on the 31st is strange. I must see what the ticker says hehe
Nay: I know IVF is expensive. I guess you just have to think that work will bring you one step closer to your next bubby. And it is soooo cool that S can look after Bailey til he goes to Childcare. It is rare for Dads to get that chance.
Nicole - During the 20 week scan they were worried about DS' ventricles. That they were too large. I ended up being sent to Melb for a tertiary scan etc to get a better look. I spoke with a few specialists who told me a tiny bit about what would happen if DS still had oversized brain ventricles after the birth, and how we'd go to the royal Childrens after an initial scan at home if it was a worry.
I continued having growth scans for the remainder of the pregnancy and DS had a scan on his head when he was a few weeks old. His ventricles were still above average, but nothing that they said they would be too concerned about and we had to monitor his head size from then on. We've been really lucky that DS' hasn't had to have any further done to him, and his head size although on the exta large side of things, was perfect for him and followed it's own curve.
So although I've not been where you are, I really do feel for you. I wish you and your little man all the very very best and if there's anything I can do to help, please let me know.
xxoo
Hi girls!
Naomi - I am sure I would feel exactly the same as you are right now in regards to work if it was me. Don't feel down on yourself, what you are feeling is so totally normal. I wish you didn't have to feel it... how nice if we all didn't depend on money so much.
You are making the right decision for you and your family hun. In a few years time, you will not regret a thing. I'm sure of it.
Hi everyone! Getting a few more steps from Allira now. Still wouldn't class it as walking just yet.
Allira had her 4th swimming lesson yesterday and she was just amazing! She seems like such a natural. I shouldn't be surprised as Lachie picked it all up so so quickly, but she is just amazing me with what she can do! She absolutely loves it.
Not much on the cards this week. Same old stuff really. I've been camping out on the lounge when the kids are in bed watching outrageous fortune and LMAO big time.
Ok that's it fo me. Time to get ready for strength training.
Thanks girls, your words of support are really helpful (and appreciated), it actually made me tear up (but in a good way) cos you made me feel loved and understood And Amy - I wanted to say that if a great Mum like you can do it, then I can too, so thanks, I know you have gone through it twice now with returning to work recently yet again and you always handle stuff with dignity and style (and a hell of a lot of humour thrown in!)
I realised in my last post that I said our sunday was well above 30 degrees, I actually meant it was nice that it WASN'T - LOL, but having said that we had a mild 23 here today, I actually put long sleeves and long pants on Bailz - he was pulling at his sleeves as if to say "What the hell is THIS?" LOL. I put the pants on I made, they are terribly baggy and disgustingly made but looked kinda cool in a baggy-gansta-rapper kinda way At least they fit over his brace with ease! Will have to post some photo's on FB to show you what I mean hehehehe
Well my work clothes fit - they are actually bigger on me than before, I am a few KG lighter than pre-pregancy which is a miracle considering all the mothers group morning tea's I've eaten over the last few months, so that was a nice confidence boost. I might shout myself to a new outfit or two after I have finished Baileys birthday shopping
BG - just wanted to send you hugs honey, I saw on FB the stuff about C's job offer etc, that must be frustrating as hell - bloody money!! Wouldn't we all love a big lotto win right about now!
Cathy - that photo of Cara in the bouncer @ 3 and 9 months is a good reflection on how quick these babies grow - far out! It really makes you realise how precious time is - as blink and you'll miss it all!
Nic - You are a strong lady and a doubly strong Mum - you are dead right, as Mums we just do what needs to be done, and I admire you during this tough time. Whats your timeline now? Do you have to wait the 6 weeks until the next neuro appt for more info? Or will you get some of the test outcomes earlier? Sorry I had to bail yesterday when we were chatting, I lost your number as I logged out of FB chat and when I re-opened it last night it was there and before I got around to putting it in my phone it was gone, for whatever reason the chat window didn't keep the chat log as it normally does
Krystie - I cant recall the particulars of my cycle, but reading Nicole's I recall it being very similar, perhaps my dosage was lower, I remember it was a low dose
Nicky - glad to hear Allira is loving her swimming, we love it here too, and Sean has taken Bailey a few times and he is going to continue to take him on Tuesdays. Has Allira been underwater yet? That's always funny (unless of course they hate it with a passion!!)
Right, it's almost Bailey's dinner time, I better go arrange some food! He gets a bit rowdy when he is hungry - just basically yells for food HAHAHHA
Naomi- Sorry but you will not get any 'suck it up princess' comments from me either. Looks like you will just have to take our support. Your Sunday Funday sounds like something I would love to do with our family. I think Bailey would look gorgeous in anything you dress him in. Yay for the work clothes fitting. It's always good when clothes are a little baggier than last time you wore them.
