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Hi girls!
Sherie: man, i am sending you big phat massive hugs :hug: you really need them xx
MD: so so true. there is just so much going on atm on BB and makes you realise how precious life is and can be.
Cally: i *think* (knock on wood) that we too are having luck with TT. our change was the introduction of the sticker chart. she LOVES it lol. we mostly have wees, but have one sticker for a poo lol. started it on saturday and so far we have 7 stickers!
Hi girls
i was sorry to hear about the BBer that took her own life too. i was very shocked and have been thinking about her a lot.
trill- big hugs to you, you are going through such a hard family time.
md- what is all this sadness around? i hope that everything is ok, you have me worried now!!
hello to everyone else. sorry i have not been on here much, it is just absolutely hectic with 2 toddlers. J is absolutely carzy and into everything. he climbs up and turns my computer off, touches all the printer buttons, is always on the phone. it's a nightmare! and L is his partner in crime. if J can't reach up to something, L gives him a hoist! it's ludicrus around here atm!
well we are going away this wknd to echuca which should be great, taking the boat and staying right on the river.
and the best news of all is that we have bought the kids a cat! i'm so excited, i listened to your advice MD when choosing her and she is just an absolute sweetheart. she is getting desexed today and we pick her up on monday arvo to come home with us. L is so excited!
Ginger, I'm ok, but along with the tragedies here on BB, some of the women in my BC support community have had some deaths and one is having signs that her disease is progressing (once it gets past a certain point it gallops), she has a 6 yo son and it's just so sad. :(
Oh but I'm so excited to hear you're getting a little kitty!!! Is it a British shorthair after all? Oh you will love her...I"m such a happy pet owner, I don't know where I would be without my little furries. My little puss is very attached to me, I held her and cuddled her a lot when she was little and she's my best mate LOL. Sleeps on my side of the bed (next to my feet) and purrs louder for me than anyone else LOL.
Cass, well done with the TTing...it's going fair to moderately here, she seems to get a bit stressed about it sometimes so I don't insist, kwim. We tried putting her back into nappies over the long weekend but she kept announcing she wanted to go to the toilet so we're just following her lead and leaving her to it.
Cally, sounds like you had a nice weekend now that the cricket season is over ;). Bike rides and the beach sounds nice...we got some fresh 'lake' air on Fri down at the coastal lakes...there was actually some water there this year :cheer:!
Arte - yay for getting a fridge online and yes much less funner than buying toys! I prolly wouldn't have anyone to ask either...I pretend I have friends but really most of them are staring at their screens reading this :p.
Well we had a lovely weekend too - Easter was a ripper - we had our neice staying and we dyed eggs and baked bunny biscuits & spent fri with family...the egg hunts were very well received and I have so far managed to ration out all the chocolate so there haven't been any messy cocoa-related breakdowns LOL. The EB left a charlie chick in Missy E's bedroom on Easter morning...she was so chuffed she carried it around for an hour and a half afterwards LOL. I'm not sure she realises there's chocolate in there though...:lol:.
LOL MD, Mum got A the charlie chick box set thing and he wanted it at 5pm yesterday, it was in the beer fridge in the laundry so I just put it in the dryer because it was open and he can't reach it up there, but later when I had the drier on (after putting charlie chick back in the fridge) he went in there all worried and told me to get his chocolate chicken out of there ROFL.
Well done on the fridge Arte! We will be due for a new one soon I reckon, we've had this one for years and years.
G, how cute you got a cat! I'm not a cat fan, but the kids like playing with them don't they?
Cass and Cally, well done on the TT front with the girls!
Thanks for your support guys, it means so much :hug: today has been a long day. Went and visited J in hospital and he looks so much better, but he told me he wasn't going home ever again and he wont be having chemo tomorrow :( trouble is, he tells me these things, but he plays it down for mum kwim? He knows he can trust me to be honest with him though. It was great to see him so lucid too, wasn't sure what to expect because Mum had said they were keeping a steady flow of morphine up to him to help him get over having all the visitors over the weekend. Sister is being a total ***** too atm and I'd love to give her a right slapping, so it's a good thing she went home to melb today LOL
Hi girls!
Ginger: had to have a giggle at the 'partners in crime'. they are so lucky to have eachother, it must be hard at times with them both, but by golly gosh what a precious gift you gave them in eachother.
have a GREAT time on your trip! i am so jealous. DH is off to sydney leaving me on my lonesome. grrr could of done with a trip to sydney...
