Kim - it will take a bit of time. Your dr will take a look at your 6w checkup, and tell you how it is looking, and after that you might want to start some massage to get the area a bit softer.
I'll be honest and say the first few times sex ended in tears for us. BUt if you dont try, you can't win
I had a smear done at my 3w checkup, and it hurt, but the dr said if I could handle the whooseywhatsit up there, I was doing pretty well recovery wise.