I had tears up into the vaginal wall, on both sides, and I was perfectly comfortable having sex after about 3 months. To be fair, we would have tried earlier, I was up for it at about 6 weeks, but my bleeding didn't turn to spotting until 3 months, and that put us both off for a while. Interestingly, on one side the vaginal wall tear continues externally into my labia minora, and the repair work didn't quite take - I now have a 1/2cm diameter hole in the labia. Just in case I ever want jewellery there.
I had a small epis and a lot of internal stitches- up to the urethra on one side. The first week they were fine, the second week they must have been healing as they were agony, I couldn't sit for a few days and had to have sitz baths ( highly recommended) and a lot of pain killers ( panadol, nurofen), also ice packs. by the 3rd week the stitches fell out and it wasn't painful.
All good now 7 weeks down the track, we haven't dtd yet but are planning to soon, so will let you know. Earlier on I had a feel around my epis site and it felt painful but I tried it again recently and it doesn't seem to hurt now, so fingers crossed.
The third degree tear will be a different matter, have you been referred to a physio? You should have been, and you should be on a lot of laxatives to avoid constipation. I would use ice packs to the area ( I think its 10mins at a time every 2 hours), rest a lot if you can ( I fed lying down a lot), the other thing that helped the general area were the SRC recovery shorts, they help compress the area.
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