Krystie- Glad things on the IVF front are looking good.
BG- Sorry to hear about C's job that he had to turn down. Fingers crossed something comes up soon.
Cathy- I'm loving the pics on FB!
Nicky- I can imagine when Allira gets the gist of walking. Look out Lachie! Is outrageous fortune on normal tele or pay tv?
AFU, Logan is always on the move now. Anything he can pull himself up on and walk around, he's there! He has 2 bottom teeth now. He has lost his baby look and looks more like a toddler. Jake and Zac are doing really well at school. Some of the things they come home with are hilarious! It's just over 3 weeks until the end of Term 1.
Sorry been missing in action. I have gotten the house fully sorted now so ppl have been trying to catch up with me left right and center!! including one of my girlfriends who is 42wks pregnant and wants me to come to her home birth to be her support person (she has a MW) so that has me tickled pink!!!
Girls can I just sat I was driving in the car the other day and I thought of all the times I have come onto here to have a good whinge or tell my troubles, have received fabulous support and by the time I have gotten back on here I have forgotten to say thank you. So I just want to say thank you for all the kind worlds the sympathy and empathy and the endless support. You girls rock!! And you are my rock! I can imagine us in 5yrs time when this thread closes permanently that we will just have to demand that Kelly give us a new kind of thread which keeps going for 20 yrs! LOL
Sorry no persies, I am knackered and I have been neglecting DH lately and he is due home any moment!!
AFM, well I am tired but well. getting to know some of the other mothers in my community and catching up with a group of girls from work who have all gotten pregnant together. It is really funny cos we were all in the social group who were left out of the social group.... does that make sense??? We weren't in the "it" crowd ( there is like 100 chicks in the ED I worked it). Anyway it is a bit like high school and non of us wanted to play. So now we r all hanging out a bit more often cos we arn't all on shifts and it is really nice! So we havn't excluded anyone but they dont bother to come to anything we do so it suits us all just fine and we r really bonding closer.
Anyway I must go. It is pouring with rainand DH is 1/2 hr over due from work... I hope he is ok.
sigh - i did a huge post on the other computer yesterday, posted, then closed - come on here today and it's gone! dammit! not happy
anyway, i'll try to remember - i had lots of persies but that just feels too hard
Nay - just wanted to agree - you'll get no "suck it up princess" attitude from me either. you'll get support and admiration - and a bit of stalker thrown in there for good measure! i'm going to be going back to work in April, so will be following how you're coping (as i have with Amy - but possibly more for you cos this is your first kiddy - hope that makes sense!). we have no choice financially but for me to return to work, so mentally i'm ok with it - emotionally not so much. but we'll get there. it's a short time each week to allow us to survive - she deserves that from me!
thanks for the comments about DH's job offer. it's really disheartening for him - he's an awesome provider emotionally and physically - and it's really messing with his head that he can't be the financial breadwinner that he thinks he's supposed to be. he is working, but it's not steady and the money is crap - but he won't NOT work. it's just who he is. at least the temp agency have restructured their file on him now so that any labour work that comes up they can contact him. he has an interview today and we'll see about getting some funding for him to do his tickets that he needs for traffic management, as there are a few jobs going that need that at the moment. once he has them, he can get some work locally on roads crews - he's done the job a hundred times before while working driving a tipper (he gets in and helps do other peoples jobs rather than bein bored lol) - just needs the official bit of paper so that they can hire him for OH&S reasons
Bella - i dont think any of us expect specific thanks for any support - that's what we're here for and we all understand that it's welcomed and needed and that it will always be there whether you voice the word thankyou or not. it's an unwritten gratefulness from everyone for everyone in this thread!
Bridg - yay for Logan being mobile! doesn't sound like he's letting any of his visual problems slow him down at all which is just fantastic! i can't believe it's only 3 weeks til holidays! so early this year!!