Sherie: there is some blessed relief that the SIL has gone home. gives you guys a chance to rebuild a 'safe' and 'happy' cocoon around yourselves in the coming weeks.
Arte: i am impressed by how fast you got that fridge! we soo need one. the one we have was bought when we were DINKS, now there is just not enough room IYKWIM.
MD: i am really sorry to hear that the support group is going through some heavy stuff atm :hug: and it must be quite difficult and rattling to be faced with it with people that you love and know.
i have to admit that we are solely taking her lead. she mostly wears her cloth nappies now though as we found that she will take them off and go to the toilet (or the garden as the case may be :redface:) to do a wee. but she now asks pretty much everytime and we only had a wet nappy for her arvo sleep! (but we also had a poo in the garden ROFL!:
AFM: ok here. bit miffed that DH is off to sydney for a conference and i aint coming lol. we have friends up there that he is staying with and i would of LOVED to go and hung out and explored with leila. but no. stuck at home with domestic duties and the animals. ho hum.
hi girls
cass- sorry to hear you are missing out on the sydney trip. how come you're not invited? do you get scared when you're home alone? i do! i hate it when dh goes away.
md- so sorry to hear that so many of your support group are going through such terrible things. i hope things look a little brighter for you soon.
i went to a local breeders (ie. crazy cat obsessed woman) with my friend to get a british shorthair but fell completely in love with a russian blue girl. i held a couple of the british kittens but they just seemed kinda detached iykwim? the russian girl was pushing all the other kittens out of the way saying 'look at me! look at me!'. when i picked her up she was purring and happy and just so lovely that my friend said 'she's the one'. she's not as cute looking as the british but she's just got such a cool personality and she loved L. can't wait to bring her home. i think we're gonna call her Georgia. what do you guys think?
oh ginger she sounds divine!! i like the name too! it seems easy enough to scream from the back door at dinner time LOL!
:) thanks cass.
i love her already, i just hope the boys aren't too rough with her!
guys i'm a little upset that i saw that mbear has been upset in a thread and has said she is leaving.
yeah i know, i saw that too. hopefully with the mod closing it (finally!) she will have time to recuperate from the attacks. never very nice...went through it all a couple of weeks ago and man, it feels ugly.
I saw that about Mbear, I hope she reconsiders. The mods seem to be less forthcoming with their purple writing than they have been in the past - I have been surprised recently by some of the stuff that slips thru or maybe I've just never noticed it before?
Ginger - Russian blues are gorgeous, one of my girlfriends had one when we were at high school...personality plus!!! LOL Is Georgia a political word play on the russian theme LOL? I'm not a big fan of people-names for animals so I would say wait until she's been at home with you and then pick a name.
More hugs Trill. :hug:
I read that Mbear was leaving too. I know I did post in that thread and you probably think it wasn't nice, but I will not give kudos to someone who thinks it is appropriate to speak to a person the way she did, when she actually did the same thing herself. I know the whole 'heat of the moment' thing happened and maybe in hindsight she would have acted differently, and yes, there were some terrible replies to her, but I think she will come back, not that she is around much anyway but still, once this blows over she will be fine. As for the mod thing, I don't think any of you appreciate how hard it is to deal with a situation like this. For one, it may happen on a day when there is limited Mods available to deal with it, and at all times mods give members the chance to self moderate - no point in jumping the gun and shutting a thread when in all likelyhood it will settle on it's own. You have no idea the catch22 that mods find themselves in - we would get blasted for not acting quick enough and closing a thread or removing posts and then when we do we got blasted again for taking away peoples freedom of speech :rolleyes: often those accusations were by the same members! Sometimes we just couldn't win no matter what we did. And then there is having a thick enough skin to deal with the fallout from something happening - being called a 'pack of *****es' on FB by members is really tough to deal with, especially when those members are back nice as pie to your face but can't wait to stick the knives in your back at the first opportunity. It is one of the toughest gigs around and I think that fact is underappreciated. I also notice that this is the first time in this thread that Mod actions have been talked about, and I don't know if that was because when I was a Mod you felt like you couldn't say anything (which I hope wasn't the case, I thought we could talk about anything?) or if this is just because Mbear was in our belly group? Dunno, either way, things like this do happen. It's never nice when it does, but given time for hot heads to cool off, it usually ends up OK :)
And that's all I have to say about that LOL
i think we are mentioning only because the mood in BB lately has been rather icky. there has been a shift towards nastiness (that i have seen happen time to time and i know that it will shift again back to happiness!). so i guess it's just a culmination of many different threads/scenarios etc. but i also felt that in the Mbear thread it was posted in the punching room thread and as one poster pointed out some of the criticism of the OP was out of line regarding BBs policy. in this case i reckon it did take too long to shut-down the thread for cooling off. it was obvious that the OP was distressed and that the comments were out of line. But then again, i guess it is up to the OP (?) to flag that with the appropriate mod?
