I try to accept that that is how my dad is feeling... but I just can't quite understand it. I know that he seems to fear death... on the same day my 3yo tried to hand an arum lily to him when were out in our garden and he stepped back away from it not wanting to even touch it... he said "haven't you heard that if you touch a Death Lily you will be touched by death itself?" meaning that you might not die but somebody you know will. This totally surprised me! I didn't think my dad was superstitous!!! I love arum lilies LOL I pick them all the time for the house. Seems my dad and I are on very different wave-lengths when it comes to death.