Big hugs from me too Dee. I think about you all the time and wonder how you are doing with the two littlies and all th problems you are having. You poor wee thing
I think you can definitly ask for a referral. If the waiting list is that long, it might be worth dipping into the baby bonus to get it fixed up privately. After all - happy baby = happy mummy.
I hope the private OB/GYN helps you out sooner rather than later.