Trill, I think it is just a coinky-dink that mods have been mentioned now that you are no longer one. I certainly never felt like I couldn't say anything (not that I have much to say). On that note, where the heck do I find the BB email??? I have looked everywhere!
I do feel bad for MBear, she was obviously upset by the situation and in hindsight I don't think she would have reacted the same.
The new fridge is great. We bought our old 220L one when the most important factor was cost. It did alright for just us, but somehow we need more room than we used to. The new one is 370L and is sooo spacious! If only we had more food in it though, there are about three things rattling around in there lol
Clare, I looked back to the ER thread and I was shocked at how rude some of the posts were toward you!
Gosh Cass, if you've been around here as long as I have you would have seen that over the years there have been some spectactular blow ups and fighting LOL and it does tend to come in waves. But you find that in a real life community as well. i do understand what you mean though, but even if it is posted in the boohoo room, does that also mean that the support must be 100% what that person wants to hear or be in complete agreeance? I know it isn't always helpful at the time to hear that maybe you didn't do the right thing either, but sometimes support isn't always in the form of agreeing with you completely. That doesn't mean that a person can be outrightly abused or mocked though.
I've seen threads just like that one where it has turned into a MASSIVE witch hunt against the person the member was talking about and that isn't fair at all when they cannot defend themselves, so someone has to do that for them kwim? I guess I am a bit senstive to stuff like that because I copped a bit of flack after L had his accident and broke his arm and I don't think ANYONE deserves to have a thread created about them by strangers and talked about like that. i would have been devastated if what happened to L had of been talked about on here "Oh I saw this little boy hit buy a car today and it turns out that his mother was in the supermarket nearby and let him cross the road on his own. I mean, what kind of a mother does that? Some people just dont' deserve kids" Similar situation - I made a judgement call based on perceived risk (I thought there was none) just like that person did, even though it was illegal what they did and it's really not a nice situation to put yourself in.
Maybe the Mods could have intervened quicker but then sometimes threads can take off far quicker - I have seen threads grow to 5 pages long in an hour and if there are no mods online at the time to deal with it then it can unfortunately get out of hand quite quickly. And if no one reports anything that they think isn't right, then mods don't always know a situation has gotten out of control. Not just the OP, but anyone. I'm not defending or criticising the way the mods handled this at all, but just explaining how it works sometimes :)
It is this time of year that BB gets a bit snarky, I think it must be the change of season?
Trill, I didn't know that was how L broke his arm. I don't think it is unreasonable to let a 6 year old cross the road by himself - at 6 I used to go to the shop over several unmarked road crossings by myself (to buy people cigarettes with a personal cheque lol).
LOL Arte, I remember doing a run to the shops for mum when I was 7-8 and taking $10 and a note to give them asking for her brand of cigarettes. I didn't think it was unreasonable either - we live in a small town and the quiet road he had to cross should have posed no problems, and it was just an unfortunate accident, but yeah, I would be crushed to think people thought that way about me. I don't like to talk about it much for that reason :(
i'm really sorry if i've upset you trill. i do not think it was the mods fault at all...and tbh i don't have an opinion either way on the situation that she posted about. i guess i just felt that she had been really upset by the whole thing and seemed like she had lost sleep about it all and i felt for her, you know?
i'm sorry if i've sort of opened a pandora's box in here too. i really love bb. the good and the bad- it can't all be bluebirds and roses, and tbh i love the way that threads on here can really get me thinking about situations in a different way. there's people on here who i find so interesting and intriguing- even if i don't always agree with their ideas or methods of getting their point across.
