Hi Girls - I didn't get on much yesterday as was out most of the day. I did a stupid thing though, had a friend pop in unexpectedly which made me late for an appointment so in my rush to get out I forgot to shut Amelia's door (I was going to go back and do something) before getting in the car and drove out and hit the garage wall, put a nice scratch and dent in my 6 month old car door! I burst into tears as it frightened me. It's not that bad really but still, could do with being without a car while it's at the panelbeaters!!! grrr. Amelia has been great though, she's sleeping 6 hours for the last 3 in a row and after her 4.00 am feed she goes back to sleep for another 3-4 hours, it's great and also more settled in the day, perhaps last week was a growth spurt as she was so unsettled last week and wouldn't sleep at all in the day! She's in her rocker at the moment and she's all excited and has started kicking her legs so the thing rocks, so cool! Gosh they change quickly don't they!
Now sorry for no persies, I need to vent girls. Will try and cut the story down.....we have DH's mates funeral this Friday (he passed away from a heart attack at aged 33 a few weeks ago), anyway, there's this girl who they used to be friends with, she lives in the UK now, well she used to be in love with DH (not the other way around) and she even used to send him text messages while he was with me in the beginning until he told her he was with me and to leave him alone. Well, he contacted her to let her know about their mate as they were in touch still and he wasn't sure she'd heard (go figure considering it was on Facebook but anyway). Get this, she's flying back for the funeral and DH being the Mr Niceguy that he is has offered to pick her up from the airport at 1.00 am on Friday morning and his mum offered her to stay at their house (he daren't ask me)! Now, call me jealous but this girl had the hots for him and hello why can't one of the single guys without a 7 week old baby get up at 1.00 am and go pick her up. The airport is 45 minutes from our house as it is!!!! I'm so angry at him right now and he doesn't get it. He just said I'm jealous and being stupid as he loves me not her. I tried to explain it's not a trust thing it's just weird after not seeing her for 5 years why he has to play the good samaritan when there's other mates who know her who don't have a 7 week old baby at home! He said I could come to the airport with him, yeah right, I'm going to wake Amelia up at midnight to take her to the airport to pick up someone I've never met who also had the hots for you, WTF!!!!
Anyway sorry, probably sounds immature but it's really bothering me and I'm so unhappy about it but he just doesn't get it. I told him girls don't think like guys......I've seen her FB messages to him as he shows me and she says some weird stuff and ends her messages with xx's....my male mates don't do that!
Sorry girls, had to get that out!
On a happier note, Amelia has her 6 week (at 7 weeks) paed check this arvo so looking forward to that. Will check back in later with the results. Hope everyone is having a great day so far. Thanks for listening to me, what would I do without you all. xx
alison, i dont think your being immature!!! if i was you i would be absolutly spewing!!! (unless im being immature too??) he did enough letting her know... she is not his responsibility!! he could have said no without being rude about it... like sorry we have a new baby but im sure someone alse wouldnt mind. hope im not making you feel worse by agreeing with you but wtf!!!
Thanks Billykat, no you made me feel better knowing it's not just me, I thought maybe I was being unreasonable but I'm sick of sitting back and playing the nice guy, it's lovely to have such a thoughtful DH but for once I wish he would stay out of it and let someone else do it, it's always him and I just don't think it's appropriate this time around! grrrrrrr!
Al- I can see where you're coming from and I think it is jealousy (which is totally warranted by the way!) I would feel EXACTLY the same way because a) there is a new baby at home and b) Im already feeling sensitive about my post baby body.
He is male and probably wouldnt 'just get it'. Maybe you need to tell him the real reasons why it is upsetting you, otherwise it will build up, you will take it out on him and he will wonder what is going on. There is still enough time to organise someone else to pick her up too.
xxx
Hi Girls - thanks for your support. You're right Ubba, it is jealousy, not because I don't trust DH because I do, just because I'm a girl and that's how we work ha ha!
Hi Madame - congrats on becoming an Aunty! Hudson must be a popular name as one of the girls in my mothers group called her little boy that, I really like it!