Krystie - i was on high dose drugs for most of my cycles cos my dumb body didn't agree with being forced to do anything, so i won't bore you with dosage details, but i can let you know for the full IVF cycle:
Day 1-6 - puregon only
Day 7 BT, puregon and orgalutron (antagonist)
Day 8-9 puregon and orgalutron
day 10 u/s, puregon and orgalutron
day 11 puregon and orgalutron
day 12 puregon and trigger (from memory)
day 13 drug free
day 14 EPU
day 16 - crinone started, used twice daily until BT
day 17 transfer
day 26 AF arrived early
day 28 BT confirmed it hadn't worked this time
our other cycles were different each time. but this was the full EPU cycle. i got BFP's on IUI cycles and on a frozen embryo transfer cycle - each one was different. we tweaked each time until we got the right mix of things to give us Miss E - BUT, my body is VERY difficult and almost as stubborn as my red head attitude - so that's why we have dramas!
how are you going with the jabbing now?
well, must away - lots more to write, but i have to get myself organised to head into town. having lunch and dinner with my folks - as a trade off for DH and I doing some landscaping for them! yay us! lol
My friend Belinda had her baby yesterday (her 3rd). Little girl 3.3kg (her smallest, the first two were 4kg and 3.6kg). They are naming her Sara (as in Cara). She came home from hospital within a few hours. Natural birth, no stitches. I told her WELL DONE!! Cara was like that...pretty easy birth (except for the backache labour!). I think I deserved no stitches after going through so much pain! Posterier labour..no fun!! Least she turned around to be born.
Our weather has turned NICE!!! Rain (for a few days by the looks of it)and cooler temps...phew. So nice to sleep without the fan going all the time!
Bel: It's always nice to feel appreciated. Though i do agree, there is an unwritten gratefulness from everyone. Nevertheless, everyone appreciates a thank you...good manners are sadly lacking these days. I'd like to say thanks to everyone too...for the advice and for letting an old timer (4th time Mum) crash the group. I still learn new things from parenting..believe it or not.
I know what you mean about never being part of the 'it' group at work too Bel. I hated that. Especially when all the smokers gathered outside for their gossip. I missed out on being part of the circle. And it seemed like high school all over again.
Bridg: I remember Ronan starting to look like a little man (boy) by about 9mths. It was funny how he lost the baby look earlier. I dont know if it's cause he was a boy. But he seemed to grow up (in looks) more so than the girls. Maybe boys have stronger features? that is why????
Naomi: I took a pic of Cara in her red car today and remembered a pic of her in it at 3 weeks of age...so I did a collage (it's in my collage pics next to the other one I did hehe)
Nicole, Krystie: I am totally hooked on farmville on facebook now.arghhhhh.
Off to do some housework...damn it! This rain makes me feel lazy (well that is my excuse today hehe)
Super quick post trying to get Aaron to bed so I can watch McDreamy....
Has anyone noticed if their bubbas voice has changed??
Aaron has and only in the last 4 days it's a bit crocky wingy and just really different....
I don't think he is sick or anything but his hydro has made me a very stressed out mum and the poor kid could just be growing hense his voice and cry is changing.
Nic - yeah, I have noticed a change a few times over the past few months, lately he has a little toddler yabber, he yabbers all day, but he has also developed a rather annoying whinge that sounds like "nahnahnahnahnahnahnah" in an equally annoying pitch
Cathy - just checked out the pics, what a massive difference 6 months makes!
Bella - yeah hopefully by the time our kids are 5 these threads will keep going, otherwise we'll just have to hijack another thread LOL. I totally agree with you re always finding support in our thread, I think the thing that makes it so special is that we just get each other, no massive explanations needed! We are pretty lucky to have such an awesome support network
BG - Hope your lunch and dinner were fun! Oh I forgot about cronine (or perhaps I pushed it to the dark depths of my mind!!) Fanny Polyfilla!! Pretty disgusting stuff, I actually reacted to it after using it for most of the 2WW, had massively strong cramping and remember being on the loo almost fainting about 2 days before my BT to see if I was pg. I thought it was all over at this point, thought a massive AF was on the way. Anyhoo they told me to stop using it and come in a day early for my BT instead which was kinda nice, we found out a day earlier! Krystie - its a cream you insert up your 'whohaa' that helps implantation of the embryo. It's a bit messy but hell, the whole process is really!!
Bridg - you have to post some of the twins school comments to give us a laugh! Good on Logan for getting about, nothing will stop your little man, glad to hear he is doing well
Must away, I need to tidy up dinner, do a quick vacuum etc before Grays starts, like Nicole I am a McDreamy fan **drools**. to everyone else!!
Oooooh, just quickly though, at swimming today my little fish was sitting on the side of the pool and did Humpty Dumpty all by himself for the first time. He sat there, then leaned forward into the pool, went under and swam to my arms - I am BURSTING with pride!!!
Hello there you wonderful Mummys! Oh I've missed you, I really have. I guess you might have seen a few posts around other sections of BB here and there but I don't think I've posted here in a coupla months.
