ok...personals while typing left handed!

Traylee - i got given this little snot sucker device,maybe you should look at something like that,they use them in daycares.nasal aspirator i believe they are called.

pmccask - sounds like a not to hard labour! & you have to stay cause i gate crashed this thread to!!its only one day!

Phoenix - i'm not having pelvic floor issues but i was always good with doing pelvic floors plus using tummy muscles during preg to 'hold' everything.i think if you get into doing them it will all tighten back up lol on the preg BF,i did my first one sat lunch - same thing, sat in the car!

Sleepy - i didnt know about the bananas thing...i've been eating them everyday & it thankfully doesnt appear to be causing any issues..i've learnt a lot reading about everyone elses experiences.

Tiff - newborn,little one & sick...i'd have been in tears.especially doing it alone your a trooper!

JLeigh - you poor thing!we are trying very hard to not cuddle Zen to sleep either, the first few days he was straight into the bassinet then he had a couple of days bad patch where he needed that comfort. I'm so glad the nurse gave you some tips on how to cope...it can be so overwhelming!

Hi to everyone else!

AFM: we are starting to get a routine going - yippee!!. Zen feeds approximately two hourly during the day but every 4-5hrs overnight which is a dream for me cause I am able to get some decent rest during the night which makes me able to cope with his grizzles during the day. For about two feeds he needs cuddles to sleep so I have a sarong I tied up and hang him in against me so I can still get stuff done around the house.
We ended up getting a dummy as he wont settle during the day without it. he refuses to take it any other time which i am happy about.
I had a choice of doing the dishes or getting on here - its obvious which one won lol
I still have a coffee but only about half strength and only one a day, I drank 2 cups a day while preg so I dont know that it is a big issue now.
I'm so far able to keep on top of stuff, I am trying to do the super mum thing lol...not have DH routine change to drastically, often it will be me giving him Zen so I can do stuff rather than ask him to do it, plus he needs his daddy and son time.
I often give him over for a burping of an evening and DH doesnt want to hand him back lol
We both still feel like its all a sham, like maybe we have borrowed a baby or something, shopping with him was surreal! Every now and then I look at him and realise that this is now my life...and its terrifying, although I wouldnt change it
I said to DH last night that yes, I love Zen to bits but it hasnt changed my mind about only having the one. I know some ppl dont get it and think I am depriving him of siblings but thankfully its my choice not theirs
We are on the boobie and he seems to be doing well.Have to make an appt for his checkup this week. We have no idea what we are doing but are muddling through.

Hope everyone is loving their babymoon and getting enough rest and support. xoxo