Ali - Thanks darl. I have typed out a rough outline of what happened. I got through doing that ok but haven't been able to read back over it.
AJP - Is there anything special about 'debriefing' over and above just telling someone the story of what happened? The CFHN said I needed to debrief and I had the impression from her that's what I was doing with her. Maybe the debrief didn't work for me?
eej - Thanks. I think I might talk to someone else with more counselling training.
Kim - That's weird that it's out of 24. I wonder if there are different versions? I'm sure the CFHN said it was out of 30. I'm not against taking meds if I need them - just not sure how I tell I need them I guess and don't want to base it solely on a short questionnaire. I'm so glad ADs have been helpful for you.
Mel - I'm so sorry about your sister. That is awful. I think my situation might be similar to yours - the feelings around the birth are being picked up, rather than general feelings.

Maybe there isn't a straight answer to the question of when feelings about a birth experience become depression? I always assumed (wrongly maybe) that if I had or get PND then it's something that I would be aware of as a significant change and something others around me would notice too? Outside of crying when I think/talk about my birth experience I don't feel that different. I actually thought I had dealt with the birth ok until a few weeks ago. But then that makes me wonder if I'm just in denial and don't know it? Its so confusing!