Babies born~September 16th-30th 2010 #1

[belfie]

Deana - that's rough when they won't settle. Other things I'd try is putting him a baby carrier of some sort (i.e. hugabub, baby bjorn, ergo.. if you have anything like that) and wearing him for a bit - babies love being worn. Also taking him for a walk in the pram (if you're up to it) or a nice long drive in the car. As fuzzy said, the warm bath can help too. Or sometimes they just want a little extra feed and then they go off.

Talking about all the routine stuff in the other thread, I must admit I"ve found my bubs kinda do it without me trying IYKWIM. I don't believe in waking them unless I have to (i.e. appt clash or something) and even then I'd just go skin to skin to wake them nicely. If they're feeding well, they seem to just settle into their own thing - I think clock watching can do your head in a little, so best thing you can do is go with the flow. So saying, my babies have done pretty much what Catherine's babies do - so maybe we describe it differently but both end up at the same end point anyway?!?!

[CoNNiE_Melb]

Deana - I started a routine after his first week home, because he was on a routine in the hospital and seemed to respond well. It also help me keep my sanity. Knowing I control the situation a tiny bit, or what is coming next, has helped me deal with the change and to get on with life - easier to plan appointments and outings etc.

I am using Tizzie Hall's methods - I only started this yesterday and he slept for 4.5 hours straight last night - wooohooo!!!

Let me know if you want me to tell you the routine she suggests for Blake's age etc. Or you can get her book - Save Our Sleep.

Good Luck

[Apes23]

Hi all! Good to hear from you all with your new bubba's.

We are going well here. Although we think Isla might have a bit of reflux. She will sometimes cry in her sleep like she's in pain and last night she did a couple of major screams where she couldn't breathe. That was pretty scary. So might see what the child health nurse says today when she comes over.
We had to up her bottles to 120mls as the other night she was feeding every 3 hrs and being restless in between. She seems to be going fine after that. Are we the only ones bottle/formula feeding here?
I have to admit I was really dissapointed I couldn't breastfeed her but I don't want it to get me down and in the dumps so i've just let it be.

[fuzzy]

Apes - Does Isla take 120mls of formula each feed and how long does she take to drink it? That sounds terrible with the reflux - I hope you get answers from the child health nurse and its a simple fix for her.

I expressed 90 mls and DH gave it to Chloe but she guzzled in 10 minutes flat and looked for more. I have no idea how much we should be giving her now as I thought she would only be getting that amount or less from my breasts. Does anyone have a rough idea?

[kirsten74]

Apes- my nephew had reflux and my other nephew has it now as well, and it is doing my SIL's head in! Apparently he chucks 5 out of 8 feeds! He is still putting on weight though so something must be getting through! If it gets really bad you can get a formula specifically for babies with reflux. It is thicker and so is harder to bring back up. There are also some drugs you can give but you need to check with your doctor. Sam sometimes cries in his sleep but then he farts and is all good. Can be quite funny.

OK, time to feed again. My day seems to be split into 3 hour blocks!

Kirsten

[Apes23]

Fuzzy, yes 120mls is what we give her now every 4 hours, takes her about 20mins or more to finish. We were giving her 90mls but she was guzzling (like you said with Chloe) every 3 hrs and was really restless in between. It says on the S26 formula can to give 120mls from 2weeks to 2months but that's just a guide. It must be hard trying to know how much she's getting from the breast?

Kirsten, Oh dear your poor SIL. Isla doesn't really chuck much at all, so we think last night's screaming marathon might of been just a one off tummy ache. The health nurse said if she's screaming all the time then it's something to worry about. So that was a relief.
She has put on 280grams so we're happy with that.

[Deana]

Fuzzy – His rash is a skin reaction and seems to be getting better. I have also bought him infant friend’s medicine for his gas and reflux. He seemed ok today but still took him from 5am to 10am to fall asleep.


Connie – Can you tell me the routine pls. Blake will be 2 weeks as of tomorrow (Wednesday). Thank you.


Apes – Im bottle formula feeding at the moment as well. Ill probably go back onto breastfeeding now that the doctor said I can do both. Blake just doesn’t seem to be getting enough breastmilk though to keep him going.


