Babies born~October 1st-15th 2010 #1

Thanks Vix, Nikki and Sparkles for the :hug:'s really appreciate it heaps for your lovely, caring and kind thoughts. Thanks for being there and for always lending an ear to listen and to help reassure my mind. :hug:'s back at ya!! I had a much better night with Noah. He slept really well and settled real easy after feeding every 4-4 & 1/2 hours through the night and although he was awake from about 5am this morning (and just went to sleep) he was very content and happy. :dance: Happy baby = extremely happy Mummy! hehe :clap: I was able to have 2x 3 hour sleeps through the night after Noah fed and went to sleep.

Sparkles - BIG :hug:'s for you too honey. It is very worrying when your baby is unsettled and crying for long periods of time. I feel like I can't think when Noah screams and cries for long and I guess what makes it hard is being a first time Mum and not knowing what to do or to expect and it can be very overwhelming, especially when you're tired and sleep deprived. I hope that Ty is doing better and that you had a better night last night. I too would recommend that you phone the CHN today (if you haven't already) to see what they say. Thinking of you honey and remember, you're doing a great job!

AFM, my back is killing me this morning and have been popping panadols, but it's still not doing much. My physio appt last Friday went well and was told that my muscles have come back together really well (no more 6cm muscle separation), however my back muscles are in spasm and a bit of a mess due to the labour and heavy baby I carried but with time, some exercise (which I don't know where I'll find the time or energy from at the moment) and some more physio it should get better. ;)

Off to have a shower and then a sleep while Noah is asleep and going to go some grocery shopping this arvo once I feel a bit more refreshed. For those of you that don't know yet, my friend Eng had her little boy yesterday morning! Sooooooo excited and hoping to pop over to the hossy to see her and for Noah (and myself) to meet his new little friend! :D

Hope you all have a great day!

Love to you all!!

xoxox

Hi guys :)

Sparkles & Pretz - :hug: guys. Things will get better.

We're having a hard time today. Poor Summer is full of mucus. Having trouble breathing & feeding, & spewing it up & choking on it. Not fun :(
I slept most of the night with her on her belly on my chest, or on her side beside me. Finding that putting her on her belly over my knee or something to try getting the mucus up makes it harder for her. It all runs into her nose & makes things worse. She's been on her side with terry flats under her all morning & I'm too scared to leave the room in case she starts choking.

DS is being a PITA lately too. Jelousy is starting. Wanting me to do things for him, but only when I'm feeding her. Yelling & getting louder when I ask him to shoosh. Saying swear words just for the attention. Anything he can possibly do to make things hard really.

Horrible rainy day here today. Suits how i feel with my sleepless headache. I can see blue though, so hopefully the sun will come out & give me some motivation.

Feeling a bit alone in the town atm. I'm probably the only one sitting at home TBH. One of the young boys (about 22/23) hung himself here last week :( Such a horrible shock. Happened in my street, just 2 doors down from a good friends place. Being such a small town (a few hundred people), everyone knew him, so they are all off to his funeral this morning. My sister went out with him for a while, but I didn't know him that well.
The weather kinda fits the sad day it is here.

Anyway. Hope everyone else is well :)
Hopefully things will be better next time I post :)

Oh Clover - how very sad. Man he RIP now. Have you tried Saline nose drops? When my DS#2 was 2 weeks old he caught a really bad cold and I would clear his nose several times a day / night esp just before a feed. I also propped up his cot too so it all ran down and did not clog up his head anymore than it already did. Hope she gets better superduper fast! *hugs*

Pretz - You sound so much chirpier today even though you are going through an emotional time. Good to hear little Noah is catching up on his own sleep so you an get some for yourself.

AFM: Off to start waking up the little miss.

xxxxx

hi everyone,

had to do a bit of catching up coz i didnt come on here yesterday, DP and i spent all day in bed with Cooper just pigging out and playing a new game we bought for the nintendo DS. it was a nice way to spend DPs last day at home before he went back to work today.

