A couple years ago the JW's were visiting me and me alone every week.. They would up out the front of my house drop of thier little leaflet and make idle chatter.. I never invited them as I don't believe in walking door to door.. I don't buy like that either so its not a religeous thing...
Anyways they stopped visiting me unless they were doing the whole street but to be honest I usually just didn't answer the door.. rude I know but I didn't want the visits to start again
Anyways yesterday 8:15 am they turn up.. they parked across the street visited me for about 10 minutes then drove off?? Why??
Is anyone on here a JW? I can't just say please don't visit ect cus they are really nice people and are not pushy but i don't know why they keep coming to me... kwim?
I think what annoyed me the most was that i was in my pj's, hair a mess.. it wasn't even 8:30 and then they started talking to the kids and kept drawing them into conversation...
once at the shops one of the ladies came up to my DH and started asking questions about me.. Asking if I had had the baby (when I had DS3) and I don't know I just found it creepy..
Agh What do I do? Are they atrying to get me to come to thier church( is it a church?)
I have said I am not interested as I am catholic but not practicing.. but agh... I feel so mean cus they are so nice..
I'm not JH, but have you told them you are Catholic? When they come to my door I usually, respectfully, talk to them about what I believe and that I'm very happy with my faith (don't need a new one ). I've only had them two or three times here, and never the same people.
ETA: Sorry, mummy brain, didn't realise you had told them.
If you r still around in this thread sunflowa I just have a question. We haven't had any visits yet at our new place but at our old place we have visits a few times.
Just after Noah was born (he was less than a week old) we even had a sign on the door saying welcome home Noah. Anyway Phil answered the door to some jw's ages later he was still talking so I came to see who was at the door. We both told them we attend a pentecostal church every week, usually sunday morning and night and we are Christians and we run our churches Children's Department (children's church etc) Anyway knowing how young Noah is (they asked and commented on the sign) and the fact that we already believe in Jesus and God etc but are not JW's they still continued to give us stuff and talk away for ages and invite us to their church etc. Is this the policy of JW's??? It's just that I feel as we already accept Jesus and God in our lives any futher info and talking beyond this point was an attempt to convert us or bring new members into the church. I was also annoyed by the length of the chat given the age of our baby (the chat was approx 30mins)
I know it was my right to ask them to leave however I feel that most people feel uncomfortable asking someone to leave.
I have to say that it is interesting to find out why jw's believe in door knocking as I certainly don't and I also have to say that I don't agree with that interpretation of the scripture but of course would defend you right to interpret it that way. I believe that the effect of door knocking is much lower than what putting the same amount of time into meaningful relationship with ppl and just being normal and letting your life and who you are speak rather than handing out books etc.
I don't mean that to be hurtful or argumentative just wanted to offer my opinion in a respectful wayiykwim
I noticed this thread a little while ago and made me think of the JW's that come to our area.
I have no problem with them, and the particular woman that visits me is wonderful and very respectful.
there has been NO preaching, just short discussion, to the point of the message that they are bring/giving at that time (what ever is feature in the magazine) and thats it.
On morning on a weekend she came and could obviously see through the window that we were sitting down as a family for breakfast... she commented on it and said that she did want to keep me during family time. That was it, she offered me the magazine and then left.
Today she came and visited, i answered the door with MJ in my arms, she asked about how she was, noticed that she had a runny nose and asked if she was teething and gave her a big smile. She also mentioned the topic of the latest mag and then left it with me.
TBH, i couldnt consider adopting the JW faith as there are fundamental practices/beliefs that do not sit well with me, however i believe these people should be respected and also applauded for their faith and wanting to gently (as i have experienced) convert people and their incredible persistance
We have never broached the topic of converting, dont know if it will ever come it it. I dont always read the magazines, but i always take them and will always thank them for visiting and wish them a great day.
I think thats all that i wanted to say. Everyone is entitled to their own belief, i dont like God botherers (escuse the term aan i mean no offece to anyone) as in people that tell me what i must believe in or that i am doomed if i do not believe in something etc etc... i think that the JW's (or the ones in my area) have got a good balance of spreading the message, being persistant and friendly without being offensive or in your face.
I think that i am on 3-6mthly visits as MJ was born last time they visited... cant rememebr when thou.
