Wow, amazing how common this feeling/idea is amongst all of us
I kind of believe it, too. My aunty (dad's sister) was pregnant with her second child when my dear Poppy (her father) passed away from the same form of cancer that my Nanna had beaten just a few years before. I remember we had to delay the funeral for over a week as she lived in Brisbane (Nanna and Poppy were in Bundaberg) and was afraid to leave town so late in her pregnancy - she ended up going way overdue and then she and her family drove up the day after she discharged from hospital to farewell her father
And my own experience was finding out after MIL was killed that DD2 was conceived just 3 days before her death. DH and I had just made the decision to TTC and saw her on Sunday afternoon, I had thought about telling her we were trying again but didn't get a chance, and then just a few days later, she was gone I remember not drinking at the wake because I was concerned I might be pregnant, and sure enough, I was. Dating scans throughout the pregnancy confirmed the date of conception as that Sunday we last saw her alive... we had considered naming DD2 after her but we decided to leave that option open to BIL (who is her biological son, DH is her stepson).
Kind of freaky, but comforting in a way. It definitely makes me feel as though our loved ones are close by and watching over us.
Last edited by Glamourcide; October 25th, 2010 at 09:13 PM.
I have often thought this but never said anything as I didn't want to upset anyone in the family
My ds1 was 6 months when my sil who was 17 died of cancer also in November the day of my aunty went into remission from cancer n my sil always said if she could take it from her she would n literally I think she did..
1 month later I found out I was pregnant then when my 2nd da was 6 months my aunty passed from cancer on mothers day again one month later found out I was pregnant but lost it 6 weeks later
My nan died 2 yrs ago n I was pregnant n she told me that it was a girl I never knew at all that I was my nan raised me fir the first 7 yrs of my life she died 2 days later n I lost the baby the day of her funeral prob due to stress
I'm now preg wit a girl n it's due on my aunties bday my sil's anniversary 2 weeks after my nans anniversary
Ahh my nan was watching me and this thread i think... last night i had a dream she was talking to DD1, sitting on the end of her bed having a chat with her, i woke up and silence, then out of nowhere DD1 was 'chatting' to herself.. the dogs barked, scared her and she started screaming....
So i say "hello nan"
This happened when DD1 was little aswell, i dreamt nan was standing over her bassinet, i woke up looked and nothing was there, went back to sleep woke up again and DD1 was talking to herself and i am positive i 'saw' someone leave!
I do agree with the one person dies for another to be born. My Mum passed away in April this year and I got pg in July. I'm secretly hoping for a girl too for this reason, may sound odd or corny, but if we had a girl i would be convinced a bit of my Mum would be in her....IYKWIM?
I dont believe that it even has to be within a family. My god mother died of breast cancer I think and too this day i think that it was her leaving that allowed a special friend to fall preg after trying sooo many things. I thank her all the time and having her middle name im reminded of her everytime i have to give my full name. The fact her and i shared a fav colour and she was buried in a coffin of that colour makes our bond stonger.
tellytubby, We were very close, we lived with him for 15 years of my life, so a lot closer than most people would be to their grandparents I think.
No I don't feel his presence anymore. Not for almost two years now. I think he has moved on now, I don't feel that he is even in this world anymore, probably reborn into another.
Now I think about it when I was pregnant with DD my Pop died and now I am pregnant again DH's grandfather died a few weeks ago. When I was pregnant with DD I had a dream my Pop told me she was a girl and what her name was. I think it was an unfortunate coincidence that they died at that time but I like to think of them watching over my babies.
A thought about relatives dying after a baby was conceived but before birth (because I believe the soul is already there or atleast waiting at conception)..........
Maybe that relative is supposed to be the soul that guides the new soul (baby) into the world. I dont truly believe that anyone is ever alone at the time of birth or death. Some other soul is there to ease the transition, whether they are a relative or a 'stranger'.
Heaven - It took me a while to "click" who one earth you were talking about, but when it did... I literally l.o.l'ed. Hahaha! Nope, definitely wouldn't want to be related!!
Leasha - Living with a grandparent would definitely make you a lot closer.. I can only imagine the heartache you experienced when he passed. And to be soo close to popping also. Must have been stressful I loved reading your post. What religion are you, if you don't mind me asking? x
Zara - That's lovely She is still visiting you and your family.
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I loved reading your post. What religion are you, if you don't mind me asking? x
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