Nah G, it's all good :) you haven't upset me. I feel for her too. I know the feeling when you've said something that isn't the popular choice and you kinda wished you didn't say it.
ok...cool...didn't want to start any trouble!!! LOL
md- i totally don't get the russian political reference at all- you know i'm not that smart! i just thought it was a pretty name and was actually the name of a girl i used to know many years ago..so you have to explain it to me now LOL
G, Georgia is a border country to Russia which was was given independence after the fall of communism in USSR (also the birthplace of Stalin). It does seem an appropriately themed name for a Russian Blue cat.
ahh well it is good to know that other posters can report on a thread they reckon is going haywire. i shoulda done that wiht the ER one lol.
man, i used to walk 3 kms to school when i was 6 years old...i guess times have changed?? i actually remember that thread, and man it was a doozer too.
Arte: i reckon you're right, i put it down to change of seasons...ppl get narky lol.
oh and my mum's fridge blew up last week while she was here in melbourne. got home to oozing tropical fish coming outta the freezer....ewwwwwww! it's going to cost in excess of $400 and the warranty ran out only a few months ago :wall: apparently the program boards (that control temp) can go crazy and once they do that you need to replace them. man, my fridge must be old as it has thermostat control...but we need a new (bigger) fridge and i am hoping to old school it lol.
AFM: we are pretty good here. Leila is just divine and chatting heaps and heaps and singing even more. especially 'row row row your boat'...but only the line about the crocodile...suits her morbid sense of humour me thinks lol.
Trill, I've never mentioned the mod thing before because I'd never been embroiled in a contentious thread, but I've noticed a few recently (like the one Cass got caught in)...is it because the membership base has grown past a certain point? - There always used to be a core group of people who would jump in with very balanced and tolerant posts but these days there seems to be more post-now-think-later comments (often with a condemnatory tone)...I just don't remember that so much in the past? Or maybe I have been living in own sweet MD bubble LOL. Trill you're right most of us are unaware of the sort of biartchy carry-on that goes on, I find it very uncool-for-school to comment on one site about another site's members! I didn't mean for my comment to be a criticism of the mods either, sorry if it sounded that way, I think they do a great job, if they didn't I wouldnt' still be here LOL. FWIW I don't have a strong opinion about Mbear's post, just sorry she feels offended enough to want to leave what has previously been a good place for her, kwim?
Trill I didn't realise that was how L broke his arm - gosh you must have been so upset :hug: - I think you're right about perceived risk and that opens up a whole other thread about degrees of helicopter parenting etc LOL.
Arte, glad you're loving your new fridge...Ours is too small and I'm completely *over* having to rummage around down the bottom for fruit & veg, I have told DH the next one's gonna be one of those upside-down fridges.
Cass LOL at your mum's fridge having an on-board flight computer - ours still has the old-fashioned thermostat - infact last time it broke I told the repairman what needed fixing and he just orderedd the part. Love the "old fashioned technology" (haha that's one of my favorite phrases these days, trot it out anytime I'm telling DD to use something like a pencil and paper, landline phone, dustpan & brush etc :lol:) BTW row row is one of Missy E's faves too, and can be heard quite happily singing to herself long after the lights are out.
thanks for explaining the Georgia reference Arte :)
i think i love it now! it so suits her and whenever i think of her, i think of her as Georgia now so i think it's stuck!!
md- thanks for articulating what i was trying to say about mbear- i agree totally with 'I don't have a strong opinion about Mbear's post, just sorry she feels offended enough to want to leave what has previously been a good place for her, kwim? '- i guess that's what i was trying to say.
well you know i told you guys we are heading to echuca tomorrow for a family holiday- it's actually for my dad's 70th birthday and my brothers and SIL are coming too- well the funniest thing just happened. the real estate agent who are renting the house from just rang and said it has a plumbing problem so they are upgrading us to another house and it is a waterfront mansion! LOL it has its own pontoon on the river and an indoor heated pool! how funny! the boys are going to have the time of their life- i don't think i'll see dh for the whole time though, as he'll be on the river somewhere LOL so excited
Hi everyone
I know - i've been a very naughty buddy - haven't been keeping up with you gals :redface:
Ginger - your holiday away sounds fabulous - way to go on the upgrade. Have an awesome time.
Cass - i found that thread you were talking about. I got so stressed reading the comments they were making to you!! I was saying in my head 'Leave my Cassius alone!!!!"
sorry - will have to catch up with previous pages when the girls have gone to bed.
talk to you all soon :wiggle:
Jazah, good to see you, lovely lady!