To be honest, it depends on how tactful the person in question is. I tend to be very sensitive, perhaps overly, to when people want to stop talking. I would be more like the sister in SJ's comment - just get to the point, and move on. I have been out witnessing with some people, and I'll be standing there wishing them to stop talking because the householder obviously isn't interested!
I've found that it also depends on the ethnicity of the person visiting you - nothing against anyone here, I have simply noticed that certain ethnic groups are less 'socially aware', probably because of the different attitudes in different countries.
As I've said, we in no way take it personally when people say they aren't interested - frankly, we'd all be basket cases if we did!
And I don't find your comments hurtful or argumentative at all - I'm just as interested in listening to others beliefs as I am talking about mine!
Bec, if you ask them to send only women visitors to you, then they do! I only have female JWs visiting me, although I have met some of the chaps. But given your area I don't think men would accept your offer to come in anyway as it would look a bit suspect.
I think there are some really big differences between traditional Christianity and what the Bible does teach and it has been great to re-evaluate my faith with JWs and what I do believe. I don't agree with everything, as I have already stated, but it has helped me realise that I've been believing contradictory things all my life and figuring out what the Bible has to say on the subject, not just what the JWs (or the Anglicans) have to say.
I think it's really great the JWs let you evaluate your faith non-judgementally. Yes, they do believe what they are saying so they will put their PoV across, but never really pushing. I know full well if I came out with some of the questions to a vicar then I may not get such a loving reaction. But then, I'd get more understanding and sympathy with other questions from a vicar, so I guess it's good to have more than one source for Christian and Biblical discussion.
Hahah, it's nice to meet someone who doesn't want to be mean to us aussienic! It makes a refreshing change!
The reason they probably started a couple of years ago coming weekly is because you took some of the literature. We like to follow up on any interest shown, so we go back pretty regularly - for myself, I generally only go back every fortnight to start with. Some people are happy for it to stay at that level, others will ask for more regular visits, so I leave it up to them.
How long was the gap between when they stopped coming and yesterday? I'm thinking that the one who was calling on you may have been sick, or away etc. Then they've decided to come back and see how you're going.
We don't go to convert people, which is probably why they didn't stop when you said you were Catholic. Unfortunately, if you don't want any more visits, you will have to say that to them, otherwise they'll keep coming! But don't worry, we get a lot of abuse on a regular basis, and I'm sure you'll be nice
Sunflower girl.. Thanks for replying.. Like I said they are so friendly and nice but I am not interested...
We still got the occassional visit but usually when they were doing the street walk.. but the one on one visits stopped sometime last year..
I suppose if I rang the office/church (sorry not sure on terminolgy here) and ask if they take me off the list.. Would that work.. I can't do it face to face.. I would just feel mean
Is it ALL visits you want to stop, or are you okay if they only come when they're doing the street?
First one: You could ring, but I'm pretty sure they'll send a brother out to speak to you, mainly to make sure its not because you've had a very bad experience. From then on, 2 brothers will visit you once a year to see if you would like us to start visiting again or not.
Second one: If you just want the one-on-one visits to stop, you're going to have to tell the people who are regularly visiting. Don't worry, they won't be upset, it'll be fine! They would be more upset to find out they've been 'pushing' literature on you when you didn't want it!
I agree with SG.
We used to have JW's come witnessing where I used to live. I would thank them for their time but tell them I am not religious and that they didn't need to visit me anymore as I would seek out religion in my own time. Because there are loads of different groups that would witness (not the same people everytime) I had to do this a few times but eventually they stopped coming.
I really dislike door to door anything... TBH, anything that invades on my homelife I find annoying, as like you Nic, I am most likely to answer the door in my PJ's with bed hair.
SG: honestly I would want all visits to stop.. I am just not interested..
If you don't mind me asking.. why do you go door to door?
Lisa: I want to say that but I just can't.. I don;t know why because the ladies that do come by are so nice and I know they would ask why I don't want to be religeous anything but the answer is simply just don't want to... and I guess some people have a hard time understanding that
I actually used to have visits when living in sydney... my partner works wknds and they would visit when he wasnt home... i usually go to the door wit a screaming baby in my arms and they never spoke religon or anything they wanted to help me around the house mow the lawn fold washing do dishes anything to make my life easier they said.... i agreed to let them mow my front lawn they brang there own mower and whipper snipper- again i never let them come inside i wasnt comfortable cuz i was always hme wit dd... any way we live interstate now so havent seen them again
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