AFM - took Amelia to her 6 week paed check (at 7 weeks)! DH didn't make it so he's in the crap tonight when he gets home, I'll be turning the tap off I think for a bit Everything went well and Amelia is nice and healthy. He did say she has a small chin which is why her mouth is open a lot and her tongue always down so he said I have to do exercises every day by holding her chin/bottom lip upwards so it learns to do it on it's own - how weird, a small chin! Better than a ginormous one I guess LOL. Also she has small nasal passages (I think I passed that on as I suffered with blocked sinuses a lot when younger) which explains why she makes so much noise with her nose poor thing. Might have to get some Fess sinus spray for her, I hope it doesn't cause her problems when she's older but it probably means blocked noses easier, poor thing. Otherwise all is well. He didn't say anything but she weighed nearly 400 grams more than last Thursday's weigh in at health clinic, that seems a lot in a week do you think? She's now 4.9 kgs. He said she's a nice size and has put on a perfect amount of weight which is good.
Well, gotta run, she's due for a feed and is telling me so!
Hi Alison, yep it sounds crap but if you can try and put up with it with a smile DH will think you are AWESOME! He already knows you have the crankies about it so now just kill it with kindness, show her your lovely baby you got out of her old crush...haha to her she is just a skank from the UK and you are a mummy and Wife. So there. I do agree with the others about it being crap and Id hate it too but sometimes it is out of our control and maybe next time he will think before acting..Sorry to hear about your car that kind of thing is soooo annoying and gives me a tummy ache lol..
Hi Madame, Congrats to your BIL and SIL, Im sure you can be a lovely support to her seeing as you are an old hand now lol, Although they are in Perth she will probably ring you for all sorts
Ubba, arent sleeping patterns crazy!? The other night V swapped it all around on me and I had to get up in the middle of the night to feed and it put me all out of whack. Atm she settles at 11 then up anywhere between 530-630 so that is my and her main sleep and I can usually rely on that. As long as that doesnt change I think I can cope...I hope Ruby drops a feed for you soon I got told they drop one once they hit around 5 kg (certainly not gospel but has anyone heared of this?) I dont really notice if V takes less because I just feed her when she wakes up and feed her to sleep so not sure how much she takes but the morning one...jeez she is a slurper! So that mixed with the grunting for her poo is a lovely commotion lol..Hopefully the MCHN has some hints for you
Telly thats a great idea, as I said bfore Ill definately let her know about the next meetup Id love to meet her!
Hi Everyone else!
afm, Im back to doing PT (physical training, not personal, cant afford that..) as of today. I put V down this morning and then did 50 mins on my ellyptical machine, some pushups and situps which not surprisingly I struggled with. I had to get a mega bra for it but the great thing about exercising at home is you can do it in your bra and undies lol...Glad noone came to the door! V was great last night and didnt even cry properly so hopefully that will continue. I ordered the wonder weeks book off ebay yesterday so looking fwd to reading about her developmental stages to hopefully understand things a bit better. Oh well time to get something out for dinner, we are having a salad because our veggie garden is making lots of cucumber and tomatoes! Just got to get something to go with it.
Everything went well and Amelia is nice and healthy. He did say she has a small chin which is why her mouth is open a lot and her tongue always down so he said I have to do exercises every day by holding her chin/bottom lip upwards so it learns to do it on it's own - how weird, a small chin! Better than a ginormous one I guess LOL. Also she has small nasal passages (I think I passed that on as I suffered with blocked sinuses a lot when younger) which explains why she makes so much noise with her nose poor thing. Might have to get some Fess sinus spray for her, I hope it doesn't cause her problems when she's older but it probably means blocked noses easier, poor thing. Otherwise all is well. He didn't say anything but she weighed nearly 400 grams more than last Thursday's weigh in at health clinic, that seems a lot in a week do you think? She's now 4.9 kgs. He said she's a nice size and has put on a perfect amount of weight which is good.
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