Babies Born~May 1st-15th 2009 #2

[Toomanytoomany]

JwithJ, hi Thomas was rolling over at five weeks or so but then stopped because he got so fat LOL. Babies do things at such wildly different rates. You might find your bubba rolls early but other things happen later. Thomas is getting a bit late for learning how to use his hands, for instance, but is extremely chatty for such a wee bub. But welcome, regardless! Tom is a bit older than most babies in this group, but I started off with these lovely ladies before my due date was changed.

TM, I wouldn't be letting Jade stay overnight with your dp. She's too little to be away from her mummy over night, imo. It would be different if he were caring for her regularly. He'd be hard pressed to get an order for overnight contact at this stage. However, because he is her father, if you don't have an agreement in place regarding contact, if he comes and takes her, there's not much you can do about it until you go to court and get an emergency order made. My advice to newly separated couples, regardless of the age of the baby is, get a formal agreement asap. You can always bring up his dope use if he gets difficult over it. And definitely look into child support. The CSA will do everything for you.

Rayray, happy birthday to Milo (was it his birthday???). Glad the traveling went well.

BK, good luck with going back to work. What a heart wrenching thing for you to do! I'm sure you'll all adjust admirably though. I had a job offer last week that I can do from home but means starting straight away, rather than enjoying my maternity leave. It's such a good opportunity, though, I don't know if I can turn it down or not!! At least i wouldn't have to leave Tom, though. I went back to work when Clare was four months old and I hated it. It didn't do her any harm though

Dee, did Ethan have the rotavirus vaccination? That can give them a nasty upset tummy as well. I'm sorry he had a hard time with his shots. Good luck with the Mirena. I've heard mixed reports of it. My sister ended up getting hers removed as she couldn't stand it.

Nelly, Clare went to two MCHN appointments when she was a baby... and that was it!! She never went back!! <- bad mummy. Glad Sophia's doing well

Amazed, I wouldn't worry about the nursing to sleep. When he's older, he'll get over it. I mean, he'll wean one day, regardless

I'm getting fed up with sleeplessness. I think we're getting somewhere and then bang, there's another night where I'm up three times and I'm a zombie all the next day. Weekends are particularly hard when it's difficult to have a sleep in the afternoon with the herd of fairy elephants stomping up and down the hallway. I have a constant headache now from just not sleeping. Lucky he's so cute.

Otherwise, I'm enjoying him a lot. He has sort of found his hands now. I love how babies stare at their hands like they're stoned... He doesn't like tummy time much other than when he's having his massage, which I think is a result of the reflux. He's having Gaviscon three times a day and i *think* it is helping. He's certainly happier when he's awake, and he is a right chatterbox like Clare. Some days it is hard to get him to have a good feed because he just wants to chat. He keeps saying "A-gaaaa", and one day I'll figure out what it means... I got him to coo down the phone to my sister today which was sweet. He laughs if you tickle him but otherwise you just get the big lovely gummy grins.

Dh and I are having our whooping cough shots tomorrow. Sigh. Sore backside, here I come.

This week all the other kids have been vile, even my perfect star child Isobel, who decided to use 3/4 of the bottle of baby shampoo that we bought just that day to have a super luxurious bubble bath.

[helle]

He laughs if you tickle him but otherwise you just get the big lovely gummy grins.

*melt* Too cute!

[nelly]

hi all

tmtm - I don't know how you manage to keep up with all of the persies! You girls that do it I take my hat off to you! I struggle to read the posts let alone remember and reply to everyone.

Sophia sounds like wee Tom in the sleep well one night & have two up and down nights, repeat, repeat. The nights she sleeps well I wake up and feel like a zombie the next day and the nights she does wake I struggle to even open my eyes to get up to her and of course feel like a zombie the next day! Thanks goodness her bassinet is on DH side and he gets up and passes her to me. To top it all off hurt my back again on Monday - two Mondays in a row. It just happens to coincide with the fact that I have been actually cleaning the house properly on a Monday - so have told DH my body is telling me housework is not good for it!

BK hope work is ok for you - is DH still bringing Reuben up to feed?

Tatt you sound like you are doing do well on your own make sure you give yourself a pat on the back. Jade has the most amazing shock of hair and her eyes are amazing! She reminds me of a little pixie.

Oscar big hugs hun. Make sure you call out if you need time out to rest during the day.

We have had 2 kids with ear infections and Jake has had a chest infection so life has been fun, plus DH was away late last week for conference for 2 night when the kids were at their sickest. Let's say I was not impressed when he came home and complained of a hangover and wanted to sleep all weekend. THEN to top it off was going to waltz off to the gym Sunday afternoon and so ensued the age old discussion we go over and over about mummy down time.... apparently I can "go to the shops anytime" aaaaaaaaarrrrrgggggggghhhhhhhhhh... going to the shops is not my idea of downtime especially with a baby and a 2 yr old. It has taken me a while to my cranky pants off ... he is a great husband father partner and friend and I am really lucky but this is one thing that pops up every now and then that rubs me the wrong way.

