Oh Fee,

you poor thing. I really feel for you. Your relationship with DH takes a back seat after a baby anyway without having to worry about this. I suppose I am lucky, Ive had an epsiiotomy and a 2nd degree tear but healed fine both times. Im not sure but I suspect your ob would give you a local anaesthetic first, cut and re stitch. If this is the case then the anaesthetic will hurt but you wont feel the cutting or stitching and it will take a little while to heal, like your episiotomy. My mother is a midwife and she has told me that when there are uneven edges they sometimes cut them straight before they stitch, maybe this is why yours healed too tight. Good Luck.