Ginger - fantastic - for once the plumbing problems have happened at the right time...I'm so chuffed for you...I hope you all have a gorgeous time together, I'm sure your Dad will have a very memorable birthday :D.
Hi Jazah, good to see you
Ginger, yay for the upgrade, it sounds great! Yay for the name. I sometimes think I would like a new kitten, but I know it would just be a world of drama getting W to be nice to it.
I think I have everyones ideal fridge: analogue dial, bottom mount freezer so you don't have to bend down all the common use stuff, heaps of room.... now I feel better for having to spend so much on a necessity.
I love our upside down fridge!! DD can open the freezer to get her and DH's icypoles out after dinner, but she can't reach anything in the fridge so doesn't stand there gazing at it! I also love the extra space compared to what we had before - that was one of the conditions of me going back to work, super big fridge so the freezer can be stocked with meals. The upside down ones tend to have much bigger freezers.
G - have a great holiday, well done on the upgrade! Enjoy your new little pussy cat too!
hope everyone is well!
Trill - how are things going with your mum's partner?
hi girls!
Ginger: bazoooka woman! that is going to be some holiday!!!! omg, you MUST take pictures LOL!
JaZaH: great to hear from ya babe! (i wanted them to leave me alone too lol!). hope you are awesome! we have missed you in here!
Arte: oohhheeee now i need an upside down fridge! our freezer is the problem really, it is way too small. once i pop in the ice-cream and a packet of frozen chips (latest craving :redface:) it's basically chockers. and with another bubba on the way i wanna have the chance to freeze meals iykwim. so frustrating.
MD: ha ha! we are spooky similar...i call it 'old skool technology' lol! pen and paper dear, pen and paper LOL! i told mum that she should be wary of her fridge ala 'space oddessy' possibilities...
AFM: all ok here. DH left in the wee hours of the morning for sydney....BUT suprised me with the news that he will be back tomorrow night! he asked the admin girls at work to see if they could bring him back home a day early!! :dance: i feel *slightly* guilty, but i never once asked him or expected him to do that...in fact, i wanted to go instead :ROFL: but it is sweet all the same. especially as rather crazily i have been getting a lot of BH lately, and struggling with Leila and the dog for walks etc takes on a whole new meaning of exasperation...
which reminds me...should i be concerned about BH action so early on??? usually i just go for a lie down and breathe through it, but i was suprised by how early they are coming on...or maybe i just didnt notice them last time?
Hi girls
I don’t want to start he debate again but I also felt sad to see Mbear is leaving – I hope she reconsiders… I don’t really get why people are nasty on here, I mean why waste the energy? No one is making you read or reply (ie they are not talking specifically to you…). A difference of opinion is ok but to really have a go at someone and be so sarcastic etc is just weird… there are a few topics that I know I will be upset if I read the majority of members opinion on (circ for example) so I just don’t read – that’s the beauty of being able to choose what conversation to be a part of IMO. I hear you trill on the hard jobs mod have though and I really appreciate how much work you guys all have put in. Anyway, yes I was upset as Mbear was our buddy and I have always found her to be a great contributor and friend. So I hope she comes back…
Cass – what si this thread an dhow could anyone be mean to you babe??? I had a look but couldn’t find the thread… and now I am intrigued!
Ginger – yay on Georgia – love the name (for a human too LOL) – when do you get her. Enjoy your weekend – what is at Echuca? Sounds like somewhere I should go!
I am loving the sound of an upside down fridge – may have to sabotage mine to get a look in on one of those…
I was also sad to read the news about the BB member who took her own life – incredibly sad. Sounds like there has been a bit of sadness on here?? I have missed all of that as I don’t get on here as much as I want to (and when I do I just read our post)
Hi Jaz – lovely to see you – have missed you!
All good here – busy so I will update more later
xxx
Clare, my luck was the opposite of yours - I knew DH was going away Saturday night, but I forgot about travel time so he has gone this afternoon and won't be back until very late on sunday.
MP, as well as the lady who took her life, another BB member lost her husband suddenly. They have a 2yo, 1yo and another on the way. He was only 36. I can't even imagine the depths of her sadness right now.
I agree with you about not reading if subjects are going to upset you.
Trill, how do you contact a mod privately?
Arte there is a list of mod emails here: Mod Team Contact Details
You can report a post (privately) by clicking on the triangle hazard sign at the rhs of the post. For chat room problems, email a mod.
