My mum lived overseas, so I only had her here with us for the first few weeks which were a hormonal mess on my part, but I guess I expected more from her and didn't really communicate that well to her either.

*How did things change between you and your mother when baby was born?
My mum had no idea what to do. She looked really uncomfortable the entire time she was around us. I think being her first grandchild it had been years since she had been around a newborn and was worried about what to do.
*Did you think your relationship would be different after the birth or did you expect your mother to react in this way?
I think I sort of expected her to know what to do, to help with her more, I mean just do things without being asked... rather than stand there looking helpless...
*What would you like to be different?
I think if I was less stressed it would have been better too... I wanted so much done a certain way, my mum was afraid of doing things the wrong way which put her off helping more, and I should have just relaxed a bit. However, I was in a hormonal nightmare too... 8-[
*What support did you expect a mother would provide for her daughter?
I guess in practical terms, doing housework, cooking, holding the baby for a while so I could do something, changing nappies etc... basic things to help survive.
*What would you ideally like for your mother to be able to do for you?
Ideally I would love my mum to be able to babysit for me, help me go shopping occasionally. If we lived in the same country I would hope that I would have her available to me one day a week, or a half a day a week for help with things, or to watch Matilda so I could have some alone time.