Pretz - humungous hugs hunni. im soo sorry for yours and DHs losses. my thoughts are with you and your families, im so glad that Noah slept better for you last night. Cooper had a 'bad' night last night. however his bad isnt that bad, he still sleeps for 3-4 hours he just wouldnt settle. and DP was getting extremely frustrated with him which made it worse, so im a strong believer in the 'staying calm' theory, coz as soon as i took him and laid down and relaxed he was fine. i hope Noah continues to behave for you. and Congrats to Eng and you and Noah getting a new lil friend yay.

Vix - please dont leave us!! you help me out heaps without even knowing you do. for example i didnt know that arching the back and sounding snotting could mean reflux. coz Cooper does that and it makes a lot of sense. see??? please stay. Cooper gets the drunk look all the time!! it cracks me up. so weird coz i put a pic of his drunk look on fb and then came on here and you had mentioned it haha

Clover - sorry to hear about your towns loss. i to am from a small town so i know how it is when someone dies. pretty awful stuff. also sorry to hear that DS's jealously side is kicking in. im sure that makes things alot harder. hope it doesnt last to long and he realises you love him just a much as Summer and your other girls to

AFM - DP went back to work today but hes on night shift so didnt leave til 330 so it wasnt so bad. but im at home alone with Cooper now and already finding things like the time to got to the toilet alot harder. luckily i was prepared and cooked dinner while DP was here to entertain Cooper or i think i would be going hungry lol. bub didnt want to settle last night. was a little frustrating due to the increasing sleep dep. but he slept from bout 9-12 this morning after his first shower (which he loved a hell of a lot more than his baths) and that gave DP and i a good chance to catch up on some Zs :) anyways i hope this post makes sense coz im doin it one handed with Coops is on the boob haha yay for multi-tasking!! hes just come off and has a major drunk look happening so i might burp him, change his bum and hopefully he goes down so i can hand out my load of washing.

PS - im findin that cooper settles well when ur holdin him and will stay asleep no matter what u do if ur holding him, but as soon as you put him down in the bassinette or portacot, unless hes in an extremeley deep sleep, he will toss and turn and wake himself up. does anyone elses bub do this?? as much as i looooove holding him, its a PITA at 4 in the morning or when i have things to do.

HELLO MY LOVELY GIRLIES!

woohoo. i am finally a mummy in the group now. Vinny is an absolute pleasure I love him to bits.

Anyway just popping in to say hi, most of you have seen/read things on facebook but I promise I'll be back tomorrow perhaps to post about the birth etc.

J's family (well his mum anyway) have been an absolute friggin nightmare.

I am soooooooooo stressed, and drained, and tired and over it all. Not how I wanted to spend my first few days as a mummy.

Glad to be out of the hospital though, am staying at my mums for tonight. Expressed some colostrum into syringe for her to do one feed so i can get a reasonable sleep during the first part of the night at least.

love to all of you and bootiful baboos :) xo

Just a quickie as Im going to lay down before going out for tea ... am absolutely shattered. Ben has been feeding every 1.5hrs today since 3am! Zzzzzz all i want is some zzzzz's. He feeds and then goes straight back to sleep, but seriously, how can he be so hungry haha I read breastmilk digests in around 45 minutes. What good is that lol

Pretz glad to see you had a fantastic day and that things are going better. And congrats to Eng!!! Going to find her BA or pop into the other thread and offer my congrats!

Brydz - hugs to you for J's nightmarish family. Hope things improve.

Hello to everyone else, was going to write more but surprise surprise Ben wants the milk machine :)

If anyone wants anything else added to the list (information wise) on the front page, let me know and I will update it!!

