Lady neon I feel for you and LOTS of us have been there. My first child is 8 months and a big challenge for me in the early months was to stop feeling guilty. About watching tv while breast feeding. About not yet feeling that euphoric love everyone described. About not going to work, not keeping the house in order, not feeling smitten with my husband anymore. But someone on here gave me excellent advice- and that was to give in to bunkering down with baby and not giving a thought to anything else. Let hubby and mum help- in fact ask for it. If you wonder if hubby is resentful or annoyed that's ok too but don't let that get in the way of you asking for what you need. The other beautiful advice I was given was to create a corner or a stash for yourself while bunkering down. A bag or basket or box with things you need easy access to when spending long periods sitting or lying with baby, something you can take from the couch to the chair to the bed etc. these are the things I had in my stash-
Bottle of water
Healthy but filling snacks - sandwiches, nuts, crackers, fruit, chocolate (yes it's healthy ), muesli bars, those up n go drinks
Tv remote
iPhone
Laptop
Lip balm
Nipple cream
Tissues
A couple of cloths in case bubba sicks up or if my boobs squirt milk everywhere
Magazines/books
A throw for keeping mama and/or bubba warm
You will get through this- take it one day at a time and try not to forward-project too much. And my baby mantra is- everything is temporary, this too shall pass.
As for PND- only you can answer that. In any case finding a centre or professional to vent to will always be beneficial no matter what the formal 'prognosis' is.
), muesli bars, those up n go drinks
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