Better go Blake is hungry lol

[CatherineL]

Hi girls, I've only just read through this thread.

I've noticed what was said about routines and I don't doubt that Belfie's son settled into his own routine and slept well on his own accord. I think alot of it (having a child that sleeps well later on down the track) has alot to do with common sense and habits that are established, not so much feeding to a certain time. Even if you feed to a time plan, but rock your baby to sleep, doesn't mean things are going to be easier down the track. I completely believe that there are some level headed folk out there that loosely keep in mind what kind of habits they are creating and just go with the flow and have children that sleep just as much as mine. I think it's after the second year of a child's life that they start testing sleep, even after the third year from what I've heard from friends. So you just never know what's around the corner for you - I always keep that in mind. I feel similar to Connie (although my routine isn't as in depth as the one she posted) it keeps me sane knowing what's happening when and helped me survive since about 80% of the time my husband is working away and I do everything on my own. I don't have much help even when my husband isn't away because we're on a farm and there is always something that needs to be done. So when dinner has to be cooked, kids and baby need to be bathed, fed, read to and put to bed, I do it myself. And I am more than happy to do it myself even when my husband is home, I can tell you things run alot smoother with our routine and I am happy to have that time after 7pm - once all the girls are in bed - to myself (which doesn't mean that I don't love spending our time together during the day, but let's face it, we all need some time to ourselves. I usually straighten my hair, infill my nails/gel toes, waxing etc which in turn helps me feel like I'm keeping myself together better). I actually feel like it's not a positive thing for you guys, me being here. I don't want to feel like I'm putting pressure on you guys with routine. Plus things (so far) have been much easier and smoother than I expected, so I probably don't need the support I thought I would. So I'm not going to continue in the babybuddies part, instead I'll catch up with the developing babies on fb.
I don't think I'll have much time soon anyway. Playgroup plus and swimming (twice a week) resumes this week and kinder soccer starts next week for Rochelle. Busy times and it's only going to get busier!!

Hope you're all keeping well and don't be a stranger on fb! Xoxo

[CoNNiE_Melb]

For the record, I am not following the routine I posted, thats just the one suggested in the book for a breastfed baby at that age.

I am roughly following a feeding every 4 hours routine, but depending on the situation we give or take half an hour. I am mainly trying to focus on the self-settling techniques because it drives me crazy that George seems to have a 2 hour limit! The last 2 nights he has been sleeping better, waking up just when its time for a feed. But we have 2 problems:
1. He keeps waking up at 6am!! It's 1 hour before his next feed, and too early!! Hehehe
2. He won't sleep in his cot after his 7pm feed, he has to be held until 11pm, and then he goes down after that feed. EVERY other time he goes down for a sleep, he will whinge a little, but be asleep within 20 minutes. Just refuses to go down when its his bedtime!! Even after a bath and feed.

Catherine - I dont want you to go!!! Your routining abilities inspire me! I feel like people could learn so much from you, even if they dont want to follow everything you do.
I know we are confusing him and creating a bad habit when we pick him up and let him sleep with us on the couch at this time, but we dont know what else to do.

[CoNNiE_Melb]

Deana - as for my boobs... they went back to their old size and they are a bit saggy now. I hate them! They were always small, and now they are small and ugly. I am going to go get re-measured for a bra, because I have no idea what size I am.

I have heard of people whose boobs stayed larger, but it didnt happen for me, which sucks!!

[belfie]

I actually feel like it's not a positive thing for you guys, me being here. I don't want to feel like I'm putting pressure on you guys with routine.

Aaww don't say that! I think it's fantastic that you're on here - there's such a range of first-time mums plus 2nd/3rd/4th time mums that it's great to hear what everyone is doing. I realised some things about what I do, when I read what you do, so I thought I should put it down... that way everyone can see all the different ways there are to approach things. Plus tbh, I also know that I'll have to do things a little differently this time cos I've got a toddler to look after as well (not that it's really sunk in yet!). So pls pls don't desert us! I remember my first baby buddies group had a similar mix and it was GREAT to see all the different ways we all approached things!

As for boobies... arrgh mine are too big... would love to shrink 'em a bit!

Connie - I'm so sorry to hear that G needs surgery , hope it all goes well.