I had a 3rd verging on 4th degree tear with DD and I was not letting anyone touch me at my 6 week checkup! I was told to be checked at 6 wks, 3 mths, 6 mths and 1 year. To be honest I was just terrified cause I knew it would hurt too much in hindsight it was stupid not to be checked but I finally had a check 15 mths and a pap smear. I wouldnt be suprised if it does take longer than the 3 months to see if there are issues with incontinance, I know at 3 months I still had very shaky pelvic floor muscles and really only feel like Im almost back to 'normal'. That sort of tearing goes through a lot of layers and tissues and muscles, hun you poor chook. But if you are worried you could request examinations either from your GP or even a womans health nurse.

HTH