Thanks Nikki. I have attempted to do my best to make contact with J directly again over it all and encourage him to talk to me without them involving their opinions. If he isn't interested or there is any sign of trouble I'll be leaving him off the birth certificate and staying well clear of the whole family. Hopefully things will blow over and we can move forward. He was fantastic when he came to meet Vinny, seemed sooooooooooooo proud and ecstatic to be a daddy. His mother has been absolutely horrendous though. Some of the things that come out of that womans mouth. WOW! I'll fill in more about it later. As for now I'm heading over to the other section to type up a birth story :)

:hug: Brydz. I hope for their own sake they back off!

First night out of hospital was good. I slept from 8-11. Fed bub, changed him, put him back to bed at 12. Couldn't sleep because I really really wanted to come on to type my birth story among other things haha. Got up and came online. Tried to sleep again, fed bubs at 3am, had to hand express and use a syringe because for some reason he just would NOT latch on the right side and the left side was all out from earlier.. It took about half an hour. Tried to put him back down but he hadn't drank enough, so attempted to feed again and he finally latched on the right and fed for just 10 mins. By 4am we were back in bed again and he is still asleep :)

I think it was either the change in taste/my milk starting to come in or a blocked duct? that was stopping him from giving it a real go, my right boob was lumpy and sore and hard but after the 10 min feed it went back to being like the other one..

about J's mum:
Some of the things she did and said.
*arrived at hospital just before bub was born, mum went out and told them when he had arrived. then i am being stitched and I can hear her outside the delivery room door demanding that bubs comes out in a crib to a separate room for them to meet him 'as we agreed upon'. WTF? I never in my life agreed to that. The agreement was J get to hold Vinny after whoever is in the delivery room, before anyone else. And he did. Only mum and I held him before J did.
*made a point of saying that the baby looks ENTIRELY like me and 'oh he is nothing like you J' in quite sarcastic tone
*text me sunday to say that J would not be coming by himself outside visiting hours (he technically had to be support/partner to be allowed, but i was kind enough to offer) to spend time with bub and help with his first bath. Instead he wanted to have half an hour 'alone time' with his family during visiting hours to meet the baby properly.
*suggested we 'alternate' visiting hours so that their family could have time with him, and mine separately. um....... NO!
*and when I said that I had a lot of people coming during both lots of visiting hours, and was only going to be in til the next day so there probably wouldn't be any time, i get a reply from her phone (claiming to be J himself) stating and I quote word for word "I'm very disappointed that you would book both lots of visiting hours"
WTF??????????????? I wrote back saying that they are times for people to visit me, the patient, and the baby and I can't exactly dictate when people choose to come, that I'd speak to my midwife about arranging a possible meeting time for him and them in the morning (i knew i wouldn't have time being discharged at 11am).

So then I just didn't tell them what was happening and relaxed in hospital til I went home. Then J messaged me (from her phone - still don't have direct contact with him) asking what were the plans for today and I said sorry my phone had been flat, that I was home now and needing a bit of recovery time and would contact him again shortly. I sent him a long email via facebook (because I know it will get to him directly without his mum) and am hoping that things will be alright.

He was like I said ecstatic about the baby, he seemed so proud, although she was basically trying to say it wasn't his..

I think I'd be ignoring her Brydz. Having nothing to do with her. Stick to contact with him & only him. Vinny is his child, not hers.
Maybe consider court ordered visitation rights too. That way she can't do anything different. I know its way too soon for you to want to think about all this stuff, but you might have to.

Oh Brydz - no way do you deserve this in your first week or at anytime. I can hear restraining orders coming for the silly woman! lol I would continue to contact J via FB, atleast you know it will go to him directly.

With BF....I have two diff nipples and at first Alannah actually had her fav side and it would take a special care nurse and myself to get her to latch on. It wasn't coz she couldn't, she was being lazy / stubborn! After a few days she was happy to take both sides once my milk was in properly. Expressing is great to bring your milk in. You'll suiddenly look in the mirror and see Pammy Anderson! JK

Raffy - Will stay. Just feel.....I don't know.....I will stay though. Thanks.

