Your 'Top 5' things that are trying about being a mother

[BellyBelly]

We all know that being a mother is not easy, completely opposite infact, so I thought it would be a great idea to start a thread where we can share our 5 most difficult things we face as mothers, so we can all compare and relate with those harder things about being a mum. I'll go first...

1. Lack of sleep. What can I say, sleep deprivation to the point of torture!

2. Being sick. I don't just mean the kids, but when I'm sick, there's no-one to back me up or help with the kids and hubby isn't able to help being at work either. I suppose more family initiated support fits in this category too.

3. Working in the real world. I love what I do and I wouldn't give up being at home with the kids for *anything* in the world. But there are still strong feelings inside which miss dressing up, looking gorgeous, going to work in the city, being ambitious and climbing that ladder! I love playing with the kids but I find it really hard to keep myself interested in the whole thing - I could climb up the walls sometimes! I think it used to be wonderful not having an emotional attachment to my work also, where I could just switch off and not care until I started work the next day.

4. Self image. It's hard trying to feel really good about myself when I am covered in food, poo, wearing my daggiest clothes and not being at my pre-preg weight because I am too tired or too busy to exercise more or eat healthier than I do. Knowing that my intimate life is severely lacking only due to depleted energy and not desire is hard too - you both want it but are completely buggered!

5. Time to do whatever I want. Sometimes I could scream if one more person was talking to me at the same time as everyone else is, jumping on me like everyone else is and I can't get out - I can't do anything at a leisurely pace anymore. I always feel on the go and alert for anything that might be a danger to the kids, or any trouble that might be brewing.

Having said all that.... I LOVE BEING A MUM! And I wouldn't trade in my life for anything anyone could offer me

[Magic]

1. being the full time working partner, and having my DH enjoy all the moments with her.

2. learning without a manual.

3. SLEEP DEPRIVATION.

[Astrolady]

1 - Constant repeating when the kids want something, Mummy Drink Mummy Drink Mummy Drink every 10 seconds till I get it

2 - Having to get up again when you have just sat down cause the other kid then wants something

3 - Not being able to have a shower or go to the toilet in peace anymore

Thats all I can think off at the top of my head, apart from what is alredy mentioned.

Love

[{sarah}]

All of the above!

1) Not being able to sit down & do something for yourself like reading a book for more than 5mins.

2) Not getting any attention from friends as the baby is all they're interested in.

3) Having to freeze my bum off in the middle of the night to go & put the damn dummy back in LOL!

4) Definately sleep deprivation as well.

[Ambah]

1. Cooking special little meals for bubs, and having them refuse to eat even one bite ](*,)

2. Not knowing how to interact with adults properly anymore, or even talk about anything other than babies/children.

and I totally agree with all of the others - ESPECIALLY sleep deprivation (its a killer!), and body image too...

[Jen Schuster]

1. Sleep Depravation
2. Lack of self esteem and body image
3. Not being able to take the pain away when he is hurt or sick or teething
4. Having to return to work
5. Arguing with DH about silly little things cause we are tired and have a diminished sex life.

[nadia]

PMSL and ditto to everything said..........



1. NO SLEEP, (well not nearly enough) #-o

2. Knowing wether or not you're making the right decision. #-o

3. Sick and tires of screaming CONSTANTLY (seems that way sometimes)

4. Getting prettied up for DH, when you feel & look like sh*t!! #-o

5. No adult conversation-climbing the walls-so sick of kids shows!! #-o

[Debbie Lee]

1. No more spontaneity - everything has to revolve around the baby's naps, feeds and play times. Sometimes we miss out altogether!

2. Having someone rely on me 24/7. I found BFing difficult in the beginning because I wasn't used to being responsible for keeping someone alive! I don't mind it so much now tho.

3. Time to myself. I am very much a home-body and, previously, I used to spend entire days by myself just pottering around (until DH came home). Now there is always someone with me.

4. Not being able to go to bed when I want to. Some nights I could sooooo crash at 8pm but I can't because Gabby needs to wake up, have a play, have a bath, have a bottle and be put back in bed. Also, having to get up every single day when the baby decides it's time to get up. No more sleep-ins!

5. I miss my bourbon! While I can still have 1 or 2, I do miss having a bit to drink down at the pub then having a good ole dance. I also miss being able to let loose at parties and have a great time. Still, most of my friend's have babies too so, even if I could party, I would be doing it on my own!

[RUSERIOUS]

1. Haggling with my eldest. She has it over me, Im sure of it.

2. Not enough ''Me time''.

3. Being depended on 24/7. It's incredibly exhausting.

4. Having to think of others when I'm generally a fairly selfish person. [-X

5. Watching them grow up. Can't they stay little, dependant and exhausting forever despite the cons?