Brokenheart I'm so very sorry you are going through this. It is such a difficult time for both you and your partner. Like the girls have said previously men do grieve differently to us women at times like this. I know my DH was a mess with each of our losses. I couldn't understand why he was behaving the way he was but he told me eventually that he was hurting and it was killing him seeing me hurting so he needed to get away for a bit.

Please be gentle with yourself and your DP. You have both just suffered a loss and it takes time to heal both physically and emotionally. Whatever you do please do not blame yourself for what has happened. It isn't anyone's fault and blaming yourself doesn't help you heal. I'm sending you a massive