I keep meaning to pop in and do a really decent post, update, persies and all, but I never quite manage. Ivy still only sleeps for 30 mins at a time through the day and it often still takes me up to an hour to actually get her to sleep so with the precious little time I have, I eat, shower, hang out the washing, do the dishes, do a brief lurk on BB and FB and then she's up again. I also find that every time I pop in here there's SO much going on, I can't keep up! Gawd you gals know how to chat! Therefore I end up feeling too guilty to post as i can't go back 5 pages to figure out what's been going on and comment with any kind of insight.
Thanks to FB though, at least I get to see how your beautiful kids are growing and get lovely little one-sentence updates that I can manage! And I can say with absolutely no bias or undue flattery... they're all so beautiful! Makes me so proud of you and them to see how happy and healthy they are and what amazing things they're up to now. Really feels like yesterday we were all going 'geez my belly is enormous I'm sick of preggo heartburn! When is this baby gonna come out!'. And our little ones are going to be 1 so soon! (eeeeeeeekk!)
Anyways, this is my really long-winded, excuse-filled way of saying that I'm letting myself off the hook and deciding that I can't really be an active part of this thread any more. I'll still lurk from time to time if you don't mind, and I'll love to keep in touch via FB. I guess my lack of posting already made that the case, but i just wanted to kind of make it official so I can stop beating myself up abt not posting here and let you all know...
I STILL LOVE YAS ALL HEAPS!!!
Plleeeeeease keep in touch on FB and I'll hopefully catch some of you IRL too. MASSIVE hugs to you all. xoxoxoxoxoxo
Kat - keep lurking, and don't feel guilty about not posting, its totally A-OK, with a 30 minute sleeper I TOTALLY understand that you'd have precious little time, Personally I'd rather you lurk and give us the occasional update on Ivy when you have time than you disappear. You were part of our Belly Buddies and our Baby Buddies and have contributed to our threads heaps in the past so I give you a "No-Post-Lurk-Pass" and I am sure the other Gals agree. We are planning another meet-up in October in Melb (hopefully at the Zoo) and would LOVE to see you and Ivy there if you can make it!
yeah, what Naomi said! you don't have to post but don't feel like you can't hang around just because you don't have time to post. sorry hun, you're one of us - you can't escape! have sent an invite to the zoo trip on FB - hope you can make it!
starting to feel sore so i'll be brief (yeah right!) - Cathy - i agree, apreciation and manners don't go astray - i guess i was just saying we don't expect a formal thankyou or don't think less of someone who doesn't get to post one. we all know that the sentiment is there...
been working my ass off (well, a very small portion of it) today - doing some landscaping at my parents place. they have done the dodgiest things with their yard when they put a new shed up - it's just full on (ramps on 45degree angles, areas they wanted no grass growing - but they never got it finished off properly) so we've been tidying up the half ass job that was done on the yard - pulling up badly laid weed mat (and the weeds underneath) spraying and smothering the soil underneath, re-laying the weedmat (properly) and then moving mulch onto it. tomorrow we finish moving the mulch that is there and may need to get more tomorrow night, spray over the top of the mulch (dad's friend does tree lopping and we're getting the mulch there, so there could be anything in it!) yada yada yada. i have worked muscles today i forgot i had! so on that note, i shall go hunting on the net on the GDUNH and on treasure madness on FB - and hope neither requres much movement!
Cathy- It's so sad when they lose their baby look I reckon. Congrats to your friend on the arrival of her DD. Love the name!
Nic- Nah, I haven't really taken notice of Logan's voice. I know he can do a very high pitched squeal though!
Naomi- Yay for Humpty Dumpty Bailey! He must be a real little fish. Logan loves the water too.
Kat- I'm with Naomi and BG on this one. There is no escaping us!
BG- Ouchies re the muscles.
AFU, Well Logan has a new thing of when he hears the shower running, he crawls as fast as he can until he gets to the bathroom. Sometimes he is that excited, he forgets he has a vision impairment and crashes into things. We have stolen Naomi's idea of Sunday Funday, so from now on, we are going to spend every Sunday as a family doing something. Thank Naomi!
Oh, does anyone else's bubbas know how to chuck a tanti yet? Logan has it down pat.
I didn't think it would be this hard. I really want to enjoy this last week, but it's gonna be bittersweet. I just gotta work through it!
I might need a slap about the ear or two, but I am counting on you guys to get me through it all, so sorry in advance if I am a big sookie sookie la la over the next few days/weeks, I'm sure in no time I'll adjust to the change in our family life (although I'm sure I'll never be happy about going to work and leaving my baby)........ plenty of other fantastic mothers have gone through the same thing so I can do it too!
At least they fit over his brace with ease! Will have to post some photo's on FB to show you what I mean hehehehe
to everyone else!!
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