HTH
Yep Arte, what MD said :)
I found my 'dream fridge' yesterday in the Hardly Normal catalogue. It is an electrolux top mount fridge Harvey Norman and it is AUSTRALIAN MADE!!!! No slow boat from China in sight! The one in the pic is a 420lt so it is smaller than our 440Lt we already have, but they do it in a 520lt so I would get that one - the one we have is only really just big enough and ideally I'd like to get rid of the beer fridge and just have the one because it will be cheaper. Not that I think the beer fridge uses much but with the power price increases we have to cut back where we can kwim? Because we have the big deep freezer we only use the fridge freezer for all the ice-bricks for lunch boxes etc and frozen veg and icecubes. Everything else is in the deep freeze. But we just brought a tractor yesterday so the fridge will have to wait until we sell a few more lambs LOL.
Cass, I remember getting them a bit earlier in the last 3 pg's, especially if I had been doing a lot of bending or walking. I would just have a shower, run some water over my belly and then lay down for a while and it seemed to work. Maybe it's because our stomach muscles are already a pre-conditioned ;) so they don't hold it all in as well? Dunno. But if you think they are really bad and outside what you feel is normal, talk to your MW about it.
Cally, that would definitely be a plus of having a bottom mount fridge! He is in the fridge all the time, just standing there looking :rolleyes: I think he likes the feel of the coldness because he usually pulls the door closed on himself LOL. And thanks for asking about J, I spoke with mum not long ago and it's not good. he's not really gone downhill, but he sure isn't getting better.
sorry things arent looking good trill...
hope all is ok Arte.
xxx
Hi Girls!
To introduce myself, I'm a Mum of a 2.5 year old boy Craig and a 19 week old boy Ryan and live with my DH in Canberra. Currently on Mat Leave with both boys home full time with me. I had a VBAC with DS2, so have posted a bit in that space and am close to the girls from DS2's December due date group but never kept up with my buddies from my pregnancy with DS1 and I don't recognise anyone here from those days. I've been trying to read past posts to catch up and hope to get to know you all so I can post persies down the track.
Of course, my reason for posting here is selfish. I'm having dramas with my 2 year old and am hoping for a sympathetic ear.
I had the day from Hell yesterday. DS2 was booked for his 4 month immunisations at midday, so I accepted an invite for coffee with a few of our Mother's Group Mums at our local shopping centre that morning. All the kids are DS1's age, but a few Mums have had second babies now a bit older and a bit younger than DS2. Soon after we got there 2 of the toddlers were looking in DS2's pram and DS1 flew into a rage and ran over, grabbed the boy and bit the back of his shirt (no flesh). I was horrified, grabbed him and made him sit in the pram in timeout while I sat DS2 on my knee. There was a big tantrum, then DS1 calmed down. Things seemed fine again, so I let him run around. This time, he was sitting in one of the shopping centre rides (a Wiggles Car) and without any provocation that I could see, he bit one of the girl toddlers on the face! I almost burst into tears on the spot. It was doubly awful because this little girl is really timid. Both Mums were really good about DS1's behaviour and said he was probably tired. We had to get straight in the car and go to our immunisation app. I cried the whole way there in the car. Then started again when I talked to the nurse. DS1Craig hadn't slept since getting up at 7am that morning and I had to wake him. They've booked Craig in to the Sleep School here (QE2) because he won't sleep during the day and I really struggle getting him to bed before 10pm each night. Means he's getting only 8-9 hours a night instead of the 10-13 they recommend for his age. I feel like such an awful Mum because I've been watching his behaviour get worse over the months I've been on Mat Leave and had given up on getting him to sleep during the day, but had never made the connection between the two. We did Controlled Crying with him when he was 12 months old and it worked, so the nurse encouraged me to try it again. So, when we got home I put him to bed and shut the door. He grizzled for about 10 seconds and fell asleep. Last night we put him to bed at 7pm, but he didn't fall asleep until 8:30pm. Hopefully it will be better tonight. I just want my happy sweet little boy back.
Fortunately DS2 wasn't too unsettled from his immunisation. But I didn't get to sleep all night because DS1 wet the bed and tried to climb in with us at 2:45am. I had to get up, strip his bed and remake it, put him in clean dry pjs and put him back to bed. That was the first time he's ever wet the bed during the night since ditching the night nappies over 2 weeks ago.
Sorry for the long post and I know a lot of people don't agree with Controlled Crying but I have tried everything else I can think of and have to stop the biting and agressive behaviour.