AFM: just popped in quickly. Am buying that sling you mnetioned on FB Brydz! Love the price and the custom made service!!!

Off for some shut eye before the Impossible Princess wakes again. Fed 4 times from 4.30am - 9.30am.....a FF kept crossing my mind I tell you what! Little monkey.

xxxxx

Thanks guys.
I rang J himself on the home phone earlier. I told him that I'd sent the facebook message because I had a lot to write and it was too much for text. I said we need to catch up about the DNA test and stuff (because I REALLY need to get that ball rolling in order to apply for centrelink stuff etc.) and he says thurs or friday is fine. He seemed very friendly, relaxed and glad to hear from me. I was glad to ring during the day because the devil woman would have been at work LOL.

He said the cutest thing, he asked if I could do a favour and bring Vinny with me! hahahaha. I was like, ....ah no, I think i'll just leave him home by himself LOL.

Vinny has been an angel today. Slept most of the day. Due for a feed in about an hour or so. Had the dom nurse visit me at home today. She was an absolute cow. Treated me like I was effing retarded. Why would she need to ask such ridiculous questions like 'what would you do if vinny gets sick' and i was like 'take him to a dr', how would you know if he was sick? well i'm a freaking nurse what do you think....

I seriously wanted to slap her. And she was opinionated about dummies and things.. And she was meant to check my stitches, and feel my tummy and did neither. Weird, strange, not very nice lady.

:hello:

Brydz - keep up the good work. contacting J like you are, knowing his mum wont be around sounds like the best thing to do. cant believe how much of a mole shes being. im super duper happy that J is happy though. and its awesome that Vinny is being a good boy for you. i hope for your sake he stays that way. Cooper is turning into a monster :wall: cant wait to read ur birth story. i should stop being lazy and do mine to :)

AFM - we went to the clinic today and Cooper has put on 800g and grown 2.5cm haha my lil budha :) he is being a PITA but. last night he just didnt want to be put down. he stayed awake til bout 3.30 and if i even moved to put him in the bassinette he would wake up and scream. he ended up sleeping on my chest coz that was the only way we were both gonna get some sleep. so today ive been feeding him, giving him a burp and a cuddle and then putting him in the portacot or bassinette instead of holding him til he wakes again. most of the time he wakes up when we lay him down and has a little whinge but he has soothed himself back to sleep after a while. so fingers crossed thats how it goes tonight. i dont mind waking during the night but its the fact that he sleeps on my chest and im stricted with movement. does my head in lol

anyways thats my rant for today
might go do my birth story, Brydz inspired me

xx

HI,
I promise to pop in in the morning & update and say hi, doing well Ty seems alot more settled again, no excessive vomits and he actually enjoyed his bath this afternoon...YAY!!! Going to nurse at 11.30 tomoro to get weighed!! Trying to get dinner cooked and eaten before the little man wakes!

oops double post.

Thanks Raffy. He has been a really good boy today. Feeding a bit more frequently since my milk is coming in.. But its not too bad. Just had his first at home bath, enjoyed it for a little while then squawked his head off hehehe. I just put new clothes on him and fed him and then he spewed, out his nose and all everywhere LOL. Gone to bed about 10 minutes ago and haven't heard a peep. I'm just checking emails and then I'm going to join him.

Tomorrow I have my first busy day. Got my sister and niece visiting, my best friend too, then out to lawyer at 2pm and dr at 3pm and back home to see my best friend again and 2 other really close friends.

And i have an absolute mountain of washing to do, cos I couldn't be assed doing it today.

Hi all - just found this thread :)

Must be quick cause I am ignoring the boys while they watch "Poko" :) Rose is feeding while I type (I love the "My Brest Friend" pillow - I can type to handed AND feed at the same time :)

All is well here - we are going camping over the weekend so looking forward to some time away. Hope you all are settling in :)

I have one of those Rory... maybe I should start using it again... :lol: