Yeah Im thinking if I can get past these next few months I should be right. Just now is not good! Although I would have to say I am not terribly clucky but I just have a feeling of not being done yet! If things were so easy hey!
I think im feeling sad coz I have no choice in the matter, like I want it bad but it's never going to happen. Think that's what gets to me the most that its just never going to happen again. I'm happy with my 3 girls & know we'd struggle financially at the moment if I had another baby so even if I could have another, right now wouldn't be a good time for us.
Im sorry that even though you couldnt have another for financial reasons, that your choice has been taken out of your hands. I can only imagine how hard that would be.
I just remember how scared I was having Lexie, wondering if my uterus would cope (after rupturing with Lara), and then being put to sleep for my c/s. It was safer for me to have my tubes tied than to risk getting pregnant again, I'd hate the thought of something fatal happening to me or my unborn baby. I should be grateful for the 3 beautiful girls that I have, when some people can't have kids at all.
I do remember how scared you were the nights before your c-sec and how you were writing the girls letters just in case! It must have been terrifying. And you know you are right, you have 3 beautiful, happy healthy little ladies, when some people just cant have any at all. Better go before Becca bite Olivia for tormenting her!
Hi everyone,
its been a while since I logged in, but get the updates once in a while. All well here, Willow getting very tall, toilet trained (except at night when she is still in a cot because she won't stay in bed...though trying the bed again tonight). I have had her baby clothes out in the spare room for a long time now, finding it really tough to give them away. As much as I would love to have a 3rd DH is adamant it's not ever going to happen, so have to be happy with my two (both were IVF as he'd had a vasectomy before we met). Have spoken with a couple of friends who have older kids and most agree that it is a feeling that a lot of women have to want to have more....maybe that's why a lot of our grandparents (and some of our parents) had big families ....
Ok, have just had Willow come out, naked but for a singlet..sigh! Hope all of you girls and your little ones stay well
Jo
Great to hear from you, glad Willow is well. Good luck for tonight, hopefully she stays in the bed for you. Its so hard giving the clothes away, most of my girl's baby clothes are gone now But I did keep a few special outfits. I have also sold the bassinet and a few other baby things.
Hope you went ok with Willow last night Jo! And good to hear from you Ahh yes... thatfeeling of when to stop! Its a question I have been asking for ages! I asked my mum, who had 8 children (my brother was born when I was 17) and she said she would have kept going if I had have been happy about it (I used to look after the younger ones when she went to work, but my brother was born when I was doing my year 12 and I wasnt to thrilled at the time). So even after 8 she still wanted more! I wouldnt do 8 but 4 is doable... but .... lots of buts!
Well I have sold my wooden cradle. Now to get rid of the swing, the capsule and the clothes!!! Oh and I sart work in 2 days and am so very apprehensive.... of Adam! Hope he manages ok
Yay Lexie.... good stuff! Now the fun begins
Work went well. Adam did fantastic. Now just to keep going. I would be happy to do 1 or 2 shifts a week. I really dont want to work at all but in order to keep my nursing registration I have to do a minimum amount of hours over 5 years (around 480). I think I will be happy to start with 1 day a week. Just for some money and adult conversation. My children are still babies so I really dont want to miss out on much. Thankfully nursing gives me loads of flexability.
What are you doing in terms of work Rebecca? I like being a SAHM.... after years and years of working!
Glad work went well for you Mel. I love being a sahm too. Before I had Cadence I worked for an airline in the operations dept. After my 12 mths maternity leave was up I couldn't go back as there were no vacancies in any daycares for Cadence & work needed me full time. They'd already been ringing me before the 12 mths asking me to go back but I was adamant I wanted 12 mths at home with Cadence. Of course after I told them I wouldn't be able to go back to work a daycare centre called me 2 wks later saying they had a vacancy but it was too late, my job had been given away. The director at the daycare told me they needed staff & if I was will to study for my Cert 3 in children's services that she'd give me a job, so I worked at the daycare centre until not long before I had Lara. I loved it & it was a job where I actually got to see Cadence and didn't feel like I was missing out on her growing up. Plus one good thing about working in childcare is that I got every weekend & public holiday off.....there aren't many jobs like that anymore.
How was her Birthday? Did you have the Christening yet?
OMG Rebecca, I had a melt down today. I was talking to dh about #4 last night and he said its definately out. Not only financial reasons, but coping reasons! Liv and bec can be a handful at times and hes not sure if he can cope if there were four. I went to ring the gp to get the implanin put in and I started crying! I was so teary today. Its terrible. Now Im so confused! I do and I dont want another. AAAGGGGG.... maybe I should just get it put in and if we decide down the track then out it would come. But Im so not ready to do it yet!!!!
Yep the christening and first birthday party were on Saturday, everything went to plan which was really good. I am taking Lexie to the doctor this morning for her 12 month needles.
Hope you're feeling a bit better today. Maybe get the implanon put in and see how you go, hopefully Adam may change his mind, or you never know, this feeling that you and I are feeling at the moment may eventually pass.....once our girls grow up a bit we might realise that we don't want to go through that baby stage again, but if you do then you can always get the implanon removed. My friend just recently fell pregnant 2 weeks after getting the implanon removed so it happened really quickly for her. Maybe try and set some mini goals. Get it in and then talk to Adam again in 6 months, he may have changed his mind by then, or like I said you might be feeling different......I hope I start to feel differently soon about it all. I have good days and bad as well.
Thanks Rebecca. Im feeling better this week! We had several chats about it and we... well I really!.... decided that I am going to wait til the end of the year to get it in for several reasons. Im not ready for it, I would like to lose some weight first and also to get past this baby stage and hope the feeling goes!!! I hope it goes! Or I hope I fall pregnant soon!
Things are good here! Rebeccas been a pain in the back side. I dont remember Olivia being like this at 2! She just doesnt listen, she ignores you so much that you can yell her name and she wont respond, she runs away quickly, she throws things, shes cheeky.... and cute at the same time! She has an obsession going to the toilet when we are out. We went to Mass on Sunday and she went about 4 times in an hour.... caught up with a g/friend yesterday, same thing. Drives me batty. Yet at home she wont go and ends up wetting herself coz she holds too long. At night she is fine. I was just considering taking off her protective sheet. Its one of those ones that goes across the bed and the sides tuck in. Its pretty and pink with butterflies, bees and worms on it. Problem is she quite often has nightmares about bugs being in her bed!!! So last night was a doosie! I think I will take it off! These the waterproof protector on the bottom so that would be fine.
My other girls are well. Liv is growing up so much. Such a beautiful girl, so funny, thoughtful, emotional intelligent. Amy is rolling everwhere. Shes 9 kgs now. She doesnt look like crawling any time soon though but thats ok.
Well I hope everyone else is ok.
Been a while since I have posted in here, how are you? How are your girls going? How's Bec going? Is she still being cheeky and doing the things she was doing in your last post? Lara is being like that at the moment. Ignores me or just grins at me when she is in trouble. Shes been in a single bed for almost a year and we've never had any problems with her getting out of bed and coming out of her room all the time up until about 6 wks ago, it is driving me insane, especially coz Michael works most nights so I am here to deal with it all on my own. She comes out a million times and as soon as I put her back she is back out again, last night I ignored her and told her she can put her self back to bed and then I went for a shower and turned all the lights off like I usually do before going to bed, she got a fright and quickly went and hopped into bed, so maybe that is what I need to do, its still annoying though, especially if Im not ready to go to bed early.
How are you feeling about the whole baby situation now? Have you guys decided anymore on if you will be having one more? I am actually feeling ok now about not having anymore. I am already busy enough with 3 kids and now that Lexie is 13 months and getting that bit older I am enjoying not having a tiny baby on my hands.
Hey rebecca, good to see you around! Hadnt seen you on fb either. Whats news in your neck of the woods... going to do this quickly coz Beccas not listening... nothing has changed!!! Gggrr... shes just taken her shoes off and we're about to leave... see nothings changed!!!
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But I did keep a few special outfits. I have also sold the bassinet and a few other baby things.
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