Don't have much time atm - about to head off, but just wanted to say hi to Suz! I remember you from belly buddies and wondered where you had gone :) Welcome back!
Hi Suz...:hello: welcome back to our happy thread family LOL. Just wanted to pop in and reassure you re the QE2 thing - I went there (and so did Cally in this thread) with younger bubs (DD was just over 9months when we went) and it was a lifesaver for me. It's a pretty gentle modified form of CC that they teach, you go in and comfort your child frequently. Although they have some other methods they use over the age of 2 yo too I think. They will have some good suggestions re the behaviour & other resources you can tap into...also have you gotten in contact with the Child & Family centres there? I can't remember if your north or southside, but there's a big one on the main drag in Tuggeranong and another in Gunghalin (from memory) - they have behavioural specialists on the staff and you can just drop in and chat to someone & have a cup of tea and they have lots of toys etc to keep the kids amused while you're there - they are very supportive and non-judgemental. I have also accessed some parenting support through Communities at Work in Tuggeranong, we had some behavioural issues with my eldest DD when my DH was working overseas - the lady who came out had a huge grab bag of tricks - I use a lot of them still - it made a big difference. :hug:
ETA - also meant to say - have you checked out the failsafe/food chemical connection. There are a couple of threads up at the moment about food additives, not all children are sensitive but the ones who are it can trigger some pretty wild behaviour...it might be additives or preservatives or even food chemicals in natural foods like corn or grapes or soy that is setting him off. Worth looking into when you've got the time/energy...it could be as simple as swapping the type of bread or fruit you're giving him, kwim?
Hehe, I am making everyone question their current fridge needs lol.
Trill, our new one is Westinghouse, which is Aussie made (by electrolux). I am loving the bottom mount - we hardly use the freezer but it is great having all the commonly used stuff at eye height and not having to crouch down to rummage.
Suz, my DS doesn't seem to need a lot of sleep either. We have been though a couple of really feral patches, oct-nov and then again in jan-feb. Both times have been when he was cutting his two year old molars. As soon as the last ones were through he overnight reverted back to the nice (semi)well behaved boy he was. We have had ongoing sleep problems with him. Since January he has stopped having day naps, and like you we were getting him to bed by 9.30-10pm and he was up again at 7. Long days. Thankfully he has started going to bed easier and (thanks to daylight savings ending) he is now in bed at 8.
Following hot on his heels is 7 month old DD who will only sleep for about 1-1.5 hours during the day - split into about 3 naps. I guess no one got my order for a kid that sleeps this time round lol.
Me again...(DH is away and I am BORED)
The mods thing was nothing bad, just asking for a few identifying posts to be removed so I could suggest the site to someone.
I am loving "mum" tacked on the end of sentences, so cute. Like tonight after tea he was just sitting on the couch and then popped up with "that was yummy, thanks for tea mum".
Hi again girls and thanks for the welcome and advice :)
Arte - Daylight saving couldn't come soon enough! Does your DS get up an hour earlier too? We have to wake our DS1 in the mornings, but he was a bit better this morning. Mum at the end of sentences is the best :) I get 'Well done Mum!" I feel for you with 2 kids that don't need much sleep. So far DS2 is sleeping, but DS1 was also a good sleeper to begin with...
MD - Thanks for the welcome and reassurance about QE2. Thanks also for the food tip and the behavioural specialist tip, I'll follow both those up. I'm southside and it was a MACH nurse that gave me the referral to QE2. She's ringing us on Tues to see how we're going and I'll ask her about the behavioural specialist. I'll check out Communites@Work too, I used to have DS1 in Family Day Care through them.
Trill - Hi! Hope I was memorable for all the right reasons :)
Cass - Me too with the earlier BH action 2nd time around. I found a glass of water and sitting down helped, as I was always over doing it.
Hi to Ginger, Cally, Mamapan, JaZaH!
AFM - Today it was like I had a completely different child! Back to his old self, coming up and giving me and DH cuddles and all smiles. We haven't even really had to do the CC because he stops crying after a minute or two and so long as the door's closed he doesn't get up. The big difference seems to be getting him to bed before he's overtired. He went straight down for his day sleep today and woke up on his own (normally I have trouble waking him). Tonight we got him to bed at 7pm again and I think he was asleep in under 30 minutes, but I wasn't game to open his door until 8pm just in case.