[megs]

Hi Girls,

TMTM and Nelly, sorry to hear you are still feeling the sleep deprivation, hopefully it will all settle down for you soon.

Nelly: I am hearing you re your DH, like yours mine is wonderfully but he has his Saturday afternoon golf, when ends up being not home til after 8pm. When I mention down time, he too thinks that my going shopping is a leisure activity. I would like to see him playing golf with 3 kids in tow. Men, they just don't think sometimes.

Will try and get back on later, the whitching hour has begun

[Toomanytoomany]

Nelly it sounds like you have had an absolutely horrific run, and big smack to the head for your dh for being so clueless over you needing some time out!! I was reading in Practical Parenting today about getting time for yourself with a new baby. My time is in the afternoon in bed with Tom, mucking around on my iphone. Can you just tell him EXACTLY what you want - time out on your own, no kids, shopping doesn't count!!

Are you going to get some physio for your back?

Megs, it *should* be witching hour here, but we're having takeaway, and the baby is asleep, and the kids are watching TV, and I've been undisturbed for ten whole minutes!!

[tattoo_mama]

lol Nelly funny u say that, my parents used to call me a gelfling (from the movie Dark Crystal) and Jade looks just like i did as a baby so now mum calls her gelfling too! just today she has started working out her hands and has started grabbing toys haning from her playmat arch! very cute

[Pandora]

TMTM - nah not his birthday, one of his friends from playgroup. RE the shampoo. I was the child who, if I was visiting, struck fear in to people and made them lock their bathrooms and laundrys up. At least she used the shampoo - I used to pour any bottles in reach down the drain cos I liked watching it slide down there...and empty laundry detergents on to the floor..

TM - Oscar is grabbing on to things too its cute. Jade seems to be doing really well you must be doing a super job

[Toomanytoomany]

Thomas doesn't grab stuff much. He sometimes bats things with his hands, and he loves it when you hold his hand, but he still doesn't hold things.

I had a frustrating week last week with Tom and thrush. He has some thrush on his tongue which isn't *really* interfering with his feeding but he's gone off comfort sucking. So I went to the chemist to get some Daktarin or something for it, and the chemist wouldn't give it to me until Tom had been to the doctor, even though it's an over the counter medication. I didn't want to have to make a whole appointment just to have the doc say "yes", but I didn't want to lie either. I mean, it's been a while since I had to use any of it and I couldn't remember how old Genna was when we used it on her. So we had to wait until this morning when dh and I got our whooping cough boosters to ask, and of course the doc said yes.

In the meantime, I've was asking every chemist I pass by to sell me some and they acted like I was trying to buy crack LOL. Anyway, I got it today and started giving it to Tom on his dummy. So hopefully that white tongue will disappear.

[*TripleJ*]

Jamie grabs things sort of if its easy to grab IYKWIM and i found he can only roll if hes wearing his pumpkin patch overalls hmmm wonder wat that means? its very strange
had a fabo day today 1st car broke down 70kms from home (we live in the country) and 2nd the hot water service is stuffed up grrrr

[tattoo_mama]

TMTM: jade has thrush on her tongue at 3 weeks old, she basically stopped feeding caus it hurt so much, so the nurses at MBU gave her daktarin gel. a good way to do it is after a feed, get a cotton tip, use one end to dry thier tongue, then put a pea size amount of daktarin on the other end and wipe on thier tongue. we did it after every feed and it was gone within a week, she didnt seem to mind the daktarin at all.

[Pandora]

megs, your pm box is full

[megs]

Thanks I've fixed it, I always for get about the send box.

[Pandora]

lol me too.
Well, im trying to change DS' 1 formula feed a day to heinz nurture gold from nan ha, becuase i can get the heinz for 75c a sachet, and as we dont use a full tin before the best before date, it will be a lot cheaper and less waste this way.
He had some today and was fine to drink it, now its a waiting game to see whether it upsets his belly.

[tattoo_mama]

Pandora, Jade has only put on 500 grams in 10 weeks and the CHN wsnt worried at all, she said its prob cause she is in her walker alot (which i got told off for) the CHN said she should only be in in 10 or 15 mins a day but shes in it probably 2 hours altogether, its the only way i can get a break from her...
XP is on a disability pension now so isnt having to work and is caring for her 3 nights a week which gives me a good break too, and my PND seems to be lessening.
Jade has no teeth yet, is sort of shuffling/commando crawling backwards and vocab includes mumma dadda and 'heyyyyyy' whenever i wake her up cause thats what i always say to her