Yeah we are using condoms for contraception too – but I agree, they can be drying. I don't mind lube though. We tried heaps of that. But it was hurting and DH was saying he was barely touching me!

I did think of having a few drinks to help me unwind, but I am not drinking alcohol while BF-ing.

Marydean – I don't know if it would be vaginismus. My OB has actually informed me that it is tight down there.

I sort of wish we had tried to DTD before my 6 week check up – before I knew about the tightness, IYKWIM. I think now that I know, it's going to make it harder because I'm scared.

Will try again soon ... or DH suggested maybe I should try things out on my own for a while, IYKWIM, just to understand my own body and it might be less scary.