DTD!

[Just Me]

After my first baby, we waited till 6 weeks. I don't remember it hurting, but I do remember being VERY scared. I had a second degree tear and my stitches had finished healing a week beforehand and I was so scared of being hurt. It took a while to get back into it (probably didn't help that we were both exhausted) but we did eventually. Give yourself time, you'll get there

[alioops]

DD1 it was 4 months. I had a couple of stitches and felt quite bruised every time we tried before then, so the GP just said give it time, if it was still painful in 6 months ()get a referral.

DD2 it was 7 weeks. Would have been 5 weeks but she was in hospital and we just didnt have the opportunity while I was staying in with her.

[Mildez]

With my first DD I DTD 10days afterwards. (Gross I know) The bleeding had stopped as I had manual evacuation a few hours after delivery and had such a large postpartum heamorrage that I don't think there was any blood left after Day6. Amazing I know. I was also 17 and had a terrible ex partner. It didn't hurt one bit then and I felt all sloppy and yuck though. I had no stitches then. I had being pushing over 2hrs and I assume all the pushing and the fact that DD had being sitting on the peri for such a long time stretched everything down below which is why it was sloppy. Sorry for details.

So with DD NO 2 We DTD 4weeks postpartum and it hurt and stung for ages afterwards. She came flying out in 2pushes (much different from no1) and I didn't feel sloppy down below if anything dried up and small (excuse the details). I had grazes with her but no stitches. I think by 6-8weeks it was back to normal although dry from the BF. That continued till she was 12months although I didn't wean her till 21months.

[Olive]

OP first time hurt like hell after DD1 did so for months, best thing i ffound was using Sylk lubricant, works wonders!!
this time we tried around the 5 week mark and it hurt so we stopped, but not as bad as with DD1 so i know when we try again it wont be so bad, for me it was more the fear cos it hurt so much after DD1